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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 12:51:42 AM

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I know you probably just meant that as an observation, but I took it as one of the kindest compliments anyone's ever paid me here. Thank you!

*smooch* If I were a Dommely type, I'd be on you in a heartbeat.

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 1:05:42 AM

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redundant post

sorry

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 1:20:26 AM

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Puhleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeze!
A woman who offers sexual services in return for mony is a WHORE. Plain and simple. You can't dress it up as "tribute," or "I don't have intercourse with my subs." It's all bullshit. If you take money to give sexual gratification, you are a prostitute. Which is fine with me, but don't try to dress it up with all this "domme" bs.

Welcome to CM. Please utilize the welcome mat, as you seem to have "stepped in it" on your way in.

On another note, as a female sub, I appreciate "gentlemanly". I don't "expect" him to pay for coffee or whatnot when we meet, but it is appreciated should he decide to do so. Little things like a flower or other gesture also give bonus points. That said, manners trump monetary, and opening doors for me/ offering me his jacket if it's chilly/ seeing me into the car give me warm fuzzies.
Really, women are women, and dating is dating. JMHO

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 3:59:31 AM

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Puhleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeze!
A woman who offers sexual services in return for mony is a WHORE. Plain and simple. You can't dress it up as "tribute," or "I don't have intercourse with my subs." It's all bullshit. If you take money to give sexual gratification, you are a prostitute. Which is fine with me, but don't try to dress it up with all this "domme" bs.

SOMEone is not getting his emails answered on here...wonder why?

My slave hands over every paycheck. It's not much, but I get access to 100% of his finances. In return, his bills are all paid, there is food for him to cook and cleaning supplies with which to clean with. Also, when he is a very good little boy, vacations. I never asked for it, but it is the nature of our female-led household; he feels secure, I have control of our financial future- everyone is happy. Does the fact that we also have sex and I beat him taint this into some sort of extended pay-for-play scene? Am I his kept women?

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 5:15:03 AM

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I think it would be a good idea to have a seperate category for those looking for material gain out of this as it's quite time consuming having to filter through all of them. I do resent the implication that I'm not generous because I'm not willing to give away all my money just like that. I'm also quite certain that when I created my profile the site rules stated that asking for money/gifts is not allowed.

One thing I really don't like though is when a profile has no mention of expecting money but then after an e-mail or two they spring it on you. At least be up front about it.

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 5:26:30 AM

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I think it would be a good idea to have a seperate category for those looking for material gain out of this as it's quite time consuming having to filter through all of them. I do resent the implication that I'm not generous because I'm not willing to give away all my money just like that. I'm also quite certain that when I created my profile the site rules stated that asking for money/gifts is not allowed.

One thing I really don't like though is when a profile has no mention of expecting money but then after an e-mail or two they spring it on you. At least be up front about it.

Hey, I'd be happy to see them make separate categories for those who are here just trying to get laid, but I doubt that's happening anytime soon, either.

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 5:28:59 AM

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it's quite time consuming having to filter through all of them.

Really? I mean... really? Just how long does it take to hit the "Hide Profile" button? It takes me thirty seconds to read the profile text, and another five to click the button. Max. Of course, I don't hide pros. I hide tall buxom women who weigh 56 pounds.

I got a cmail from a pro/lifestyler just two days ago. She said a domme friend of hers has a profile on a couple sites (including CM), and gets a ton of emails from men who want to offer her money to be a part-time slave, but virtually no one is actually interested in building a long-term relationship. I've heard that many times before, too. You can frikkin complain about it all you want, but 99% of the "submissive" men on this site deserve what they get.

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 5:33:31 AM

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Considering the emails I get from men with a wish list of kinky things they want done to them, I am not surprised at all that some of these women are actually looking for what you are describing.

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 5:36:12 AM

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One thing I really don't like though is when a profile has no mention of expecting money but then after an e-mail or two they spring it on you. At least be up front about it.

I suppose that is one way for some of these women, who might not be interested, to get a guy to stop writing to them.

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 5:37:05 AM

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Considering the emails I get from men with a wish list of kinky things they want done to them, I am not surprised at all that some of these women are actually looking for what you are describing.

Heh. "OMG! You couldn't pay me to do that!!!! ... Hmmmm.... Well, yeah, maybe you could...but it would have to be a lot. I wonder....."

