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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 5:06:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Fawne

HI, and thanks for asking!

thetammyjo: " If I wanted risk on an emotional or psychological level, I'd force myself to be vanilla"

I mean why do you think you'd need to be vanilla?

The rest is general for everyone. As in a philosophical question about life.

Take care!


For me, forcing myself to be vanilla would be the risk taking that the OP brought up later on (though in SM examples not Ds or ownership examples).

I wasn't making any comments other than what it was for me in relationships to risk along those lines. Ds, ownership, that is where I feel safe; I don't do it to be risky or to take risks. I was trying to point out that risk taking isn't a universal nore are risks the same things to all people.


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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 5:07:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: caitlyn



I probably don't fit into any of the categories here. I'm not an owned slave, but the thought of it sure sounds cool to me. I'm not a real submissive, but the thought of it sure sounds cool to me. I could probably convince myself that I do fit into one or both of those groups. I could probably actually shoe-horn myself into one of them ... I'm not the least attractive girl on Earth ... but none of that changes the reality that I can't even keep a boyfriend for more than a few weeks. Truth be told, I don't listen to anyone, and have a pretty low level of relationship maturity. Oh, what a great fucking slave or sub I would make!!!!! I feel sorry for the poor guy, and I don't even know him yet.



LOL, that is great, the first completely honest post I think I've seen. I bet more people are in that category than would like to admit it, including myself, but I'm sorta fugly so that doesn't help much either.

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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 5:52:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Elegant
A new subject which should be taken elsewhere but I will respond here in two ways:
1. Do you know and/or understand irony? You first statement just rephrased what I have already said


Not only do I understand irony, but I also understand the English language.

What you said was the following:

quote:


Fire play is risky if done by those who do not have the knowledge of such or done with no thought to psychological impact to the receiver.


This directly implies that fire play is not risky if done by those who do have the knowledge...

It was to this that I responded, and I quote, "Fire play is always risky." Implying that even if you have the knowledge, it is still risky, hence my original categorization as edge play.

If you think that is what you said, you need to have a look at the way you communicate.

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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 5:58:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Elegant
If you do not care to own the mind or heart of a slave does that mean you want an empty slave: a person that does not think or feel..a person who does not learn or emote..a person who has no substance and no loyality?


Of course not. Because I don't want to own their heart or mind it does not mean I don't want them to have one. I want to own them in a way that is pure ownership. It is not ownership mixed with devotion or love or loyalty. It is slavery as close to the traditional sense as one can get.

My slaves are bright, intelligent, passionate, and have no shortage of substance or loyalty, but it has very little to do with their desire to be owned. They have well rounded relationships with significant others, and find the times they spend with me as slaves to be a release from their day to day lives.

I think that is the first real question you have asked of me...

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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 6:02:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble
I wonder why you felt compelled to point that out. For you, perhaps, trying to determine where someone else fits may, indeed, be a path which leads no where, but for others, it is the light bulb that springs the idea for their own path.


Celeste,

I like you a lot.

I wasn't around much when you showed up, so let me give you a belated welcome to the boards...you are a very nice addition!

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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 6:08:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Archer

The thing is I have not said that temporary ownership is not possible yet you continue to attribute that to me.


I am sorry, but over and over you have said that what I call ownership is not ownership.

quote:


As for not interested in owning the mind and or heart, then you don't own the entire thing only part of it the rest remains owned by them.
How do you reconcile that?


Take a slave in the pre-Civil War south. Do you think their Masters owned their hearts and minds? Now that was slavery...it had nothing to do with romance. That is the kind of ownership I persue.

How do you reconcile what you call slavery with the real tradition of slavery? They share the same word, but not much else.

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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 6:21:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NeedToUseYou

To me this is very simple, ownership implies you can sell or give something away. obviously you can't do that if there is a time limit imposed.


Why not?

I can certainly sell two of my five hours if I choose to.

quote:


For example let's say you acquire a "slave" for 5 hours. You can't then give that slave away to someone else for a lifetime.


