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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 1:22:56 PM

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It would take me over an hour to list all the penile bondage techniques with which I'm familiar and I can't think of a reason why I should take that much time out of my day.

Well if you don't care enough to answer then you should not have cared enough to reply. Why do you waste your 'valuable time' smashing him around just because he asked a question ??? It is a open forum, he had a question and he asked. If you think it is stupid then 'pass', if you think it is worth your 'valuable time' then answer it.

Apparently you have difficulty in grasping the very thing you write about: It *is* an open forum and I responded in that manner because I chose to do so. If you don't like my posts, please feel free to block them. And, exactly, who the hell are you to tell me what I should or shouldn't have done? Are you the owner of these boards? No? Then it's not your decision as to what people "should" post.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 1:31:12 PM

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I didn't see anyone get bashed because they asked a question. This thread was never that simple! He got bashed for all the reasons that were clearly indicated from page one, post two and onward. To suggest that it is unfair to bash people, some of you are doing a very fine job of it.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 2:05:38 PM

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*pops head into topic and looks about at the carnage...deposits a large box of baby bunnies and kittens on the floor - one for each nasty response contained herein - and let's them loose in the topic...*

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EDIT: So... my Lady was on my comp here on CM and I did not see it...this was actually posted by Ottersswim...

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 2:08:30 PM

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..der...dat's mo'betta...

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 2:45:00 PM

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Just to rebute that latest attacks, I said we were not interested in buying "products". When you go out to google this topic, most all of the hits send you to places that sell cock rings, gates of hell, ball stretchers, humblers, and parachutes. That wasn't the request and I am not against buying books if that will answer the query. We were looking for rope techniques. Not too long ago someone had asked a question about strap-ons and it got a tremendous response with very informative comments and feedback. I even remember someone named Diane having a web site on the topic. I really thought that was all I was doing. Until now, I have been in awe of this site. And not that it matters, nor can I prove my honest intentions, but this was a sincere inquiry from someone still learning about the lifestyle.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 3:10:49 PM

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I just saw MummyMan's electrical tape idea. Would you believe my 'not so vanilla anymore' husband suggested something similar? He suggested that I duct tape the testicles to the upper thigh while teasing and torturing for a bit. Then rip it off. Not on HIS nuts mind you... just a suggestion for someone ELSE'S family jewels. I haven't tried that. I'm somewhat afraid that the duct tape would grip a bit to strongly and tear some delicate flesh.

Sadly I was in another part of the campground when my partner and another friend let the friends girl friend go at them with the duct tape... My mate got off easier as he was well shaved, the other guy...not so much. But it still gets mentioned whenever we are around anyone from that event...which was Not a kink event, lol! I can attest to the fact that it didn;t slow his sex drive that weekend or cause any obvious trauma :)

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 3:15:43 PM

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LOL... sounds like a kodak moment or at least in hearing range!

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 3:23:08 PM

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Take a length of rope. Starting at the base of the cock wrap the rope around it all the way to the tip. DO NOT tie the rope to the dick. Take the end of the rope in your hand and pull....hard. The look on the boys face will be priceless and you don't need expensive equipment to play.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 3:32:42 PM

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Okay, Usako, that's fair enough. I'll make you a deal: When you've spent thousands of dollars, like I have, on toys, books, and classes, and taken dozens of hours of your personal time to become the very best domina you know how, like I have, we will look forward to seeing you post lengthy replies on these boards, detailing every bit of information that new submissive male posters come on the boards asking for. The emails will probably take you an hour or so each to write, but since you think it's a pity that people posting can't get the information they want simply because they are demanding it, I'm sure you'll be willing to do the subs this service.

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Like you Ventatrix I have spent a considerable amount of money over a period of time, especially on my well equipped chambers and though I would never profess to be the very best Mistress!! I do understand how to not give away too much free knowledge, especially to other mistresses that may be working near my turf!!. That said I don't profess to be the dogs bollocks. All the years of training. All the tools of the trade I invested are not what made me what I am today. Give me a sub and an empty field anyday!

