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CallaFirestormBW -> RE: my take on financial domination (9/22/2008 6:46:05 PM)
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ORIGINAL: mistressbadgirl
There is a great debate when it comes to the subject of Financial Domination. To some its veiwed simply as thievery( per a profile i read earlier) and/or prostitution(as read in many others). In MY opinionI believe those opinions give the submisive a way to top from the bottom.( for those that dont know what t In the true nature of submission, the submissive is required to be obidient and never question the desires of his Owner. Anytime the submissive is awarded the valuble time of a Dominant he/she should treat it as the honor it is. Gifts/tribute is only a way for a slave to show his appreciation for even being taken on as a submissive in the first place.
It's amazing how something that I believe in like leadership and domination can be phrased in such a way that it sounds... vile. First, I don't see any issue with a servant contributing to a household that xhe is a part of. I contribute to our household, my Darling contributes to our household, our grown girls who are living at home while in college and starting a business contribute to the household. It doesn't seem like a stretch that a servant would contribute as well.
In the same way, it doesn't seem outrageous to me that a professional would be paid for hir time... s-type or d-type, if a service is being provided, payment of some sort, in kind or otherwise, isn't an outrageous expectation.
I think that where I have problems is that somehow, a random d-type can presume that hir time is -so- valuable that xhe can -demand- tribute or money as if xhe were a royal setting out taxes for the pleasure of living in the same demesne.
I think I -also- have issue with the idea that an s-type should never question a d-type. I think that a healthy relationship, even with the most subservient of individuals, occasionally comes with questions, and a healthy d-type will take those questions in stride and deal with them both appropriately and decisively. A servant may be given a bit of leeway in areas where xhe proves capable, and that, too, will bring opportunities that may generate questions regarding a d-type's rules or questions. The capacity to evaluate and shape a household structure to the strengths of the s-types involved is one of the things that I think marks a skilled and astute d-type. A d-type who cannot handle questions from hir staff runs the risk of becoming staid and inflexible, and having a household that suffers by consequence.
In the last, I think that I disagree with the idea that an s-type should somehow be penalized for being accepted into a relationship. The idea that another person is somehow so diminished that my mere attention in hir direction should be paid for seems... unrealistic to me. Even for someone like myself, who actually -likes- having the completely docile, heavily managed, and needy s-type yielding to me, the idea that xhe should be cowed into paying for my mere consideration is... I'm sorry, but to me it is ridiculous... as ridiculous as expecting me to carry the entire burden of sustaining a household of 4, 5, or more people on one middle-class income, just because I'm the d-type and I "should be able to handle it" would be.
Calla Firestorm
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