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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 3:09:20 PM

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From what I've read here, this is sooooooo NOT a M/s relationship!

What this appears to be is an insecure bully and a basket case. The insecure bully is taking advantage of someone that needs counseling more than a master. The bully is having fun playing with all the shit in the basket. The basket is so rattled and messed up it cannot see the totally fucked up reality of the situation.

Really Nani, you need to see a counselor and, at the VERY LEAST, put this guy on hold until you can deal with slavery, and him, in a manner that is actually healthy for you. I think you will find that you want a master, not an immature bully.

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 3:10:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: HisNani

I need help...I'm so scared.

YOU SHOULD BE! REALLY. DEEPLY. FUCKING. TERRIFIED.

quote:

I love him...I'm unwaveringly devoted to him. And I'm trying so very very very hard to please him.

I don't even trust myself...

Trust the part of you that is scared. You did VERY will with the boy you cut off contact with. You held your ground, you were civil, but you did what you needed to do, cut off contact.

However, you make bad choices and this (insert mod 16 approved expletive here) is another abusive lover. You are RIGHT to fear him. He may be better than your past boyfriends but you aren't there yet.

Lets look a this from another angle.

If beating you in a way intended to play on your PTSD AND to shave your head, something that will impact your appearance for months is what he does when you achieve the INTENT of his orders if not perhaps some of the smaller details.

What exactly is he going to do when you make an actual mistake? Cut off an ear? Saw off an arm? I mean come on woman!

You would be better off with a rattlesnake as a boyfriend, they only kill you if you step on them, this guy is going to kill you for breathing.

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 3:14:29 PM

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Just a silly question on my part, your Master is pissed off at you for speaking to a guy and allowing the guy to speak badly of him, he is going to punish you on this because he feels you as his slave have insulted him. And so, you turn around and post this on a public message board, to allow people to further speak badly of him? This is what you have learned from his disappointment and irritation and yes, anger with you?

If you are that terrified of what he is going to do you have a simple action you can take, if you are unwilling to speak to him but are willing to have strangers evaluate him for you, you can --- pick up the phone and tell him not to show up. Then if you get voicemail, text him and email him the same information.

Pretty much you have turned right around and did exactly what he was upset with you about in the first place, putting yourself in a position, no let me rephrase, INSTIGATING, the ability for others to speak badly about him. So did you really HEAR him or listen to him or even remotely understand what it is he is upset with you about? Seems to me no -- so some reflection on your part may be a good thing to do at this time.

To me, the best thing for you to have done was, put the guy on block and told your Master about it when it was convenient and then if your Master decided you should speak to him, he would let you know. Its not up to you to do an endrun around your MAster's demand, which is exactly what you did.

To me, if you are that terrified, you would 1) be telling this to the Man you call Master before he got there, and 2) if he insisted on it was going to happen and if you were that terrified and you are bringing up PTSD etc, you would tell him not to come, not posting on a message board asking for "help," wherein any logical person would presume that people will at some point speak badly about the Man you choose to call Master.

Good luck, but to me, you should be telling this to your Master, reflecting on what he HAS told you and why he is not happy, not turning right around and allowing people to do what exactly what he is pissed off at you about in the first place.

Sorry this sounds cold, but seems to me there is a little too much drama here, too much of the same actions from the OP with regard to the Man, and perhaps too little listening on her part while demanding all the listening on his. Something tells me this probably isn't the first time and the drasticness of the punishment could be reflecting that on some level.

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 3:17:17 PM

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OK....the OP is a 21 year old switch who's involved in an abusive relationship with her Master.....who doesn't even live in the same state........who won't let her speak to ex's because she can't define boundaries for herself....yet her profile says that she is actively seeking Dominant women, submissive women and switch women.....and her profile photo is a professional porn picture. Seriously......

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 3:18:50 PM

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In my opinion, a good master isn't one that wants to deliberately break their toys. He's not looking out for your best interests, using your behavioral health history to punish you is beyond not okay. My advice would be to block his ass. And run. Get therapy. Get better.

exactly.
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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 3:40:17 PM

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I fear that because of your bounderies problem this is not going to end well and you need to seek our friends to help you through this. All of this has been great advice and yes I agree with everyone. He sounds abusive but seeing as though you can't even stop talking to some guy off the net how are any of these people thinking you can seperate yourself from the man you love or fear or whatever it is you feel about this man? Yes if you can end it, do it. At least stop him from coming up until you can get your head around it and think about how you want to resolve this. Living in this type of fear from a man who is in control oif you in very unhealthy. My advice is stop him from coming up, talk more on the phone with him, discuss this abusive behavior of his and if he cannot give a sound reason for it distance yourself.

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 3:44:23 PM

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He is not a Dom he is an abuser block him and get away from him quickly. Tell him you will not accept the punishment then do not contact him again. Change you phone number if you have to.

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 3:45:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

OK....the OP is a 21 year old switch who's involved in an abusive relationship with her Master.....who doesn't even live in the same state........who won't let her speak to ex's because she can't define boundaries for herself....yet her profile says that she is actively seeking Dominant women, submissive women and switch women.....and her profile photo is a professional porn picture. Seriously......

Lord have mercy. When am I going to learn to remember to read profiles first.

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 3:49:54 PM

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She also just joined three days ago and her profile is asking people to contact her. I would think based on what her story is here, she wouldn't be actively telling people to contact her. Just my take on it.

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 4:00:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

OK....the OP is a 21 year old switch who's involved in an abusive relationship with her Master.....who doesn't even live in the same state........who won't let her speak to ex's because she can't define boundaries for herself....yet her profile says that she is actively seeking Dominant women, submissive women and switch women.....and her profile photo is a professional porn picture. Seriously......

