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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/29/2008 6:28:43 PM   
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You're really, really bitchy.

And not in a good way at all.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/29/2008 6:42:30 PM   
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I am sure there are some who agree with you. 

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/29/2008 7:00:30 PM   
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The trolls come out every holiday...sigh

Lockit can bitch at me any day and I would say thank you for the pleasure. ....but for those of us who read it seem quiet clear she was showing us how easy that search functions works.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/29/2008 7:02:19 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Usako

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Usako, if this thread makes you so sad, why didn't *you* offer any advice? 


I don't have any, I'm a novice.



Okay, Usako, that's fair enough.  I'll make you a deal:  When you've spent thousands of dollars, like I have, on toys, books, and classes, and taken dozens of hours of your personal time to become the very best domina you know how, like I have, we will look forward to seeing you post lengthy replies on these boards, detailing every bit of information that new submissive male posters come on the boards asking for.  The emails will probably take you an hour or so each to write, but since you think it's a pity that people posting can't get the information they want simply because they are demanding it, I'm sure you'll be willing to do the subs this service.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/29/2008 7:42:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mummyman321

CBT Idea:
Wrap the cock and balls tightly in electrical tape (it helps to be clean shaven). Tease the person for 15 to 20 minutes or so. Then peel off the electrical tape.

The blood rushing back in will be a little like nipple clamps being removed after being left on for 20 minutes or so. Hurt so good!. Also the adhesive from the electrical tape when being peeled creates quiet a sensation also.....enjoy!


Now this is more my speed:  the male of the species providing somthing that *I* can use, instead of demanding something from me.  Nice job, MM.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/29/2008 8:54:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Venatrix
Okay, Usako, that's fair enough.  I'll make you a deal:  When you've spent thousands of dollars, like I have, on toys, books, and classes, and taken dozens of hours of your personal time to become the very best domina you know how, like I have, we will look forward to seeing you post lengthy replies on these boards, detailing every bit of information that new submissive male posters come on the boards asking for. 


Granted, I would probably never do that. Though the OP only asked for resources and a few were offered so hopefully he or whoever he's with looks into them. I guess I, personally, was hoping to see more resources, like a site that offers video demos. And not porn which is what googles gives. I have yet to see a real life demo offered in CBT locally, yet. I know when it does I'll be there.


To the OP:
Upon further looking through my fav list I remembered this site: http://www.femdommesociety.com/

I generally dislike the site though for domme's they have a "university" area and the senior class...two I believe offers CBT info.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 1:30:14 AM   
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SimplyIsaac wrote: I see your point, but...I mean, isn't this a message board where people go to learn? Others might benefit form the experience of reading here, even if the OP IS a wanker.

Please read the thread before you post.  This point has already been raised by somebody else and rebutted.  Your suggestion in the caning thread of using blind rods had already been made by somebody else.

Saying the same thing again and again just makes the thread go round and round in circles, even if it's different people saying it.

beeble.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 3:23:21 AM   
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This is very much what a few of us have been saying all along.  It would be My opinion that a good Dominant does make these investments.  Yes, that does include time, effort, and sometimes travel.  I'd hope that nobody thinks that those of us who have spent literally years at our crafts, did so because everything was handed to us.  Believe it or not, there was some actual work involved.

No one here has said that we wouldn't be willing to help anyone the same way as we've been helped, but none of us did it by sitting on our duffs.  Maybe those days have changed since the net came along.  I really don't think they have.  That's why people are still doing demos and having events.   It could be that the old fashioned way, is still a pretty good way of doing things.


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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

quote:

ORIGINAL: Usako

quote:

ORIGINAL: Venatrix

Usako, if this thread makes you so sad, why didn't *you* offer any advice? 


I don't have any, I'm a novice.



Okay, Usako, that's fair enough.  I'll make you a deal:  When you've spent thousands of dollars, like I have, on toys, books, and classes, and taken dozens of hours of your personal time to become the very best domina you know how, like I have, we will look forward to seeing you post lengthy replies on these boards, detailing every bit of information that new submissive male posters come on the boards asking for.  The emails will probably take you an hour or so each to write, but since you think it's a pity that people posting can't get the information they want simply because they are demanding it, I'm sure you'll be willing to do the subs this service.


A few folks have asked in the course of this thread what are these forums for if not to learn.  Well, they are, but they're not the only place.  For some things, it's not even the best place.  Though people haven't liked it much, I still say for certain subjects, it might not even be the safest place.

Usako, that doesn't mean don't ask questions.  It means sometimes, you might get your answers on the other side.  If they happen to come from Me, they probably aren't going to come in the form of links to websites.  It's just not the way I do things.




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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 4:58:50 AM   
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I just saw MummyMan's electrical tape idea.  Would you believe my 'not so vanilla anymore' husband suggested something similar?  He suggested that I duct tape the testicles to the upper thigh while teasing and torturing for a bit.  Then rip it off.  Not on HIS nuts mind you... just a suggestion for someone ELSE'S family jewels.  I haven't tried that.  I'm somewhat afraid that the duct tape would grip a bit to strongly and tear some delicate flesh.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 6:15:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressRouge


Also, to analyse and dissect this poor guys motives is a tad unhelpful in my opinion, and I for one like to expand and share my knowledge especially regarding techniques that others seek.
Rant over



That's great. Does this mean your going to share your knowledge of CBT on this thread?