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 5:38:45 AM

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I suppose that is one way for some of these women, who might not be interested, to get a guy to stop writing to them.

That's actually a brilliant idea.

(I wonder if I'd get away with it.)

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 5:49:14 AM

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One thing I really don't like though is when a profile has no mention of expecting money but then after an e-mail or two they spring it on you. At least be up front about it.

I suppose that is one way for some of these women, who might not be interested, to get a guy to stop writing to them.

Damn!! Now my secret is out!

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 5:49:44 AM

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Hi all. I've noticed that there are a lot of domme women on this site seeking submissive men who are "generous".

What is wrong with being or desiring to be with a generous human being?

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I'm not talking about the professional dommes who advertise here, I'm looking more at the non pros.

Since when did you begin equating generosity with "pay up?"

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Personally, it seems to me that many of these women are on here simply to take advantage of naive men whom they have no intention of actually doing anything with in person

Why would anyone want to give up a generous person, regardless of where she found him? If a man is generous online, one would certainly hope he would be even more so in person, so I don't understand the upside to staying online only for her.

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There was even one profile I saw where the girl (she was about 20, so she was a girl!) had a "wish list" of items listed that she was hoping people would buy for her. I don't know... I suppose financial submission is a legitemate form of this lifestyle, but as a sub guy I get rather annoyed and offended by this.

Yes financial submission is legitimate between consenting adults... Don't wives and husbands submit financially all of the time to one another? And yes Newsensation, I have news for you: lovers, especially dominant/submissive or M/s ones, take advantage of one another all the time. If I wanted 50/50, I'd still be married.
You can absolutely choose to waste your time and take offense to the fact that some women will not be your type (and likewise, you won't be their type), if you have that kind of time and energy. M

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 5:55:50 AM

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Maybe I wasn't clear about how it's been sprung on me. On more than one occasion I have spoke to someone from here on yahoo messanger. After about 10 minutes I will be asked to sign up to a website so we can do cam2cam. A website I have never heard of which is asking for my credit card details. It might sound like I'm bitter but there are a lot of dommes claiming that payment is how we can prove we are not fake. I really don't like being called fake just because I can't afford to part with what little money I have so easily.

That being said I am well aware that there are a lot of fakes on this site and it's not easy to know which is which. This creates a lot of mistrust between all of us and has certainly been a hinderance to me and probably everyone else finding what they are looking for.

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 6:01:15 AM

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I find that meeting face to face, and breaking bread, usually gets rid of the fakeness/pass the credit card info to prove you aren't it factor. M

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 6:02:40 AM

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Did you ever think, dennidson, that you could avoid that whole issue by going to a r/t event rather than trying to meet people through messenger? Just a thought.

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 6:03:27 AM

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Considering the emails I get from men with a wish list of kinky things they want done to them, *snip*...

Including the OP, the has his own little 'wish list' (oh look, he isn't looking to serve, but is more interested in sex...goody!). I personally love that he posted this without seeing the irony of complaining about the women in here who also do who also have their own little 'list'.

I personally like looking at the wish lists because there are always so ballsy (you want a new lap top but only a $5 'crop'- amateur! Go for the Hermes crop!). I have no doubt that men do buy items for some of these woman (including my own boy who bought me a photo essay called 'Revenge- totally check it out, very hot- while sill stationed in Iraq). For him, being able to send something like a book or flowers while overseas was a way to connect with me long before we actually met.

So I echo the call of others to man up, hit 'hide' or otherwise let others be as they are...and I agree to continue to ignore all the guys on here with their own little 'do me list' too...

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 6:05:30 AM

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Have you ever just flat out, up front, made it perfectly clear............"I am not spending one red cent on you until we meet in person......not giving anyone/thing a credit card number, not buying anyone I don't know personally anything. I just want to get to know you. Get to know the fabulous woman I imagine you to be" ?

Seems to me, immediate disclosure would end a lot of wasting of your precious time.

If they get pissy or offended, chances are, it is your $$ they wanted anyway. No harm, no foul.

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 6:06:02 AM

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I would but I dont know of any in my area

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RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "g... - 4/5/2009 6:06:46 AM

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Dommes specifying they are looking for "generous" men? Maybe it's because the cheapskates show up unbidden.

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