CatdeMedici
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I am sure much of what I am going to say has been said, but here is My humble .02: first, I think it is the nature of Americans today to bitch, whine and complain-about something--if its raining they want sun, if its sunny ots too hot---they just gripe about something. It takes real effort to have just one day with out a gripe--so that I believe is a starting point--when there is nothing or no place to let out a gripe, people come here. Now given that--I think males come here thinking if they say they are submissive, Dominas will just roll over, run right to them, collar them and winkies are all satisfied. To realize that building a relationship takes the same sort of work in this life as it does out there is a rude awakening ( and that goes for any D/s mix here). I believe Lady P made a very good point too that again crosses M/f, F/m--this lifestyle for many does not equate to loose or no morals or values--a good flogging for Me does not equate to anyone getting laid let alone any type of sexual intimation. People today are looking for a quick fix, a quick cure, a shortcut to some kind of nirvana or an escape from responsibilities. It's no different when they walk through our hallowed doors. And I don't think that practice is limited only to F/m but runs the spectrum as well. I personally read posts from people I can learn from or from those who I have watched face adversity head on and succeed--THOSE people had the right to whine and never did and I can assure you they don't out there. Just because this is not the norm does not mean that when they get sprinkled with the fairy dust of Ds they are going to be any different--and as long as people allow it to happen it will. PT Barnum said there is a fool born every minute, sometimes in here, I think its every milisecond!
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