hopelesslyInvo
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Joined: 2/10/2008 From: the future Status: offline
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i like names, names have impact to me, not titles. the only time i refer to someone in such a way is if their name is not known to me, and even then i'm more likely to simply gesture to them so they're aware of who i am addressing and beginning my conversation with something that doesn't include an unnecessary name or a title like 'excuse me' or just saying 'hello'. otherwise, i use what seems to be the safest word, 'miss'. if people have something they prefer to go by, i might alter my habits, but it's a hit and miss case by case basis of how i interact with people. i try to exercise common courtesy, but only when the courtesy is 'common', and the request is not discourteous to me, for example, i pretty much refuse to refer to anyone as goddess, simply because it's asinine and makes me feel like an idiot to say. to me, saying mistress michelle every time i speak to a person seems just as stupid as saying manager bob or waitress susan or lawyer kinley everytime i address those people. it feels like forced broken english, and like i said, names have impact to me, not titles. saying things like 'yes mistress alice ma'am' just sounds so phony and insincere to me.
< Message edited by hopelesslyInvo -- 10/9/2008 5:13:02 AM >
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