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RE: Unruely slave - 4/7/2009 7:37:57 AM

YoungBlondeSlave

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ORIGINAL: TheDude77

I've got a rather serious problem with my slave girl. When I tell her to do something, but it's not a "right now" situation, she almost never does what she is told. Example: I recently told her to label a bunch of CDs I'd burned and it took 2 months of reminders and being punished to finally get it done. And our living room went almost 6 weeks without getting vacumed at one point.

I've tried punishing her (we don't use "corporal punishment" for punishment, only play). We've had several serious conversations regarding whether this was really what she wanted or not. She swears up down and sideways that being my slave is what she wants. Recently when I threatened to take away her collar she begged me crying on her knees not to. But in the end she still doesn't do the things I tell her to do.

Her primary excuse is that she doesn't remember my instructions, or that she misunderstood me. And for quite a while we worked to address the problem from that point of view. But more than once recently we've had situations were we discussed my instructions in detail so I know she understood them. Then I gave her several reminders, and she still doesn't do as she is told. I believe she just don't consider what I'm telling her to do important.

In many ways she is a wonderful girl. Every morning when I get out of bed I know I'll have a fresh cup of coffee made just the way I want waiting for me. And she is very caring and loving. But in the end if I can't count on her to do what I tell her to, then I'm not interested in keeping her as a slave.

Well, i think that the labeling of a bunch of CDs is a rather menial task and something which shouldn't cause the end of a relationship. However, i understand the frustration in the fact that she is unable to follow through on such a simple task. i mean, it's not like you asked her to re-roof the house or pull an acre of weeds.

i agree with everyone here, start a list with her. Hell, do the gold-star thing like is done in Kindergarten if you have to until she knows what needs to be done. And how you like i done. Do the chores along with her to show her exactly how you want to have it done. Make it fun, let her wear a pretty, skimpy maid's outfit for you while she's doing the cleaning. So you can make it playtime as well. i mean, it would make it more fun for you both, wouldn't it?

i think that's one of the most difficult things about tasks and chores is that they are boring. But, if they are made fun then, well, they get done.

Or, maybe she really doesn't remember. i'm like that too, even at work calling numbers that i've called a zillion times i look at my co-workers and say "hey the number to...is what?" They look at me like i'm a moron but tell me anyway (my being blonde gives me way more latitude with my stupidity than most).

Also, ask her how she learns best, if she doesn't know. Do all three: tell her what you want, show her what you want and have her write down what you want. And, repeat. A lot.

But, never, ever say anything that you're not willing to follow through on. Especially if you weren't planning on doing it anyway. Because she will know automatically that you don't mean what you say and then she'll use it to walk all over you. You know, topping from the bottom. Soooo not a good thing. Maybe, in the end, you both need to go back to the drawing board and start all over. Re-training her and focusing more time on her weaknesses and helping her to turn them into strengths.

(in reply to TheDude77)