So ownership is not ownership unless it is forever? That sounds familiar.


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Since you lack control of the person after the 5 hours. So, since your future rights over the person are limited to a set period of time ownership never occurred. Control occured, but not ownership. Since, if you own something you can give it away without restriction. Admittedly, in your example you can't do somethings with the person, so you never owned them.


Then there is no such thing as ownership, because all slaves have limitations.

quote:


Name one thing that a person can own that can't be given away permanently and I'll agree with your stand point.


Intellectual property. I can transfer a patent, and thereby ownership of my intellectual property, but once that patent expires, the intellectual property will no longer be owned by the person I sold it to. It can not be given away with any permanance, but it is still owned during the life of the patent.

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You are on the low-end of the scale, and see that it really is nothing more than play acting and so state why can't I play act for 5 hours instead of a life-time.


Bulls-eye.

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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 6:26:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Elegant

Fire play is risky if done by those who do not have the knowledge of such or done with no thought to psychological impact to the receiver.

Hmmmmm..sorta like some peoples concept of M/s...grin


I have to ask this in context here. Are you saying or implying that fire play in all its variations is risky only if done by those who do not have the knowledge of such? If so are you them saying or implying that fire play in all its aspects and variations poses no risk if dine by some one who is both experienced and knowlededgable of such areas?

I ask this for one reason, I was married to a professional fire eater and as part of her performances both she and I would use a great many variations of fire use including blowing the holocast which we have done so the fire immersed a naked female who was properly briefed and rehursed as well as having a protective mask covered with fir proofing gel and which covered her hair as well. The only "damage" was sone pubic hairs which were not shaved, singed. However I can tell you from experience that even professionals with hundreds of hours working with fire get hurt. This is why I carried a sophisticated First Aid box with me.

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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 6:27:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

Have you ever stopped and thought that maybe, just maybe, ownership isn't about love and romantic envolvement? That it about service over your sexual wants and desires? That it's about the person being of service to another and not having to love them or them loving you.
No where in this quote:
quote:

ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty
And here is the real crux of the issue, no? I couldn't care less about owning the heart and mind, I want to own the slave. Your heart and mind ownership is very romantic, and works for a great many people, but it does not allow for my kind of ownership...why?

Did Taggard say this:
quote:

So basically you just want a girl to fuck and hand off?

Nor is it implied anywhere that I have seen.


Holy crap, someone gets it!!!

Nice to meet you, and if you find yourself in Western NY, give me a holler, and I will buy you a beer.

That holds for anyone else in this thread as well, of course...

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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 6:31:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

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The thing is I have not said that temporary ownership is not possible yet you continue to attribute that to me.


I am sorry, but over and over you have said that what I call ownership is not ownership.


No I specificly mentioned those times when the close date is a known factor did not fit, Those times where you own someone without a close date speecified and later transfer that ownership could fit, But every time you failed to note that. And thus I left alone some examples where temporary ownership is possible.


quote:


As for not interested in owning the mind and or heart, then you don't own the entire thing only part of it the rest remains owned by them.
How do you reconcile that?


Take a slave in the pre-Civil War south. Do you think their Masters owned their hearts and minds? Now that was slavery...it had nothing to do with romance. That is the kind of ownership I persue.

How do you reconcile what you call slavery with the real tradition of slavery? They share the same word, but not much else.

Taggard


LOL and who's being jdugemental of the other's kink now?

I never mentioned love and romance I mentioned owning their heart an entirely different thing you again fail to recognize.
BTW anytime I see the REAL word as in the above the statement gets pretty much dismissed as crap.

Note While you accused others of slighting you as not being Real you fall vixctim to the exact tactic.


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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 6:40:36 PM   
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How do you reconcile what you call slavery with the real tradition of slavery? They share the same word, but not much else.

Taggard
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Actually with an example much older than your civil war slavery, Greco Roman slavery, and biblical slavery both had slavery where the heart of the slave was owned not in every case but in enough cases that literature and historic documents cite it.

