soul2share
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Joined: 12/18/2007 From: somewhere out there..... Status: offline
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Ash.....as a submissive, I actually had the term "not a doormat" in my profile at one time, and I continue to stress that when engaging in conversation with other doms. So, let me try to shed a bit of light on the whole issue, k? At least from my point of view...others may and will feel differently. When I stated that I was not a doormat, I meant it in the context of having a mind, and opinions, and the fact that while I will submit freely in every way to the one I choose to do so, I also have the expectation that I will NOT be simply stepped all over by said dom. I fully expect to be able to express myself at any time to said dom, no matter what the issue is. Of course, it is a given that it is done within the rules of our relationship, and with the knowledge that he will still have the final say, but if I am not allowed to let my thoughts known, then the realationship is doomed from the start. Contrary to what some folks think, the relationship is a two way street, and if a dom wants a happy sub, one willing to serve him in every way he wants, then he also has to be willing to listen to said sub. OK, well, at least that is my thinking on the subject.....and haven't had any issues over it with the doms that I have interacted with. Quite the contrary, a few have actually welcomed and encouraged conversations concerning this matter. Just my .05 worth.....
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I have to stop saying "How stupid can you be?"...people are starting to take it as a challenge! *Not a fuck was given.*
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