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RE: Being "honest" or telling Dominant what H... - 1/14/2006 5:15:38 PM

yourMissTress

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Truth and honesty are never wrong? I would be unlikely to enter into a trusting relationship someone who held to that credo.

Never is a hell of a big word.

Thank you for catching this... I agree that never is a big word, and I was taught to "never say never".

Therefore I would like to re-word my opinion to say that one can't go wrong by being honest and as someone else once said, the truth will set you free.

And then I would like to remind you, Noah, that always is a word that fits in the same shoes as never.

And again, thank you for pointing it out to me.

< Message edited by yourMissTress -- 1/14/2006 5:16:13 PM >

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RE: Being "honest" or telling Dominant what H... - 1/14/2006 7:10:17 PM

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my Lord, you are an asshole my Lord

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LMAO!!!

Kyra,
I always look forward to your posts but this one was the best.
I think if you have a dom that you can say this to and he can handle it,
then you are the luckiest girl in the world.

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RE: Being "honest" or telling Dominant what H... - 1/15/2006 1:39:40 AM

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I expect an honest answer.
When asked a question and the sub or slave girl,answers with... whatever you want...I reply,I asked a specific question of you,and I want an honest specific answer.

How else am I going to know,I'm not a mind-reader,I'm a decision maker.

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RE: Being "honest" or telling Dominant what H... - 1/15/2006 10:18:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

I expect an honest answer.
When asked a question and the sub or slave girl,answers with... whatever you want...I reply,I asked a specific question of you,and I want an honest specific answer.

How else am I going to know,I'm not a mind-reader,I'm a decision maker.

Was always told... if you don't want to really know the answer... don't ask the question. This falls under your post MistressSassy, when you ask a straight up question. Expect a straight up answer in return.

Bottom line.. Question: Would you mind getting me a drink?....... Answer... yes I would mind. I'm tired and my feet hurt.

On other note: Get me a drink....... yes Sir, right away.

It's all in how is stated. As in other post about the munchkins. It's all in putting the request out there. I know if I tell mine... want to do the dishes tonight?... I get looked at like I'm an alien.. lol But when I tell one to do them.... wait.. I still get looked at like I'm an alien ... LOL.. ok bad example

Yall get the drift of it though i'm sure... LOL

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RE: Being "honest" or telling Dominant what H... - 1/15/2006 10:18:17 AM

kyraofMists

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ORIGINAL: Crazytwice

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

my Lord, you are an asshole my Lord

Knight's kyra

LMAO!!!

Kyra,
I always look forward to your posts but this one was the best.
I think if you have a dom that you can say this to and he can handle it,
then you are the luckiest girl in the world.

~smiles~
CT

It is said with deep love and affection and never meant as an insult, but then again he says this of himself as well. I consider myself to be very blessed in what I have and could not imagine finding a better match.

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RE: Being "honest" or telling Dominant what H... - 1/15/2006 11:26:21 AM

camigirl

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If I were asked "You want to get me a drink" I would honestly say "Im really tired so no but will get you one if you want"

If I were told "Go get me a drink please" then I'd go and get him one.

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Submission is in the "wanting".
I may be tired and my feet migh hurt but i can still "want" to get him a drink, and will.
If i didnt want to get someone a drink, i wouldnt.

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RE: Being "honest" or telling Dominant what H... - 1/15/2006 2:50:14 PM

MistressSassy66

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ORIGINAL: truesub4u

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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

I expect an honest answer.
When asked a question and the sub or slave girl,answers with... whatever you want...I reply,I asked a specific question of you,and I want an honest specific answer.

How else am I going to know,I'm not a mind-reader,I'm a decision maker.

Was always told... if you don't want to really know the answer... don't ask the question. This falls under your post MistressSassy, when you ask a straight up question. Expect a straight up answer in return.

Bottom line.. Question: Would you mind getting me a drink?....... Answer... yes I would mind. I'm tired and my feet hurt.

On other note: Get me a drink....... yes Sir, right away.

It's all in how is stated. As in other post about the munchkins. It's all in putting the request out there. I know if I tell mine... want to do the dishes tonight?... I get looked at like I'm an alien.. lol But when I tell one to do them.... wait.. I still get looked at like I'm an alien ... LOL.. ok bad example

Yall get the drift of it though i'm sure... LOL

My questions I guess were in terms of do you want the pink rope or the blue.Clothepins or clips.Does that hurt,would be a time I want an honest answer.

I dont ask would you get Me a drink...its get Me a drink,please

And yes I always say Please and Thank-you,just because I'm a Domme doesnt mean I dont have manners,even with subs/slave girl.

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RE: Being "honest" or telling Dominant what H... - 1/15/2006 3:00:22 PM

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Part of the path of discovery for a sub/slave seems to be that point in a relationship (D/s or M/s) where she struggles with what she sees as being honest and with telling her Master/Dominant what He/She wants to hear, to be the kind of sub/slave expected.

The dichotomy seems to me to be a false one -- either be honest (and likely disagree, object, quarrel, argue) or comply and obey saying what words He/She wants to hear, presumably burying your honesty.

Does this situation sound familiar to others?

Being only slightly empathic rather than telephathic, I have to stick with the honesty road. I may 'think' I know what Himself wants to hear, but dollars to donuts, even if I was right, I'd be wrong.

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RE: Being "honest" or telling Dominant what H... - 1/15/2006 4:09:03 PM

truesub4u

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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

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My questions I guess were in terms of do you want the pink rope or the blue.Clothepins or clips.Does that hurt,would be a time I want an honest answer.

I dont ask would you get Me a drink...its get Me a drink,please

And yes I always say Please and Thank-you,just because I'm a Domme doesnt mean I dont have manners,even with subs/slave girl.

Now this I agree with. Being a Domme, Dom... doesn't mean you can't be nice and polite. Thank you again MistressSassy.

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RE: Being "honest" or telling Dominant what H... - 1/15/2006 5:17:42 PM

MistressSassy66

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Your Welcome...

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