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Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 11:20:28 AM

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I am a sub, and I seem to be seeing more and more Dommes who enjoy the entire cuckolding process. As a sub, I do my best to do everything a Domme would desire, but the thought of cuckolding honestly I find discusting. I have never been asked or told to do it but I have given some thought to adding it to my hard limit list. How would such a limit be viewed by Dommes? Thank you.

RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 11:33:28 AM

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I would dearly love to have the joy of cuckolding explained to me by those dominants who enjoy it. I am not disgusted by it, but it's one of those things that I can't wrap my head around. I lost out on an exceptional man because of that. He explained HIS desire very clearly and sensibly, but I don't get the appeal. Maybe because my poly heart doesn't grok it?

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 11:45:28 AM

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I went to a web site, sorry but cannot remember which it was, but men were talking about their fantasy. The one that got the most hits was someone watching their spouse with another man. I decided to write a story about it and the response and feedback I got on it was... god, I wish my wife would do this!

When I was very young, I had to watch my now ex husband with someone else. It wasn't a welcome thing. I don't care to do that to someone else. I am not into it for a number of personal reasons besides this.

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 11:48:01 AM

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A dear friend was a bull for several couples! Now, I can fully imagine him being tremendously successful in this role... I cannot imagine any man of mine *tolerating* that kind of thing, though. I did a voyeur scene with Hugh and my former fuckbuddy, which was kind of fun, but odd for me and M. Not something I would care to repeat.

Different strokes, I guess. I am poly, but it's my heart that's poly, not my body!

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 11:52:04 AM

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I've not yet formed an opinon about it other than 'sounds like a LOT of work.' and I'm sure its something that isn't approached casually.

Seems like it would be a highly intricate, micro-managed kind of thing with a staggering amount of trust involved. Not sure I'd know where to start on the administration of such a scene.

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 11:55:25 AM

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I can understand the poly and was at one time involved in swinging... so long ago... It just doesn't do anything for me. I do however think of poly and have for years for various reasons, but not for a sexual scene that is shared. Typically my relationships have been mono... but... who knows... one day... maybe. lol I always said it would take at least two men to fulfill the different things in life I enjoy and I am not talking sexually. lol

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 12:01:49 PM

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I can understand wanting two men, it's trying to make the primary one feel "less than" sexually that I don't get.

I don't get baby play, either. Lots of stuff I don't get, really...

Thank goodness for masochists!

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 12:12:14 PM

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I don't do the making someone feel less... I tend to build people up... it goes against my whole life work to rip someone down emotionally. Unless of course they have been bad, pissed me off really, really bad such as in doing something very wrong and I have no respect for them... then it is new ass hole time. hehe

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 12:23:35 PM

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I don't do the making someone feel less... I tend to build people up... it goes against my whole life work to rip someone down emotionally. Unless of course they have been bad, pissed me off really, really bad such as in doing something very wrong and I have no respect for them... then it is new ass hole time. hehe

(love the way you expressed that - have you been peeking inside my head?)

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 12:30:01 PM

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Oh dear... two like minded... scary! hehe Now you made me curious... lol Even scarier! Part one or two... hehe

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 1:13:53 PM

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I know that there are women on this board who are into cuckolding, where are they?

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 1:16:38 PM

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On another thread a distinction was made regarding 'the joys of humiliation'
and how males are more likely to (prefer? desire? get off on?) physical degradations than are we ladies.

Perhaps that is no small factor in the 'appeal',
and women who play into it are thus 'servicing' their cuckoldeds?

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 1:38:36 PM

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Some will, some won't--you have to decide what your hard limits are--this is not something you will find in My reptoire.

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 1:55:59 PM

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I am a sub, and I seem to be seeing more and more Dommes who enjoy the entire cuckolding process. As a sub, I do my best to do everything a Domme would desire, but the thought of cuckolding honestly I find discusting. I have never been asked or told to do it but I have given some thought to adding it to my hard limit list. How would such a limit be viewed by Dommes? Thank you.

A submissive having a hard limit of cuckolding would be perfectly fine with me.

In fact, I grew so tired of cuckold wannabe's writing to me with their detailed fantasies, that I now state twice in my profile "no cuckolds" and include it on the list of things I hate.

Ironically, I have cuckolded in the past and it's not a completely hard limit for me. However, it holds little interest for me now and is something I can happily live without.

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 2:01:32 PM

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I know that there are women on this board who are into cuckolding, where are they?

I can take it or leave it. Given my current situation with men, I'm beginning to think one man is too much to handle, let alone two. A woman has to rest sometime.

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 2:07:38 PM

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I love being cuckolded.It really does it for me.

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 3:40:43 PM

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Oh dear... two like minded... scary! hehe Now you made me curious... lol Even scarier! Part one or two... hehe

both - I have a really long fuse. I'm not wired to inflict emotional abuse. It takes quite a bit to get me seriously angry. Once it happens though, the person responsible better enter the Witness Protection Program

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 3:55:43 PM

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Ok... Let's start with the 'proper' definition of the word... From Dictionary.com:

Cuckold
–noun 1. the husband of an unfaithful wife.
–verb (used with object) 2. to make a cuckold of (a husband).

That's got me written all over it. Hubby and I actually started more as 'swingers' where both of us had 'extras'. Over time, he stopped pursuing extra marital relationships, but I did not. That technically makes my husband a cuckold.

Now, in the BDSM world, I more frequently see the term applied to subs who are not allowed sexual contact with the Domme being 'forced' to watch the Domme having sex with someone else who is called the Bull.

Considering the fact that I DO have sex with my husband but not with the majority of my subs, that would make Cucked Hub the Bull and all the subs not allowed to have sex the Cucks... even though they don't get to watch me having sex with my Bull Spouce. Would it not? See, we start treading on some rather difficult ground of mixed terms that are applied in different situations.

Now, this gets even MORE fun when you realize that hubby has been known to 'share' me with extras in a three way situation. Now who's the Cuck and the Bull? Neither? Both? Is your head spinning yet? It's easier to just call it being Poly at that point. But that brings us back to Hubby is a Cuck by definition.

Ok... As to the original question... What's the point? I like it. End of point. Hubby deals with it because it makes me happy. What's in it NOT to love for a sub? If I'm not going to have sex with him anyway, why not give him a free live porn show? Although I've never actually done that, I have at least one sub who's fondest fantasy is to watch me have sex with someone else and then orally 'clean up' for us both. I'll have to work on setting that one up.

**edited to fix the c&p from the Dictionary.

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 5:32:09 PM

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I know that there are women on this board who are into cuckolding, where are they?

Working, and running errands

Anyway, not 100% sure if this would be included, but I do deal with boys, but being a dyke they dont ever ever get to have sex with me.....I also dont allow them to have sex elsewhere, so even tho they are not watching me have sex, they are going however long I play with them without it. Off the top of my head, two different boys come to mind. One I had for five years, and he had not had sex for many years before me even, he did not really like it, he felt it was too aggressive when he was able to have intercourse, which would turn him off. The other boy did like sex, but managed to go a few years without.......

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RE: Dommes attraction to cuckolding? - 1/8/2009 5:33:59 PM

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It's not my thing, so it would be fine with me. I get it on a power level -- but I don't really care for it.

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