Lord have mercy. When am I going to learn to remember to read profiles first.

me too, though, i doubt i would have changed my advice. he sounds like he is on a power trip. then again, we only have part of the story

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 4:07:01 PM

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I think you fucked up bigtime and now you're going to pay the price. You KNEW you were doing the wrong thing, but did it anyhow. I think the lesson you're going to learn will be very valuable for you and will keep you in line for a LONG time.

If you're not ready to learn, it's up to you to call it off. Tell your Master you refuse his punishment. If he doesn't work with you to resolve the matter another way, you may have to ask for release. (And if you don't get it, you could very well need to threaten to take out a restraining order and so forth.)

You entered into a M/s relationship, disobeyed a direct order, and now you're crying "abuse". Grow up.

EDIT: I agree with barelynangel in that anyone posting sympathy for this troll has been tricked. This thread should be deleted.

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 4:18:35 PM

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seems like i got in your head huh? laura, you arnt safe with him !!!!

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 4:30:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: MasterofKyttyn
seems like i got in your head huh? laura, you arnt safe with him !!!!

wtf?

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 4:32:47 PM

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hmmm

seems someone knows more than the rest of us

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 4:58:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: NormalOutside

I think you fucked up bigtime and now you're going to pay the price. You KNEW you were doing the wrong thing, but did it anyhow.

You entered into a M/s relationship, disobeyed a direct order, and now you're crying "abuse". Grow up.

This is what I am thinking as well. Forget all the he said, I did, he didnt tell me, I couldnt reach him crap- Bottom line is he said to not chat with these people and she did so anyway. She makes it a point to say she doesnt know how to set boundaries for herself, found herself a Man who did so, and then complains about it.

Though Im surprised to read she is 21. The OP sounds much younger.

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 5:17:26 PM

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Okay, let's recap.

1. Old flame contacts.
2. OP does nothing, because Master told her not to talk to them.
3. Master asks, "why didn't you tell her to leave you alone?"
4. OP says, "because you told me not to talk to her."
5. Master then finds reason to punish her, "you should have asked me what to do."

Um, yeah. She did what she was told and got punished. He never told her to do anything differently.

6. Another old flame contacts her.
7. This time, she tells them to leave her alone, and she is proud because she thought she did the right thing.
8. She gets punished again.

Don't you think the MASTER should have made it clear, somewhere during all this time, EXACTLY what she was supposed to do should this come up again? Whether that is to ask him, to block them, whatever... sure doesn't sound like he did that.

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 5:19:11 PM

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if he's exploiting the PTSD, that's unhealthy.
run away.

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 5:31:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: NormalOutside

I think you fucked up bigtime and now you're going to pay the price. You KNEW you were doing the wrong thing, but did it anyhow. I think the lesson you're going to learn will be very valuable for you and will keep you in line for a LONG time.

If you're not ready to learn, it's up to you to call it off. Tell your Master you refuse his punishment. If he doesn't work with you to resolve the matter another way, you may have to ask for release. (And if you don't get it, you could very well need to threaten to take out a restraining order and so forth.)

You entered into a M/s relationship, disobeyed a direct order, and now you're crying "abuse". Grow up.

EDIT: I agree with barelynangel in that anyone posting sympathy for this troll has been tricked. This thread should be deleted.

Dude, are you in any way suggesting that the (insert mod 16 approved insult here) in question is NOT abusive? I am just not sure which lesson exactly you are refering to and before I rip you a new asshole, I want to make sure I have it right.

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 5:47:38 PM

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The title of Your Post describes it all...Your Dom/Master is the one you should trust the most and have NO FEAR of terror EVER with... You need To HELP YOURSELF- and get out ASAP. Luckily for you Geography makes that easy. You are getting good advice on this message board.

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RE: Please Help Me...I'm terrified - 11/6/2008 5:50:07 PM

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Califchick,

I understand what you are trying to surmis but she didn't do what he told her to do the second time, even you yourself posted what he told her to do initially:

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Master then finds reason to punish her, "you should have asked me what to do."

She didn't do that she instead decided what she wanted to do and in many way it put her in a spot of trouble by one having to deal with the guy, having to listen to him spout crap about her Master, and feel guilty because she blocked him. From what i understand from her post she was blocked from these people for her own mental health. She didn't LIKE the order, but that doesn't mean she does endruns around her Master's orders and then makes the excuses instead of listening to what he said to do,

She didn't HAVE to reply, she could have just left it alone until she could speak to her Master, as he told her she should do. She wanted to talk tothe guy and well she did. She used wrong rationale in deciding doing the opposite of what she did before was the correct concept, because she didn't listen or learn the first time he punished her. Her Master however, told her what to do in the situation and it wasn't do the opposite of what she did here. Plain and simple, she didn't listen. Now she is screaming terror on a public message board, pretty much spouting she loves this guy but putting him in the same position he got pissed at her in the first place -- listening to people bitch at and about him.

Hi Michael, DoYOU really know if he is being abusive, i am presuming no you, just as everyone is following the stage act and only know a dramatic version of her side of the story. For all we know, he constantly threatens her with harsh punishments and she freaks out and he never follows through. And she usually calls her gf's or her chatroom buddies but now she found this cool new place where she can get this attention. I am sorry but someone this terrified would not be setting up new profile a couple days ago, with hey everyone contact me on a personals site after the Man she claims is exploiting her PTSD and telling people to do exactly what is getting her in trouble in the first place -- CONTACT with people. She wouldn't be on a public message board posting this about her Master after acknowledging that part of his issue with what she did was allow someone to speak badly about him.

angel

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