How many slaves gave their lives for their owners in greek literature?
How many roman slaves did the same?

Exodus chapt. 21 V. 5 and 6 say "But if a slave declares, "I love my master, my wife and my children, I do not wish to go free". His master shall take him unto G-d, he shall take him to the door or to the doorpost , and his master shall pierce his ear with an awl: and he shall serve him forever." Deuteronomy chapt. 15 v. 16 and 17 repeat basically the same thing, " … you will take the awl and put it in his ear into the door, and he will be your slave forever. Also with your female slave you shall do this."

Also there are several documented examples of African American slaves in the civil war south laying down their lives for thier masters willingly.


So I reconcile my view quite eassily with historic definitions.




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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 6:46:06 PM   
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BTW anytime I see the REAL word as in the above the statement gets pretty much dismissed as crap.


Interesting. I read the use of the word 'real' in that sentence to mean historical in context. If you substitute the word historical for 'real' is it still dismissed as crap? I only ask, because in your dismissal, you didn't answer the question and was rather wondering if you would do so as I would be most interested to hear the answer.

Celeste

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::also edited to add, thank you for the welcome, Taggard. I enjoy your posts as well. They make me think.. which could be dangerous. :)::

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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 6:51:24 PM   
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Exodus chapt. 21 V. 5 and 6 say "But if a slave declares, "I love my master, my wife and my children, I do not wish to go free". His master shall take him unto G-d, he shall take him to the door or to the doorpost , and his master shall pierce his ear with an awl: and he shall serve him forever." Deuteronomy chapt. 15 v. 16 and 17 repeat basically the same thing, " … you will take the awl and put it in his ear into the door, and he will be your slave forever. Also with your female slave you shall do this."




G'day Archer,

I really wish you hadn't used that quote.. I'm heading for 36 hours without sleep and looking at another 12 hours before I can head ito the land of nod. The problem is all I can see when I close my eyes (to have a catnap y'know), is to see slave ears pined by awls to bloody great wooden doors.. perhaps this is what Caesar refered to when he told the Romans to lend him their ears?

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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 7:04:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: IronBear

quote:

ORIGINAL: Archer

Exodus chapt. 21 V. 5 and 6 say "But if a slave declares, "I love my master, my wife and my children, I do not wish to go free". His master shall take him unto G-d, he shall take him to the door or to the doorpost , and his master shall pierce his ear with an awl: and he shall serve him forever." Deuteronomy chapt. 15 v. 16 and 17 repeat basically the same thing, " … you will take the awl and put it in his ear into the door, and he will be your slave forever. Also with your female slave you shall do this."




G'day Archer,

I really wish you hadn't used that quote.. I'm heading for 36 hours without sleep and looking at another 12 hours before I can head ito the land of nod. The problem is all I can see when I close my eyes (to have a catnap y'know), is to see slave ears pined by awls to bloody great wooden doors.. perhaps this is what Caesar refered to when he told the Romans to lend him their ears?



Yeah Hot isn't it, LOL


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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 7:14:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: IronBear

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ORIGINAL: Elegant

Fire play is risky if done by those who do not have the knowledge of such or done with no thought to psychological impact to the receiver.

Hmmmmm..sorta like some peoples concept of M/s...grin


I have to ask this in context here. Are you saying or implying that fire play in all its variations is risky only if done by those who do not have the knowledge of such?


No Sir.

I did not use the word 'omly'. But good points!




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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 7:15:59 PM   
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Name one thing that a person can own that can't be given away permanently and I'll agree with your stand point.


