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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael This thread started as a discussion of why there are not "good" submissives, people who actually desire to submit. This wasn't a thread about "give a complete definition of how your dominance/submission works" Well, I originally decided I wasn't going to post on this thread, because I had to read up to page 5 before I found anyone that I thought understood what the OP was talking about... so many people came in with "I'm a submissive but not YOUR submissive", which I thought had zero to do with the OP, or subs talking disrespectfully, which also had nothing to do with the OP. If I read it correctly (and lord knows, I could be wrong), this was the gist of it: Dom: Your profile says "I'm a submissive, not a doormat", so what does that mean to you? Sub: Well, I'm not going to do what my Dom says, because that would make me a doormat, and I'm not going to do what my Dom wants me to just because he wants it, because that would make me a doormat. So, how exactly is that person a submissive? The dom has to be in control of SOME part of the relationship, right? The sub has to give control over to the dom for SOME part of it, right? As much as we disagree on terms, is that much universally believed to be true? Or can you be in a D/s relationship as a sub and be the one in control? Oy, my head hurts just trying to figure out how THAT could be. Cali I did not see any specifics like that in the OP. I saw someone complaining about what was on subs profiles. He said where are all the submissive submisives? Not I was talking to one and she said blah blah. I gave good advice to then move on to find one more suited and was met with "you're an idiot". So that was his disrespect. Yes, people got offended and rude after that but he opened himself up to those flames by his rudeness.
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