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 6:21:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CdnExplorer

. The OP is in a long distance, realtime relationship with a Domme...


Is he? According to his post -

" I have an online friend that I have the fortunate opportunity to have r/t play sessions with four or five times per year.  She is a switch and in a relationship.  Her Dom allows her to have play sessions with me. "

But that doesn't really matter, does it. He is looking for info. Are you going to provide some or just continue to complain that others haven't?


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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 6:28:43 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressRouge

As mentioned in a previous post, most BDSM clubs do not allow exposed genitalia, so having sit and chat with someone about CBT, has no physical effects, doing is alot more beneficial hands on.



Some clubs don't but most events do. They also have classes and demos on a wide variety of play including CBT. When my Mistress wanted to learn how to play with needles we found a Mistress in TN to show her how to do it safely. If you don't know anyone in the community, then get out and meet people. Then when you want to learn something you have people you can go to for the info.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 8:21:26 AM   
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Scroll down to the bottom of the following page:
http://www.ropefashions.com/fashions2/index.php?lang=en&theme=default

Look, a resource!  Can we have another?  Let's get over ourselves - everyone - and make this thread purposeful for more than just bantering at someone's supposed motives and lifestyle pet peeves.  I want to learn and I, for one, do not have any access to CBT demos or workshops in my area.  It's a topic I am commited to devoting my 2009 to CBT bondage (and beyond this post, to generic CBT), and I have some resources, but I want as much as I can before I jump into this too much in practice.  Other than the family jewels book(s), is there anything else?

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 8:52:10 AM   
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Thank You Ms Emmalyn for the wonderful post.  It is much appreciated.
cucky

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 8:52:10 AM   
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Another.

http://www.chicago-mistress.com/Binding%20The%20Family%20Jewels.pdf

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 9:30:05 AM   
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ORIGINAL: emmalyn


Look, a resource!  Can we have another?  Let's get over ourselves - everyone - and make this thread purposeful for more than just bantering at someone's supposed motives and lifestyle pet peeves.  I want to learn and I, for one, do not have any access to CBT demos or workshops in my area. 


Absolutely, Ms. Emmalyn. Awesome links...especially the PDF.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 9:36:03 AM   
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Some books:
Family Jewels: The Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment by Hardy Haberman and Midori    ISBN: 1890159344(the one mentioned)
http://www.amazon.com/Family-Jewels-Guide-Genital-Torment/dp/1890159344/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1230656967&sr=1-1

More Family Jewels: Further Explorations in Male Genitorture (Boner Books) (Paperback)   ISBN: 1934625094
http://www.amazon.com/More-Family-Jewels-Explorations-Genitorture/dp/1934625094/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1230656967&sr=1-2

CBT: Cock and Ball Torture in a Nutshell (SMTEech Educational) by  Lolita Wolf and Joseph W Bean (Perfect Paperback - Oct 1, 2007)
http://www.amazon.com/CBT-Cock-Torture-Nutshell-Educational/dp/1887895086/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1230656967&sr=1-8

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 9:37:11 AM   
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This is a fabulous video:
http://cdn72.xtube.com/e8/watch_video.php?v_user_id=n2itnbburg&idx=4&v=2EGJB5WAiJZ&cl=bdgKXH4qJ7f&from=&ver=3&ccaa=1&qid=&qidx=&qnum=&preview_flag=

He is EXTREMELY quick with his hands...but clearly, guys get good at their cocks quite early on.  They have about 20 years on me at this point.
Must...catch...up....

(The reason I'm posting each link, is that I'm checking to see how good they are as I am going....I've done at least one thing from the links I've shown.  And all are pretty easy to catch with a bit of patience.)


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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 11:52:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

I just saw MummyMan's electrical tape idea. Would you believe my 'not so vanilla anymore' husband suggested something similar? He suggested that I duct tape the testicles to the upper thigh while teasing and torturing for a bit. Then rip it off. Not on HIS nuts mind you... just a suggestion for someone ELSE'S family jewels. I haven't tried that. I'm somewhat afraid that the duct tape would grip a bit to strongly and tear some delicate flesh.


I have heard that idea but never tried it. I have had the electrical tape done to me. I would have the same fear you stated about the strength of the duct tape. Electrical tape adhesive stregth is much less than duct tape. My advice, try it with the electrical tape first :). And you may find that pulling slowly can produce an intense, some might even call it painful, sensation that lasts much much longer.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/30/2008 12:37:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Venatrix
It would take me over an hour to list all the penile bondage techniques with which I'm familiar and I can't think of a reason why I should take that much time out of my day.


Well if you don't care enough to answer then you should not have cared enough to reply. Why do you waste your 'valuable time' smashing him around just because he asked a question ??? It is a open forum, he had a question and he asked. If you think it is stupid then 'pass', if you think it is worth your 'valuable time' then answer it.

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