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Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 2:50:22 PM

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I'm being trained by this lovely Dom. He is caring, sweet, but strict and demanding when needed. I am his possession while I am being trained.

I'm debating on going to a social and munch that He normally goes to, but He won't be able to attend. He said that he would like me to go, even though he can not, but it feels sort of weird. (plus, I'm sort of scared seeing he won't be there and I don't know anyone else.) Would you still want your posession to go by herself?

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He is not telling me I have to go, it is my choice weather I go or not.

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 2:55:21 PM

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If I wanted you to go you would go, I expect my boy to attend events all the time and represent the family when I can not go.

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 3:06:31 PM

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It's only a munch.

He can request that someone keep an eye on you while you're there.

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 3:08:56 PM

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Hm. If he was comfortable with it and wished to go, I'd want him to. But, I know given the choice, he'd rather stay next to me wherever.

Let him go? Yes. Make him go? No.

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 3:11:41 PM

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Hm. If he was comfortable with it and wished to go, I'd want him to. But, I know given the choice, he'd rather stay next to me wherever.

Let him go? Yes. Make him go? No.

Can only agree to BKSir...

I know that I would not be comfortable to go under those circumstances on my own and so if I would not feel comfortable without him and would not have to go, then I would not go...

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 3:17:07 PM

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Thank Y/you all for your responses. I guess I'm just scared, haha.

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 3:17:57 PM

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I'd be fine with her going.

If he's a regular, he's probably talked about you. They may be interested to meet you.

Buck up and enjoy yourself

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 3:27:26 PM

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Thank Y/you all for your responses. I guess I'm just scared, haha.

Nothing wrong with that. I personally hate munches and things like that. Even if I've been going a while. I don't like gigs like that. Some people love them. Some people are terrified of them. Some people can't live without them. Nothing wrong with being nervous and/or scared about going. :)

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 3:33:56 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: hibiscusamira

I'm being trained by this lovely Dom. He is caring, sweet, but strict and demanding when needed. I am his possession while I am being trained.

I'm debating on going to a social and munch that He normally goes to, but He won't be able to attend. He said that he would like me to go, even though he can not, but it feels sort of weird. (plus, I'm sort of scared seeing he won't be there and I don't know anyone else.) Would you still want your posession to go by herself?

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He is not telling me I have to go, it is my choice weather I go or not.

I mostly *disagree* with the other posts....

If I'm "training" her, then I'd make it my business to be front row for all things new to her. So her first munch would be at my side and, that aside, I can't even contemplate suggesting a novice attend a gathering of total strangers on her own!

Talk about setting someone up for failure (not to mention a loooooong, boring night) - what are you people even thinking?

Focus.

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 3:45:38 PM

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What are we thinking? The exact same thing you are, "If I'm training her." Different methods and expectations for different people. And I know how my pet would behave, and if he didn't behave up to expectations, I'd find out. That's part of my training. Letting them go out on their own with the knowledge that just because I'm not there, they're still representing me, and everything they do directly reflects on me, so they should act accordingly.

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 4:27:30 PM

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I was in a similar situation last summer. I was living in a different state from my Mistress but she encouraged me to go to local munches to learn more about the lifestyle and interact with others. Yes I was nervouse going alone but it got easier each time. Talked to my Mistress on the phone afterward to discuss what had happened. It was a good experience and helped to make certain I better understood what I was getting into before I relocated.

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 4:39:08 PM

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If there were enough people here and we had munches in my area and I wished to go Master would allow it. But even if there were, I don't think I'd want to go honestly. I don't like groups of larger than three people and I've never been to a munch and wouldn't know how to behave. If Master went with me I'd feel safer, I could watch him and know the correct way to behave and he's gregarious enough that I could just kind of tuck myself behind him and watch

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 5:46:32 PM

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Would you still want your posession to go by herself?

Assuming I actually want to go, yes Valyraen would want me to go. As it happens, I am a very social creature and he isn't. So, more often than not, I go by myself or with friends.

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 5:50:59 PM

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Talk about setting someone up for failure (not to mention a loooooong, boring night) - what are you people even thinking?

It's a munch that he frequently attends so he knows the character (and friendliness) of those who regularly attend. Assuming she has reasonable social skills and functions well, I don't see how it's setting her up for a failure - just a bit of nerves that happens anytime someone is in a new social situation. He is not forcing her to go but simply allowing her to go if she wants to. If she doesn't want to, she isn't required.

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 6:04:41 PM

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thank Y/you all for your posts. Like I said before I think I'm just scared, but I have the opportunity to speak with the person who actually organizes the munches and is a good friend of my Sir. So, I think it'll all work out. :)

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 6:18:29 PM

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Master lets me go anywhere I want.

He trusts me.

I don't go though for the simple fact that they're really of no interest to me although I go with him which is pretty much the only time I ever have any kind of interest in attending such events.

If you want to go and he trusts you to go and you want to go then go. Why make anything more of it?

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 6:21:12 PM

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Talk about setting someone up for failure (not to mention a loooooong, boring night) - what are you people even thinking?

That she's an adult who's hopefully been in public settings before by herself? Bdsm settings aren't any different. If you can't handle being in a bar, nightclub, party, etc..by yourself then you should probably not go since you aren't used to such places.

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/2/2009 9:39:52 PM

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I wouldn't command you to go per se, but I would tell you that I think you should not miss the function and in so saying, I would expect you to attend. You would need some mighty good reasons for not attending such as being in hospital, in jail, about to deliver a baby (yours) of convince me that attending would place you at sever risk.

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/3/2009 1:08:29 AM

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Actualy I sorta agree with Focus.... in most situations I wouldn't BUT the OP is refering to her first time at His regular munch. Basicaly His home turf sceen-wise, the people on the scene who know Him best, those closest too Him... if she is in submission to Him, then knowing it is His regular munch will make it even more important to her to make a good impression as HIS.

Any other munch and I'd probably tell My girl to go if I couldn't make it.... same withMy 'home' Munch IF it wasn't her first time there. If it was her first time, she would be waiting till I could take her, introduce her around, settle her in...... show her off.

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RE: Would you let your possession go? - 5/3/2009 3:49:13 AM

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What are we thinking? The exact same thing you are, "If I'm training her." Different methods and expectations for different people. And I know how my pet would behave, and if he didn't behave up to expectations, I'd find out. That's part of my training. Letting them go out on their own with the knowledge that just because I'm not there, they're still representing me, and everything they do directly reflects on me, so they should act accordingly.

Fine; a different tack then....

What is it that you think is so all-fired important about a munch that you'd want your newbie sub to attend alone and expect her to be comfortable socialising with a bunch of complete strangers to her?

I've been to a few dozen over the ages and I was unsurprised to find I learned exponentially more about the lifestyle dynamic from chatting with even a novice fem/sub than I ever learnt from mixing with a room full of those of "like mind". I also learnt that generally 2 out of 3 in attendance are male subs and if you're not a Domme, they're usually not too interested in talking to you - bar the very rare exception.

And "letting them go out on their own"???? There are some things I don't expect to have to train my sub, such as how to function in the real world as a mature and independent adult. They bring that with them when we first meet or there'll be no relationship, let alone "training".... So again it comes back to this mystical munch.

Your first time at everything leaves an imprint you never forget. I'm selfish enough to admit that if I'm fortunate enough to be training a sub in things she's never done before, then I want my imprint on those new experiences.

So it's not just a munch, it's her FIRST munch. There's buggar-all of importance for her to learn by going but there is a new experience for her to savour - she'll wait until I can be available. Lol, tha hell you're thinking the same as me....

Focus.

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