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Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 12:50:01 PM

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Can dominants NOT be assertive?

I'd be curious to see how submissives score on this free personality test:

http://www.queendom.com/tests/minitests/assertiveness_abridged_access.html

Don't be shy!

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 12:59:32 PM

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mmmmmmm I only got a 90

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 1:02:24 PM

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My score was a 73.

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 1:06:34 PM

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This is an even more interesting test:

http://www.queendom.com/tests/relationships/social_skills_access.html

I consider social skills to be one of the most important factors in developing chemistry. Are kinky people more/less socially skilled than the mainstream?

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 1:08:03 PM

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Submissive here and i got a 30...

Hmmmmmmmm

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 1:14:14 PM

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i got a 55

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 1:27:45 PM

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My score was also 73

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 1:45:49 PM

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Results of Your Assertiveness Test
Assertiveness

Your score = 90

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 1:47:16 PM

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Your score = 73

What does your score mean?
According to your results on the Assertiveness Test, you seem to be doing relatively well in standing up for yourself. In most day-to-day situations, you possess the necessary skills and inner-confidence to tell others what you need, think or want. There may be the occasional moment, however, when you find yourself hesitating to declare your view on things. Why not take some steps to improve your ability to stand up for yourself, since you've already mastered the basics? You have nothing to lose, but plenty to gain.

Wow I am more assertive than I thought.. :) But behind closed doors I would have to say it is a different story.. most of the time ;)

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 1:55:54 PM

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Your score = 70

According to your results on the Assertiveness Test, you seem to be doing relatively well in standing up for yourself. In most day-to-day situations, you possess the necessary skills and inner-confidence to tell others what you need, think or want. There may be the occasional moment, however, when you find yourself hesitating to declare your view on things. Why not take some steps to improve your ability to stand up for yourself, since you've already mastered the basics? You have nothing to lose, but plenty to gain.

i think i am also Submissive when I need to be and the world the way it is I cant afford to be in public. i am a sub not a doormat forthe public

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 2:07:46 PM

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Your score = 55
Social Skills

pretty damned stupid test...too many white collar questions---i am a bluecollar man

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 2:08:43 PM

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Social skills i got a 76

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 2:10:34 PM

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Well, I did both tests

the first one I scored a 40 on
the second I scored a 59

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 2:14:21 PM

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got a 79 on the social thingy... guess I don't need charm school afterall

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 2:18:14 PM

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I got a 79 on the social skills test as well. However, I didn't like many of the choices for answers. Too many absolutes and I do not believe that absolutes can be applied to human behavior.

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 2:22:00 PM

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Your score = 38
.....ouch

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 2:22:11 PM

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Results of Your Assertiveness Test

Assertiveness
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Your score = 40 Your score

What does your score mean?

According to your results on the Assertiveness Test, you seem to be doing relatively well in standing up for yourself. In most day-to-day situations, you possess the necessary skills and inner-confidence to tell others what you need, think or want. There may be the occasional moment, however, when you find yourself hesitating to declare your view on things. Why not take some steps to improve your ability to stand up for yourself, since you've already mastered the basics? You have nothing to lose, but plenty to gain.

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 3:14:44 PM

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Assertive Test> 58

Social Skills> 75

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 3:36:28 PM

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33 on the first and 79 on the second.

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RE: Can submissives be assertive? - 2/5/2006 3:55:59 PM

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On the assertive test, I got a 95.

edited to add: I forgot to paste the explanation for the assertive test here. But basically, I don't have any trouble sticking up for myself.... nor do I bully people or act inapropriately.

Social Skills score 87.

Your results show that your social skills are as sharp as a tack. People most likely feel comfortable with you because you know what it takes to put them at ease, and you willingly use this knowledge to do so. You are fortunate to have excellent social skills because this puts you at an advantage in many ways.

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