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ORIGINAL: runnerslut4mstr Hi. I'm recently new to this lifestyle, howeverI have known its what I've wanted to do for a while. I have recently had a master own me. I have researched for a few years about what this lifestyle was about and everything with it. My question is about the TPE lifestyle. I feel that this is the type of lifestyle I want to live, however I have set a few limits on what I wont give up control over due to my very strong feelings and expections (I guess you could call them expectations). I dont want to give up(nor do I think its right for me to be asked to either) my family or friends. The two other things I wont give up and go hand in hand are my future career in the military (have had these plans for a few years now) and my schooling because of a promise I made to a family member. Now I have talked with my master and we are still having an ongoing discussion about whether or not I will have to give up ROTC and joining the military, but possibly continue schooling. He has mentioned the ROTC thing as a we'll see whether or not you shall finish it. I was wondering if there were other master/mistress out there that could give me their opinion on this matter. Is it wrong of me to ask to keep the school and ROTC due to the promise I had made to a family member that I would continue my schooling and complete the ROTC program? I am willing to be collared and serve my master, but I feel a strong desire to fulfill this promise that I made to my family member. I am new to this, so I dont know exactly what is the right way/wrong way for a Dom to act about these things. I just want to make sure I do the right thing with all of this. Stand by your stated goals and limits, OP. Keep your promises to yourself and your family. Tell him you are finishing what you started, and you like your chosen career, and its not open for discussion. There are lots of people who have a 24/7 dynamic and still serve in the military, finish college, etc. (Message me privately for details.) ROTC will give you a great start, for a fine military career. (Spoken from experience. Again, message me privately for details.) If this dom wanted someone who doesn't want to finish college, be in ROTC, and be a military Officer, he shouldn't have chosen you. Duh. There are lots of people he could choose from, who don't have any of those things as goals in their lives. Why does he hafta come along and pressure you to give up the goals that you have set in place and are already well on your way toward achieving? What a selfish jerk. I'd dump him in a New York minute, and run screaming away if I were you. He does not have your best interest at heart, to say the least. And his values are seriously fucked up, and don't fit well with yours at all, if he doesn't see how important it is for you to keep your promises, and finish what you start, and have a career that you feel is meaningful and worthwhile. There might as well be a neon sign over his head saying "selfish, insecure loser who wants to mess up your life" with an arrow pointing down at him. What other proof do you need, that this guy is a bad match for you? He wants you to come to a schreeching halt in your schooling and career progression. Don't do it. Why would such a person even be attractive to you, as a potential partner?? I'd be pissed. I'd tell him to go fuck himself, if it were me. Stick to your plan. It is an outstanding plan, for an amazing career! Choose a dom who supports you in achieving your goals and dreams. This guy will be nothing but a hindrance to you, at every opportunity. Seriously. College, ROTC and the military are big enough challenges without some asshole giving you grief about it constantly. The people who will have the easiest time of it are those whose loved ones are actively supportive of their choice. Without your significant other's wholehearted support, you could have a really hard time. And if he wanted to be a even more of a jerk than he already has shown that he is, there are some things he easily could do to actively fuck up your career. The military desperately needs good Officers (and good NCO's) right now. As a military member, you can make a huge difference in the lives of thousands of military members and their families.... And veterans and civilians as well. It is a fine, honorable career choice. Be true to yourself, and follow through. You won't regret it.
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