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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 11/16/2008 9:57:42 PM

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Owned, Your last statement kind of hit me. You should have never questioned your relationship or views to an outside source. What goes on between a Master and Slave is sacred. As some have said before, you had your answer straight from him when he said that he does not need to have sex with you. But you could not take that. In that way, I think he should be thinking of your loyalty.

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 11/30/2008 1:28:33 PM

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I was with a couple masters (not at the same time) and we did not have sex. It was on my mind, but I never pushed the issue...I hinted, but I am not one to really come out and be assertive..I always liked for them to tell me what to do. Anywho...is it more that you are wondering if you aren't worthy or are you sexually frustrated? I am not saying this to be rude, but is it more you are aching for sex?

I did not read yet if you discussed this with your master...but maybe a suggestion can be next time you are with him, bring a vibrator (if you have one). Incorporate it in the session and see where it goes from there...who knows, maybe he will find the urge to give you the sexual satisfaction instead of the vibrator. If you don't have one, I suggest you get it.....when used properly/used to using one, it will give you multiple orgasms...then who knows, maybe you won't care to have sex with him after using it.

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 11/30/2008 1:40:19 PM

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Five pages on this? My take...if you want/need to be fucked, tell him so (in a nice way of course). He either will or he won't. If he does and you like it, tell him so and ask if it can become a regular thing. If he doesn't, then decide if you can live without it. If you can't, move on. If you can but are still frustrated, find another way to relieve your sexual tension. Problem solved.

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 11/30/2008 5:38:13 PM

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... next time he falls asleep, gently suck his cock. When it gets hard, sit on it. If wakes up, tell him he is just dreaming.

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 11/30/2008 5:40:35 PM

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Yeah, that'll work too

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 12/1/2008 8:21:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: yournewaddiction

Owned, Your last statement kind of hit me. You should have never questioned your relationship or views to an outside source. What goes on between a Master and Slave is sacred. As some have said before, you had your answer straight from him when he said that he does not need to have sex with you. But you could not take that. In that way, I think he should be thinking of your loyalty.

I would hope this is a joke. Just because someone calls himself a master doesn't mean he's a good or honest person. In this case, being told to beg continually for something she has also been told she will never be good enough to get is not the sign of a good person. It's screwing with the op's sense of self in a bad way. She's constantly being told she's a failure because she doesn't merit what she's been begging for.

This dude doesn't deserve to be treated as sacred nor does he deserve her loyalty.

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 12/2/2008 6:36:53 PM

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men who don't need sex have not been invented, it is a biological function, regardless of the "some of us don't need sex" comments I read here. That's bull. If a man (or a woman) really has no desire for sex at all, ever, they need to see a doctor, because they're not functioning within their design parameters.

A biological function is not the same as a biological need. And the biological function of sex is, specifically, reproduction. Period. So you're wrong on that.

On top of that, the fact that a statistically significant minority of both sexes are voluntarily celibate proves conclusively people don't "need" sex. And roughly 1% of the population are asexual, in the sense of not having sexual desire at all- http://www.cnn.com/2004/TECH/science/10/14/asexual.study/index.html

So your claim that

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men who don't need sex have not been invented

is completely false and demonstratably so

On the OP, I don't really see the point in wild speculation about why your dom in question doesn't want to have sex (maybe he's an alien and they don't have sex on his planet!), simply because there isn't enough information to do so.

I don't think there's anything wrong with someone not wanting to have sex in their relationship. To each their own. I really don't see the need for moral outrage simply because someone's particular preferences are outside the norm. I think this thread shows that a lot of people have problems with anything completely outside their own experiences. And that's as true within the BDSM community as it is outside it.

However, the crucial point for me is when this was known. It's certainly unusual enough that it strikes me as something that needs to be discussed early on. (And I think there's a valid argument that was his responsibility to bring up, simply because of it being outside general expectations). If that was done, then yeah, fair enough. If not, then I think he's out of line.

It comes down to this for me. If you want/need penetrative sex in a relationship and he doesn't, you aren't compatible. Which is difficult, but I think is the case.

And hanging up the phone is just silly and immature.

