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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/5/2009 9:36:15 PM

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It would take me over an hour to list all the penile bondage techniques with which I'm familiar and I can't think of a reason why I should take that much time out of my day.

Well if you don't care enough to answer then you should not have cared enough to reply. Why do you waste your 'valuable time' smashing him around just because he asked a question ??? It is a open forum, he had a question and he asked. If you think it is stupid then 'pass', if you think it is worth your 'valuable time' then answer it.

Apparently you have difficulty in grasping the very thing you write about: It *is* an open forum and I responded in that manner because I chose to do so. If you don't like my posts, please feel free to block them. And, exactly, who the hell are you to tell me what I should or shouldn't have done? Are you the owner of these boards? No? Then it's not your decision as to what people "should" post.

Lol.. I can tell you the same thing. "Apparently you have difficulty in grasping the very thing you write about: It *is* an open forum and I responded in that manner because I chose to do so." Why are you pissed about ???? And, exactly, who the hell are you to tell 'the creater of this thread' what *he* should or shouldn't have done? Are you *his* owner ? No? Then it's not *your* decision as to what people "should" post. Is it ?? Just because you are a so called dominant woman doesnt mean you own every submissive guy is this world.
If you don't like my posts, please feel free to block them.

I totally agree. Don't understand what the big deal is. Its funny how many people waste time bitching about wasting time on these threads.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/5/2009 9:51:04 PM

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I've yet to understand why some have difficulty with those who have a preference by those who don't want to post their techniques on the boards.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/5/2009 10:27:56 PM

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Not on HIS nuts mind you... just a suggestion for someone ELSE'S family jewels. I haven't tried that. I'm somewhat afraid that the duct tape would grip a bit to strongly and tear some delicate flesh.

At least in my experience, scrotal skin grows back very quickly- I say go for it!

mmmm...... duct tape................

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/5/2009 10:52:45 PM

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This is a fabulous video:
http://cdn72.xtube.com/e8/watch_video.php?v_user_id=n2itnbburg&idx=4&v=2EGJB5WAiJZ&cl=bdgKXH4qJ7f&from=&ver=3&ccaa=1&qid=&qidx=&qnum=&preview_flag=

He is EXTREMELY quick with his hands...but clearly, guys get good at their cocks quite early on. They have about 20 years on me at this point.
Must...catch...up....

I guess it depends on what you're trying to accomplish. He's doing a lot of meat-handling while he screws around with some macrame foolishness. As long as you're okay with cutting off circulation (SHORT TERM!!!) for play, a simple coil is a lot faster.

Slip-knot, pull it tight around the 'nads, then start building a coil to stretch them away from the body... Once the skin starts feeling tight, do a double-loop to separate them, then another loop or two to anchor that... Then back down to the "bottom" of the scrotum coil to add a couple more turns and stretch it further... Then do the same to separate the entire package from the body... Then bind the shaft tightly, coil by coil, and tie it off.

Just as fast, and after a minute or two everything's nice and sensitive (and a little purple... and who doesn't like purple?

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/5/2009 11:44:06 PM

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I don't know....macrame is looking pretty cool on the penis I tested this out on. :p

Coils are alright, but the crossing over of the rope seems to make things feel a bit more interesting - or so I'm told.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/6/2009 12:24:20 AM

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My Mistress would like to explore CBT with me. Is there a good resource for learning bondage techniques? She is especially interested in leather laces and bounding my cock and balls and then attaching a long leash she can yank when I misbehave or when she needs attention. I have been directed to research this topic and hoped someone might be able to provide some input.

Hmmm, it's late and I'm too lazy (must be contagious) to read the whole dang flame war here. But the short version is that you (OP) were told to research it, you instead brought it to "Ask a Mistress", and when some of the Mistress's answers didn't suit some of those who aren't Mistresses, the insults starting flying. Oh, yeah, that's when I start to feel helpful.

So here's my technique:
submissive brings cock and balls, Dominant brings torture. Viola CBT!
Whip it out or zip it up - but that's probably just rude of me to say. I'm okay with that. Perhaps it's a submissively transmitted disease I've been exposed to at some point.
Nighty - nite.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/6/2009 10:07:56 AM

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you (OP) were told to research it, you instead brought it to "Ask a Mistress",

The real short version is that you're totally wrong, Celene. The word "instead" simply does not belong in the statement above. Posting in "Ask a Mistress" is indeed one very reasonable avenue of research. To insist otherwise is saying "Gee. How dare he ask people who are likely to know something about it, and consider that research." This criticism is clearly illogical, and that's what many posters were reacting to when they complained about it. The OP even stated that this was not his only avenue of research, but that fact was conveniently ignored.

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... when some of the Mistress's answers didn't suit some of those who aren't Mistresses, the insults starting flying.

The insults didn't start flying in response to the Mistresses' answers. The insults WERE some of the Mistresses' answers. The OP was called lazy, a wanker, fisher, etc. I don't think anybody objects to mistresses reluctance to supply wanking material, which is really what some of them were reacting to. Unfortunately, many of them inappropriately attacked his method of research, and spent an inordinate amount of time complaining about how much time it would take to answer his question, rather than focusing on the real issue, which was that they thought he was fishing for wanking material.

