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ORIGINAL: SlayerZ quote:
ORIGINAL: beargonewild quote:
ORIGINAL: SlayerZ I just think it's sad that subs/slaves feel like they have to underline and punch the fact that being a submissive doesn't equate to being a doormat. I think the very fact that subs/slaves feel like they have to make that very point says more about the standard, the expectation and the sheer manner of Doms that it does about them. I've read stories about subs here receiving personal messages from complete strangers (Doms) who are so abrupt and so rude and so very presumptuous, to the point where that I feel deeply embarrassed for them. It doesn't take a lot of energy to be nice and to be friendly and to attempt a foundation of something more substantial than "You are mine. Got it? Good. Now lick the dirt off my shoes, for I don't want to waste my brand new doormat" and for a Dom to initiate contact with a sub with the heading "Bow down and kiss my feet, for I am your master and you are my slave - You are nothing and I am everything. Your values, your worth as well as your very existence are in my hands" is really out of order, as well as clueless. Sure, I was paraphrasing, but you get the gist. In my view, I see that as plain rudeness and isn't exclusive to the world of D/s. I wouldn't be particularly inclined to argue with that. It does happen here a lot, though. I would even suggest that it happens on here more than any other D/s / BDSM site. From a personal point of view I've messaged a few subs on here and I've never received a reply. I can only interupt that as them saying "Oh god, not another self-important douchebag who wants me to be his sub after 2 messages" - Hell, I've even read a few profiles where subs actually say that. As a side note to this: being part of the LGBT community, that same type of attitude is quite common also. Which is why I don't see that type of rude exclusive to the BDSM community!
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