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 12/3/2008 3:31:11 AM

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i only hope that you were able to work things out with your Master and you have both moved on from this issue... I think it goes to show how important communication is in this world. To all subs i say, try not to sugar coat things. Dont agree if you dont agree... try not to mislead people by giving them the impression that you are ok with something when you are not. It may be hard but learn to express how you feel without over-thinking things too much. Trust that you are on a journey and be honest with yourself and your Master from the start until the end... I believe it is the only way we can learn. And dont kick yourself to much if you dont get it right first time!

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 12/3/2008 4:00:21 AM

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my Master doesn't fuck me.

Come to me then and I'll gladly fuck you.

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 12/3/2008 6:13:26 AM

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... next time he falls asleep, gently suck his cock. When it gets hard, sit on it. If wakes up, tell him he is just dreaming.

Good Answer, ::claps hands just like on Family Feud::

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 12/5/2008 10:47:48 AM

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I think before embarking in any M/s relationship both sides should sit down and honestly discuss the limitations on both sides and stick to them.

Owned, you did nothing wrong in posting your original question - if problems arise or issues your first port of call should always be to your Owner.

If during the course of a relationship the limits change or alter without discussion and agreement - and are found not to be acceptable then one or both parties should call it a day and move on

I do hope in your case owned that things can be sorted out with your Owner

Spiritus

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 12/5/2008 1:51:48 PM

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my Master doesn't fuck me.

Come to me then and I'll gladly fuck you.

damn, i wish someone would give me an offer like that one. do you know how hard it is just getting laid these days? when i was looking for a long-term relationship, the guys i tended to attract were the ones who only wanted me for the sex; now that i'm just looking for the beat and fuck sessions, no one is coming around!

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 12/5/2008 1:55:21 PM

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damn, i wish someone would give me an offer like that one. do you know how hard it is just getting laid these days? when i was looking for a long-term relationship, the guys i tended to attract were the ones who only wanted me for the sex; now that i'm just looking for the beat and fuck sessions, no one is coming around!

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 12/5/2008 2:11:46 PM

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You say you're upset because mnaster doesn't fuck you, "ass or cunt", you don't say wether he uses your mouth. Does he?, Does he experience, an erection at any time during your sessions together?" Could it be he has an ED problem, and is not telling you? If he is dysfunctional in that way, he may be very sensitive about talking about it. I this doesn't apply, sorry, but I tried...
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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 12/5/2008 8:47:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

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my Master doesn't fuck me.

Come to me then and I'll gladly fuck you.

damn, i wish someone would give me an offer like that one. do you know how hard it is just getting laid these days? when i was looking for a long-term relationship, the guys i tended to attract were the ones who only wanted me for the sex; now that i'm just looking for the beat and fuck sessions, no one is coming around!

You need to present yourself on my doorstep.... WEG RWL

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 12/15/2008 1:05:22 PM

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I don't think that there is anything wrong with you. Some guys are just not "into" it.

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 12/15/2008 2:45:46 PM

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Jesus. This thread is intense!

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 12/15/2008 4:14:32 PM

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I could never deal with someone who wouldnt fuck me. 5 times a year was a sexless marriage. I am much happier now and a proud and well used slut!

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 12/16/2008 5:47:46 PM

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Perhaps if you ask of him to allow others to use you sexually, there could be a balance. Not all Dominants see there Dominance as a sexual trait, they see it only in the mental aspect of controlling one. Possibly he is of the nature, that he would enjoy seeing you used sexually by others. Possibly not as a sexual act for him, but more of a surrendering to his will. Perhaps he could screen other Doms/Masters that would , as they say put you thru the paces. Allowing you some type of release in sexual fullfillment, and possibly meeting a voyeristic tendency he may have. There are many scenario's possible for you to think out. And if nothing works. Then it may be indeed time for you to move on. Being a fullfilled submissive/slave means that all your needs are met as well, if not , then you are indeed with the wrong One.

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RE: my Master doesn't fuck me. - 12/17/2008 4:36:37 PM

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I love how we are still commenting and giving advice. I'm pretty sure since her Master clearly disliked her being on here, she isn't visiting or frequenting anymore.

And also, I'm iffy on you guys telling her to confront him about his ED. I mean, what if he gets violent about it? She's fucked, as she clearly worships this guy. I dunno...

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