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TallDarkAndWitty:
Intellectual property. I can transfer a patent, and thereby ownership of my intellectual property, but once that patent expires, the intellectual property will no longer be owned by the person I sold it to. It can not be given away with any permanance, but it is still owned during the life of the patent


Here's the difference in your example, You never in the USA have true Ownership of Intellectual Property. The government does, you don't. You are granted exclusive rights for a set period of time to use it as you see fit. Then the government removes your exclusive rights after a period of time. In that example the Government owns all Intellectual Property, we as individuals are only granted temporary rights, that can be revoked by the U.S. Government if they feel the Intellectual Property is vital for the nation. So, the flaw in your logic is you are assuming false ownership. You never owned it even in the weakest sense of the word, you were "granted"(similiar to lease) exclusive "rights" by the Government(True Owner) for a period of time. Just because you have temporary rights, isn't the same as ownership. It sucks but that's the way it works.

Anyway, I'll check back tomorrow if replied to.

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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 7:45:05 PM   
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Actually with an example much older than your civil war slavery, Greco Roman slavery, and biblical slavery both had slavery where the heart of the slave was owned not in every case but in enough cases that literature and historic documents cite it.


Again, you prove my case. When a slave falls in love, they no longer care about ownership. They stay, even when the ownership is legally terminated. They are no longer owned, at least in a legal sense.

Surely you realize that the examples of slaves who stayed with Masters when they could be free are the exception, right? Men were marked on the ear as a sign of shame, not as some sort of badge of honor.

Where, in history, do you have men (or women) entering into non-consensual slavery for love or whatever?

Surely you will admit that in the course of human slavery, love has had an insignificant part to play...right?

Your version of slavery is much more like the freed slave who stays...once freed, there is no longer ownership...just staying.

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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 7:52:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NeedToUseYou

Here's the difference in your example, You never in the USA have true Ownership of Intellectual Property. The government does, you don't. You are granted exclusive rights for a set period of time to use it as you see fit. Then the government removes your exclusive rights after a period of time. In that example the Government owns all Intellectual Property, we as individuals are only granted temporary rights, that can be revoked by the U.S. Government if they feel the Intellectual Property is vital for the nation. So, the flaw in your logic is you are assuming false ownership. You never owned it even in the weakest sense of the word, you were "granted"(similiar to lease) exclusive "rights" by the Government(True Owner) for a period of time. Just because you have temporary rights, isn't the same as ownership. It sucks but that's the way it works.


Ok, if I am able to sell it, I must own it, right?

I sell something to someone, and they use it. It then expires. Whatever I sold to them, they only owned for a temporary time. And they owned it, cause they could sell it too. But they only owned it until it expired.

I disagree with your statement that the Government owns the intellectual property. That simply isn't how it works. The holder of a patent owns that intellectual property. If you want to argue that the government doesn't really take away ownership once a patent expires, I might agree with you. The government simply stops protecting your rights of ownership. So you could say that your ownership of said property is permanent (unless you sell/trade/give away), and just that the protection of that property is temporary.

So you want to know of some property that is normally possessed for a short period of time, other than my example...I will think on it and see if I can find an example.

Taggard

Edited to add some examples of temporary ownership as used on the WWW (thank you Google):

Apparently in Azerbaijan, a lease is considered temporary ownership:
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748-2.1 Object of leasing, transferred to lessee for temporary ownership and use, shall be a property of lessor.

748-2.2. Ownership rights and the right to use the object of leasing shall fully be transferred to lessee, unless otherwise is specified in the leasing agreement



Here is some legal document that discusses the ramifications of temporary ownership:
quote:


These clients have been told by others (including some persons
at the Department of Justice) that their temporary ownership of the
public accommodation is a consideration in determining whether or
not there is an affirmative obligation to remove barriers under the
cited sections.


Apparently they have temporary ownership in Poland:
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27. Under Article 7 of the 1945 decree, former owners had the right to lodge an application for temporary ownership of their plots (własność czasowa). The authorities competent to deal with such applications first had to examine whether the plots concerned had not been designated for public use. If they considered that granting temporary ownership to former owners would not be incompatible with public use, a decision could be made in favour of the former owner.


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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 10:14:53 PM   
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RE: Ownership is not ownership, unless it is forever... - 2/17/2006 10:49:30 PM   
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Apparently in Azerbaijan, a lease is considered temporary ownership:


Excellent research. We look forward to your move.

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