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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/26/2008 9:31:00 AM

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Sorry, but this is sheer laziness. I just typed in the words "penile" and "bondage" on Google and got 987,000 results. If not one of these results is what you are looking for, the dominas on CM are unlikely to be of much use to you.

I think you just made his point. If you get 978,000 results, do you want to wade through all of them with no guidance, or does it make sense to ask experienced people for suggestions?

You actually think the people on these boards are trustworthy and who they say they are? That our advice is safe? That we've actually done all the things we talk about? Are the gender and inclination we state we are in our profiles? The other posters on these boards don't know me from a hole in the ozone, so why would my advice be of any value? I have a lovely piece of real estate just opposite the Golden Gate Bridge that I'd like to sell you. I can send you photos; no need to visit.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/26/2008 9:46:17 AM

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I don't use too many devices when it comes to CBT. I mostly just stick to gentle stepping and squeezing while sitting on their face.Clothespins work nicely too.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/26/2008 10:16:51 AM

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Go to a Lifestyle convention that does demos. I learned a lot about ball busting at one... Greatly enjoyed exploring the techniques that were shown. Can't wait to learn more and try new things when I get to take my sweet little Westie with me next time.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/26/2008 4:20:44 PM

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Whenever a sub or playmate of mine wants to try something new that I have never done, I take it upon *myself* to learn the skill, rather than send someone else out to find information.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/26/2008 4:34:45 PM

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Whenever a sub or playmate of mine wants to try something new that I have never done, I take it upon *myself* to learn the skill, rather than send someone else out to find information.

Nice point. I would be inclined to tell a Domina that the best way to cause pain, is treat it oh so gently for a while, until I start moaning.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/26/2008 4:39:24 PM

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Whenever a sub or playmate of mine wants to try something new that I have never done, I take it upon *myself* to learn the skill, rather than send someone else out to find information.

Nice point. I would be inclined to tell a Domina that the best way to cause pain, is treat it oh so gently for a while, until I start moaning.

See! Helpful hints are everywhere!

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/26/2008 7:38:10 PM

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I still think a sharp, verbal barb from the right forked tongue directed at my C hurts the best.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/26/2008 7:43:54 PM

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Sorry, but this is sheer laziness. I just typed in the words "penile" and "bondage" on Google and got 987,000 results.

Perhaps that's why he asked here, where a real person can give a real answer?
Sorry, but your post is sheer rudeness.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/26/2008 7:51:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: Venatrix
Sorry, but this is sheer laziness. I just typed in the words "penile" and "bondage" on Google and got 987,000 results.

Perhaps that's why he asked here, where a real person can give a real answer?
Sorry, but your post is sheer rudeness.

I already explained above why any SM advice posted on these boards is potentially worthless. But perhaps you aren't able to handle that much reading in one go? Clearly, you speak from ignorance regarding the femdom/malesub dynamic. We get inundated for requests for technique from male subs on behalf of purported mistresses just so that they can get their jollies. If we don't feel like feeding their need, it is our prerogative to say so. In closing, I've read some of your other posts. You are in no position to lecture someone else on the topic of rudeness.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/26/2008 10:51:39 PM

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Trolls never go hungry around here.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/26/2008 10:57:59 PM

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Sorry, but this is sheer laziness. I just typed in the words "penile" and "bondage" on Google and got 987,000 results.

Perhaps that's why he asked here, where a real person can give a real answer?
Sorry, but your post is sheer rudeness.

I already explained above why any SM advice posted on these boards is potentially worthless. But perhaps you aren't able to handle that much reading in one go? Clearly, you speak from ignorance regarding the femdom/malesub dynamic. We get inundated for requests for technique from male subs on behalf of purported mistresses just so that they can get their jollies. If we don't feel like feeding their need, it is our prerogative to say so. In closing, I've read some of your other posts. You are in no position to lecture someone else on the topic of rudeness.

Hey, you needed to be told, so you were. :)

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/26/2008 11:11:31 PM

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I might suggest, NormalOutside, that if you feel the approach by the Dommes who have participated in the thread has been the wrong one, you could rectify the situation by providing the information that the OP requested.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/26/2008 11:33:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

Sorry, but this is sheer laziness. I just typed in the words "penile" and "bondage" on Google and got 987,000 results. If not one of these results is what you are looking for, the dominas on CM are unlikely to be of much use to you.

I think you just made his point. If you get 978,000 results, do you want to wade through all of them with no guidance, or does it make sense to ask experienced people for suggestions?

You actually think the people on these boards are trustworthy and who they say they are? That our advice is safe? That we've actually done all the things we talk about? Are the gender and inclination we state we are in our profiles? The other posters on these boards don't know me from a hole in the ozone, so why would my advice be of any value? I have a lovely piece of real estate just opposite the Golden Gate Bridge that I'd like to sell you. I can send you photos; no need to visit.