CBT is a difficult thing to explain online. CBT can be sensual, painful, torturous and at times darn right dangerous in the wrong hands but then thats only the more extreme of stuff and lets face it for those of us in the know, any man is going to tell you when things are getting really tough. Most men I apply CBT on will only ever get beyond the mildest and most harmless of forms. Any sub male that approached me in a respectful manner and asked me for some informed knowledge on the subject, I would try to give some sound advise.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 3:42:04 PM

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As mentioned in a previous post, most BDSM clubs do not allow exposed genitalia, so having sit and chat with someone about CBT, has no physical effects, doing is alot more beneficial hands on.

Some clubs don't but most events do. They also have classes and demos on a wide variety of play including CBT. When my Mistress wanted to learn how to play with needles we found a Mistress in TN to show her how to do it safely. If you don't know anyone in the community, then get out and meet people. Then when you want to learn something you have people you can go to for the info.

Jaz says

I run a BDSM club in the UK and so I know well the rules about what we can and can't do. I can confirm that Mistress Rouge is correct in saying that we can not show genitalia unless its a locked door event and to go to a locked door event you have to be selected for membership. That said, there are a lot of membership clubs.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 4:16:33 PM

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The duct tape/electrical tape sounds amusing, but I do advise you see if the person has any kind of adhesive allergy before trying it. I am allergic to most, and the idea of an allergic reaction in that zone... eeek!

Thishereboi, a friend of mine does that windmill beautifully, it never fails to leave us laughing. The men seem to enjoy it, too. The first time I saw it demoed, the lady said, "Done properly, the penis will remain attached."

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 4:38:20 PM

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As mentioned in a previous post, most BDSM clubs do not allow exposed genitalia, so having sit and chat with someone about CBT, has no physical effects, doing is alot more beneficial hands on.

Some clubs don't but most events do. They also have classes and demos on a wide variety of play including CBT. When my Mistress wanted to learn how to play with needles we found a Mistress in TN to show her how to do it safely. If you don't know anyone in the community, then get out and meet people. Then when you want to learn something you have people you can go to for the info.

Jaz says

I run a BDSM club in the UK and so I know well the rules about what we can and can't do. I can confirm that Mistress Rouge is correct in saying that we can not show genitalia unless its a locked door event and to go to a locked door event you have to be selected for membership. That said, there are a lot of membership clubs.

Yes, like I said.....some clubs don't. Some clubs do. Just depends on where you are at.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 4:40:00 PM

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The duct tape/electrical tape sounds amusing, but I do advise you see if the person has any kind of adhesive allergy before trying it. I am allergic to most, and the idea of an allergic reaction in that zone... eeek!

Thishereboi, a friend of mine does that windmill beautifully, it never fails to leave us laughing. The men seem to enjoy it, too. The first time I saw it demoed, the lady said, "Done properly, the penis will remain attached."

Katy was the first person I ever saw do it and it was funny as hell. The guy screamed and jumped around and then begged for more.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 4:55:29 PM

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Jaz says

I run a BDSM club in the UK and so I know well the rules about what we can and can't do. I can confirm that Mistress Rouge is correct in saying that we can not show genitalia unless its a locked door event and to go to a locked door event you have to be selected for membership. That said, there are a lot of membership clubs.

That might be true in the UK. Fortunately, the majority of the clubs I've attended here, exposed genitalia is not on the forbidden list. Don't get Me wrong, it's not permitted at some places here, too, but not the ones I've frequented.

Just goes to show that things are different depending on where you are.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 5:52:45 PM

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This is a fabulous video:
http://cdn72.xtube.com/e8/watch_video.php?v_user_id=n2itnbburg&idx=4&v=2EGJB5WAiJZ&cl=bdgKXH4qJ7f&from=&ver=3&ccaa=1&qid=&qidx=&qnum=&preview_flag=

Oh that is cool! I'm not much into rope bondage but I would love to learn how to do that.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 6:10:11 PM

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The duct tape/electrical tape sounds amusing, but I do advise you see if the person has any kind of adhesive allergy before trying it. I am allergic to most, and the idea of an allergic reaction in that zone... eeek!