For comparison, take a look at the responses in this current thread in this same "Ask A Mistress" forum:
http://www.collarchat.com/m_149261/tm.htm
Same basic question, but short, simple, and helpful answers instead of a flurry of complaints. Why? Because of the different assumptions about the motive of the OP.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/6/2009 10:26:41 AM

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So here's my technique:
submissive brings cock and balls, Dominant brings torture. Viola CBT!
Whip it out or zip it up - but that's probably just rude of me to say. I'm okay with that. Perhaps it's a submissively transmitted disease I've been exposed to at some point.
Nighty - nite.

You are dangerous Woman!!

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/12/2009 12:41:45 AM

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So, hardbody, you are basically reiterating for the OP that the post was created by being less than truthful to begin with.

????? That makes zero sense to me. What are you talking about? Since I'm evidently really dense, and just don't get it, let's recap. Maybe someone can help me get a clue.

The OP says he's researching CBT and would like suggestions on resources. No wanking material was requested, nor was it implied that the OP wasn't doing any other research on his own. All that's needed to answer his question is something like "I found the book [insert title here] useful", or "try the website [insert URL or website name here]".

Some people made the PRESUMPTION that the OP didn't want to spend any time researching on his own, or that he was only after wanking material. Maybe their assumptions were correct, maybe not, but they had two very easy, good options: (1) do nothing; or (2) suggest a resource or two, if they know of any. Neither of these provides wanker material, nor do they remove the need for the OP's further research. Instead, they chose to criticize and complain.

Hey, I'm not opposed to criticizing and complaining. I do my fair share of it. But I don't see anything to gripe about on this thread. Much ado about nothing.

Somehow, I doubt it.
This quote from one of your numerous posts early on and now I'm "completely wrong" and should view the "current" thread from 2005. That nice bunch must not have posted all the helpful information for this OP to find out about how to attach leather laces to his dick and hand a leash to his mistress or online friend, as the case may be.

Trolls and dead horses, always a winning combination in the "Ask A Mistress" threads. I'm wrong, you are a bore. Case closed.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/12/2009 3:54:36 PM

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every one of you dominants or mistresses that redirects any questions users post here to google are as useless as the people who don't know how to find this information. why even post here if your just going to degrade the question. wow i just came here out of curiousity and WOW. prissy azz jerkoffz. every one of you should have a bottle shoved up a hole and kicked til it breaks. and for the dom guys that have posted here similarly...you should have your nuts cut off

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/12/2009 4:27:39 PM

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Wow... scorp.. you don't mince words do you? Bottles up our holes and kicked till broken... balls cut off... Interesting fellow you are.

The whole problem with this thread and question was the fact that we found some questionable things in the profile that led us to believe one thing that tends to keep us from answering. Some didn't answer for safety concerns, etc.

But as for your threatening stance... impressive dude!

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/12/2009 4:41:15 PM

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Yep, Lockit, it's easy for Scorp to swagger and threaten, hiding behind a computer, isn't it? And people wonder why we dismiss a lot of the (male) vanilla-coned posters as trolls.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/12/2009 5:06:07 PM

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I wouldn't be too concerned. With charming posts such as that one, I'm sure Eleven will sweep him under the rug in no time.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/12/2009 5:07:29 PM

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I like to toy with my prey whilst it's still fresh.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/12/2009 5:29:21 PM

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You are sooooooo bad Venatrix! Remind me to stay on your good side LOL

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/12/2009 5:41:22 PM

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Scorp223 wrote:
for the dom guys that have posted here similarly...you should have your nuts cut off

``Scorp223 Male Dominant, 28, Reading, Pennsylvania''

Googling for ``castration Reading Pennsylvania'' gives 144,000-odd hits so you shouldn't find it too hard to find somewhere you can present yourself to have your request fulfilled. Enjoy!

beeble.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/12/2009 8:18:04 PM

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Gee. Look at this stick that I found. I'll bet I could use it to stir a little sh*t.

Did anybody notice on the link that was provided as a 'current' thread had a couple of major differences to the one we have been contributing to here?

1. It was posted by a female switch, who was doing her own research.

2. She specifically said that she had come from a demo on the subject.

In other words, the other thread may have gotten a better response because it was from someone who was willing to do the legwork.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/12/2009 10:18:11 PM

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I felt the same way when I was directed to the comparison of the "current thread" cited.
Different tone to the question = different tone to the replies....
To me it's clearly not the same, but I could be (as already pointed out) totally wrong.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/12/2009 11:46:43 PM

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I agree. I saw no real relation to this thread.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 1/13/2009 7:39:24 AM

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this is an old fashioned technique but hey..it worked when i was a teenager...the female party grabs the scrotum and penis and stokes it slowly..gently..ok a bit too graphic??...just tease the hell out of the subbie..back in the days it was called "blue balls"which is another term for denying orgasm.it is quick it is safe and boy can it ever become habit forming given time naturally.it is a simplistic form of cbt but it works...smiles.

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