Sorry, but the response above appears to be barking up the wrong tree. Why should the OP care about any of that stuff, when all he's asking for is suggestions on good information resources? Perhaps the OP needs revisiting. Here it is, with emphasis added:

"My Mistress would like to explore CBT with me. Is there a good resource for learning bondage techniques? She is especially interested in leather laces and bounding my cock and balls and then attaching a long leash she can yank when I misbehave or when she needs attention. I have been directed to research this topic and hoped someone might be able to provide some input."

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/27/2008 12:10:29 AM

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So, hardbody, you are basically reiterating for the OP that the post was created by being less than truthful to begin with.

I'm sorry, but some of these posts are created as nothing more than fishing expeditions by folks who want something to <cough> inspire certain urges for fantasy material or worse, things they have decided they want to attempt on themselves. I would absolutely put some forms of play as potentially dangerous for someone to attempt without a decent amount of knowledge. That is even more of a concern if it's a possibility that someone is doing it alone.

When I sought out more information on this type of play, I went to sources that I knew were more experienced than Myself, who I had watched play in public settings. I asked for written materials when there were demos given that I couldn't attend, and I spoke with the people who I knew gave presentations on the subject. I asked the safety questions just as much as I asked the technique questions. When both aren't present, I tend to think it is either an irresponsible Top or a bottom who is just looking for a thrill.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/27/2008 1:27:12 AM

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CBT techniques can be self-taught.

Apply clothes pegs, shoe lace, tie them up, drip wax on them, slapping oneself on the knackers lol.

So simple CBT techniques can be experienced on oneself, before all the weights, urethra sounds and electrics come into play

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/27/2008 3:58:09 AM

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This is just too funny,
you can find online how to make bombs, how to kill yourself, and all the rest people want to know, but no, one cant tell about cbt !
just too ferkin funny !!!!

enjoy !

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/27/2008 5:04:34 AM

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Absolutely can...... through google.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/27/2008 7:12:11 AM

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For many years, I was a sub/masochist, enjoying very severe CBT. I met a woman, who really wanted to be a Domme, and had the desire to learn all about CBT and other pain induceing activities. She did search the internet, and read all sorts of books. I had lots of experience and tried to show her some techniques (I almost said show her the "ropes"), but all the teaching did distract from the scene. Our best "learning" experience was when I scheduled a scene with a local ProDomme, who agreed to "teach" her how to really torture and torment C&Bs. I was blind folded, and had sound blocking headphones put on my ears, so that they could talk and discuss the proper torture methods. It was a wonderful scene for me, and in a couple of hours, she learned much of what she need to know. And after she learned the proper techniques, I can tell you that I have never met a woman who so thouroughly enjoyed CBT.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/27/2008 9:23:12 AM

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ORIGINAL: Venatrix
Sorry, but this is sheer laziness. I just typed in the words "penile" and "bondage" on Google and got 987,000 results.

Perhaps that's why he asked here, where a real person can give a real answer?
Sorry, but your post is sheer rudeness.

I already explained above why any SM advice posted on these boards is potentially worthless. But perhaps you aren't able to handle that much reading in one go? Clearly, you speak from ignorance regarding the femdom/malesub dynamic. We get inundated for requests for technique from male subs on behalf of purported mistresses just so that they can get their jollies. If we don't feel like feeding their need, it is our prerogative to say so. In closing, I've read some of your other posts. You are in no position to lecture someone else on the topic of rudeness.

Hey, you needed to be told, so you were. :)

You determined she needed to be told her response (s) are rude and I am sure that you really believe that coming from where you are standing, but from where many of us are standing... your response seemed rude to me. You have no idea what we get every single day in email and it is clear you don't spend enough time on the mistress board to see or understand how some wish to toy, use and manage us with their kinky needs for information. We typically have no problem in answering even the most kinky request for informations yet there are some things that red flag us and in this thread, there certainly was that. Until you walk in our heels... you might consider that we might have a point or reason that you cannot see from that or our point of view. There was more than one domina that responded similarily.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/27/2008 11:22:42 AM

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GoddessTeaze wrote:
This is just too funny, you can find online how to make bombs, how to kill yourself, and all the rest people want to know, but no, one cant tell about cbt !

And it's rather hard to tell whether any given advice on how to make bombs is also advice on how to get yourself killed. Likewise, it's rather hard to tell whether advice that somebody might give here on how to do CBT is also advice on how to get yourself hurt. In the bad way, I mean. Since, you know, hurting is kinda the point.

If you feel that it's appropriate to give advice about CBT here and you have such advice to give, go ahead.

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