I also suffer from adhesive allergies. I can handle just about anything for a short period of time. I just can't deal with prolonged contact. I'll have to tell you the Duct Taped Fairy wing story some time.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 10:18:07 PM

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It took me a bit to figure it out. I think I watched the clip about 30 times, and then replayed the first 20 seconds of it more than that to figure out exactly what he was getting up to. But between myself, and CdnExplorer, were able to figure it out in under 20 minutes.

Once you have it tied around the balls in whatever way you are used to. After that, you circle the cock with the rope, and when you get the circle around the penis, you feed the rope under the starting point of the circle. Then you go in the same direction as the first rope, go under where *that* loop started, and keep going until you run out of cock.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 10:40:56 PM

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Oh, honestly. Use a bit of initiative. As Locket said, try Google. If that is too much work, Hardy Haberman has a book called "Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment." He now has a sequel out. You can get both of them on Amazon. <Wanders off grumbling about people who can't lift a damned finger for themselves. Bah, humbug.>

Just ordered that book from borders.com... not too bad on the price. You can actually find most BDSM books on there. They have all the toy box books too. Its easier if you search by title or author.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/31/2008 6:47:23 AM

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Here are some extracts from 'Family Jewels' by Hardy Haberman

Percussion or Impact - Any hitting or striking, whether using an implement or the hands/fingers.

Pressure - Clamping, pinching or otherwise compressing small areas of tissue or skin. Some tools used for this include clothespins, clamps, clips Moustraps and forceps and thin rope.

Puncture - Puncturing the skin superficially as a form of sensation play. One of the kinds of play known as "blood sport". Toys used for this include tracing/pin wheels, sartenburg wheels, vampire gloves, hypoerdermic needles and acupuncture needles.

Temperature - Play that involves using heat or cold for sensation. This can also include the use of compounds which do not actually change the temperature, but which give a hot, cold, or "icy hot" sensation when applied to the skin. Some toys used for this are hot candle wax, ice, sports rubs, light bulbs, heating pads, and warm or cold water.

Friction - Friction is a form of sensation play produced by rubbing the cock and balls with any material likely to provide friction, from mild to hevy. Some things that can be used for this is loofahs, fingers, velcro, brushes, emery boards or the rough side of leather.

Teasing & Tickling - Exactly what it sounds like. Fingers, feathers, fu, silk, satin, hair, flowerpetals... just about anything that would provide a safe, teasing sensation on the skin.

Electrostimulation - Using electricity safely to provide stimulation. It is important to use only devices that are made for this use, as electricity cn be dangerous! Toys for this include the Violet Wantd, Tens unit or shock boxes.

The book is well worth buying as it gives a in depth detail of the cock and balls anatomy, tells you the risks involved and its something you can pick up and read again and again.

Another book worth investing in is " Realistic Introduction" by Jay Wiseman.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/1/2009 4:35:39 AM

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It would take me over an hour to list all the penile bondage techniques with which I'm familiar and I can't think of a reason why I should take that much time out of my day.

Well if you don't care enough to answer then you should not have cared enough to reply. Why do you waste your 'valuable time' smashing him around just because he asked a question ??? It is a open forum, he had a question and he asked. If you think it is stupid then 'pass', if you think it is worth your 'valuable time' then answer it.

Apparently you have difficulty in grasping the very thing you write about: It *is* an open forum and I responded in that manner because I chose to do so. If you don't like my posts, please feel free to block them. And, exactly, who the hell are you to tell me what I should or shouldn't have done? Are you the owner of these boards? No? Then it's not your decision as to what people "should" post.

Lol.. I can tell you the same thing. "Apparently you have difficulty in grasping the very thing you write about: It *is* an open forum and I responded in that manner because I chose to do so." Why are you pissed about ???? And, exactly, who the hell are you to tell 'the creater of this thread' what *he* should or shouldn't have done? Are you *his* owner ? No? Then it's not *your* decision as to what people "should" post. Is it ?? Just because you are a so called dominant woman doesnt mean you own every submissive guy is this world.
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