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Needing some advice on things. - 12/2/2008 10:27:09 AM   
Sakone


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Status: offline 		Hello I am Sakone, my real name is Kyle. I am a dom, that has learned a small amount from a dom in the past in person. I often give advice, and find it hard for me to take my own at times. I am looking for maybe some books, or advice on how to aid me in my learning. I am young this I know, and I know I want to be a dom. I have a sub that wishes to learn with me, and wish to be the best I can.
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RE: Needing some advice on things. - 12/2/2008 10:39:01 AM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		Here's a short list of books.  You can find lots more on Amazon.com.
 
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism: Philip Miller, Molly Devon
The Loving Dominant: John Warren
The Topping Book: Or, Getting Good at Being Bad: Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt
Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual: Christina Abernathy
Training with Miss Abernathy: Christina Abernathy


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RE: Needing some advice on things. - 12/2/2008 10:46:32 AM   
slaveforsure


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Status: offline 		Two others:
                Different Loving- Gloria Brame
                Sensuous Magic- Patrick Califia

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RE: Needing some advice on things. - 12/2/2008 10:52:14 AM   
Sakone


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Status: offline 		Thank you to the both of you. I am happy that someone has answered this to aid me. 

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RE: Needing some advice on things. - 12/2/2008 10:56:21 AM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		You're welcome.  Just take your time and have fun.  Learning about each other is half the enjoyment.

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RE: Needing some advice on things. - 12/2/2008 11:01:56 AM   
Sakone


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Status: offline 		I have been having fun learning, and at times when punishments happen, I think I baby often with the aloe going on, even when there is no cuts, and is only a slightly dark shade of red. 

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RE: Needing some advice on things. - 12/2/2008 12:04:18 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		Don't forget the Vitamin E.  It's good for softening and healing skin.

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Shadow Governess & Mean Girl
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RE: Needing some advice on things. - 12/2/2008 12:45:43 PM   
Sakone


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Status: offline 		I haven't forgotten about that either also put some cocobutter on as well.

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RE: Needing some advice on things. - 12/2/2008 7:05:08 PM   
MasterTslave


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Status: offline 		Try looking up best slave training on google...some great advice on there...and it is free :)

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RE: Needing some advice on things. - 12/2/2008 9:13:40 PM   
porcelain26


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Status: offline 		Along with The Topping Book, I recommend The Bottoming Book by the same authors. It gives killer insight into a sub's head and might help a lot...when I read the books, I got more out of reading The Topping Book than I did The Bottoming Book for this exact reason.

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RE: Needing some advice on things. - 12/2/2008 10:02:07 PM   
Sakone


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for your help.

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RE: Needing some advice on things. - 12/3/2008 7:33:12 AM   
MadRabbit


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Status: offline 		I would figure out what exactly being a dominant means to you and what your own lifestyle is all about. Is it about having a power based relationship where you hold the authority over your intimate partners life? Is it about a series of scenes involving S/M? Is it about adding a fantasy or roleplaying element to an egalitarian relationship?

Once you can answer that, then you can figure out what books to read and what information to look for. I suggest "reading everything" with a grain of salt, because everything is different and you will end up with a whole mesh of confusing ideas about what this "lifestyle" is about that aren't consistent with each other.

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RE: Needing some advice on things. - 12/3/2008 7:52:11 AM   
SimplyMichael


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ORIGINAL: Sakone

Hello I am Sakone, my real name is Kyle. I am a dom, that has learned a small amount from a dom in the past in person. I often give advice, and find it hard for me to take my own at times. I am looking for maybe some books, or advice on how to aid me in my learning. I am young this I know, and I know I want to be a dom. I have a sub that wishes to learn with me, and wish to be the best I can.


I am curious to know what problems you are seeking to overcome, without that recommending books to help seems rather pointless.

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