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RE: What is your safe word? - 9/8/2009 1:53:32 PM

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In our house there are no safewords. "No", "Don't", "Stop". That's what you say when you want things to end. And only when you want things to end. That's not to say that things will end right then and there, but it usually does quickly. i don't really agree with the use of safewords, but only because by the time you really need to say them.....you won't remember what they are. i've never had one, don't see myself ever needing one. If i didn't trust the person holding the toy, or if my Master didn't trust the person He's allowing to play, they wouldn't be there.

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RE: What is your safe word? - 9/9/2009 10:47:31 AM

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For emotional stuff, I don't use them. But I have a hand signal because I'm frequently gagged.
If I open and close my fists rapidly, he knows there's a problem and removes the gag to find out what it is.

If I open just one slowly while trying to twist that wrist he knows that wrist is going numb. It's always the left one, very sensitive to any pressure on the nerve so these days he mostly ties farther up the forearm and around the bottom of the palm.

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RE: What is your safe word? - 9/9/2009 10:48:55 AM

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I don't believe in safe words; never have; never have used one...and even if I had..it would have been ignored

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RE: What is your safe word? - 9/9/2009 12:17:27 PM

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To immediately stop whatever is going on?
"No."
It was excellent practice for saying what is meant, even under duress. i'm grateful for that lesson.

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RE: What is your safe word? - 9/9/2009 12:31:47 PM

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"What the f**k is your problem, Dude"???

"Oooops, did I say that outloud"???

**Eta, we don't have a "safeword". Never did, never will. He does what he wants & I know I won't die. Complete trust. We've come a long way baby**

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RE: What is your safe word? - 9/9/2009 12:53:59 PM

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my last owner did not believe in safe words, He felt like I could be crying wolf a lil to much. He also said who is really in control if I had a word I could say that would just stop everything to a halt. Besides with a ball gag in who can hear any ways. Eye contact is very important to me, to go slow and really pay attention to the body language and what the eyes are saying.

One of my ex playpartners was good like that also. I never safeworded in the three years we played together. I had a safe word, It was really only there, now that I look back at the situation, for me to feel like I had an out when I needed it.

Granted he was an emotional fuck wit, so I could not stay in any relationship with him after awhile. But he was a good Top in the physical aspects.

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RE: What is your safe word? - 9/10/2009 4:52:56 AM

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I use mommie

My slaves can't affectionately refer to me as mom etc.

But when they call for their Mommy, I give them their break . . .
if they can't talk, blink left eye, move left pinky finger, left toe - they'll let you know

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RE: What is your safe word? - 9/11/2009 2:27:01 PM

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Tachycardia :-D My Dom and I laugh every time we watch House and Cameron says my safe word.

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RE: What is your safe word? - 9/11/2009 3:10:55 PM

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yellow and red are ones i use

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RE: What is your safe word? - 9/22/2009 10:19:33 AM

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had thought about a safe word but hadnt thought about what would happen while gagged. will def give them something to hold and drop when i start to do this.
thanks for that

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RE: What is your safe word? - 9/22/2009 2:51:13 PM

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Mine, not that i generally find myself requiring one, is AGAMEMNON.
Many moons ago i did switch and used CALICO. But it proved too easy to blurt out! In an effort to further my thresholds in various diciplines i changed it to AGAMEMNON. Not so easy to use frivolously!

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RE: What is your safe word? - 9/22/2009 2:55:11 PM

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I tell subs it's "Call 911"

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RE: What is your safe word? - 9/22/2009 4:07:12 PM

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We don't have a safe word anymore. When we first started playing it was "red".

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RE: What is your safe word? - 9/22/2009 5:56:10 PM

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Valyraen and I don't really use safewords. Never really have, probably never will. Last night we were trying to remember what it was and neither of us could agree on what we had decided it was so that probably tells you something. Generally it doesn't come too much into play. I'll say "that knot is too tight", "please hit somewhere else" and if he wants me to enjoy the beating, he will. Our real safeword is his name and it comes into play for rape scenes.

We both love them and I love being able to fight him, scream no, threaten the cops, whatever. It gets me all hot and bothered. But when I have to tell him something and I need him to realize it's serious and we need to stop and check things out, I say his name.

At this point, I don't particularly feel one or another about safewords except that they can be useful and don't particularly get why people can get up in arms about them - though I did once upon a time before I got more experienced and hopefully wiser. I also believe that any word that causes a scene to stop or pause, from "Stop" to "I'm calling the cops" is a safeword as it has the same effect as me saying his name in a rape scene. The word itself doesn't make you safe, just like a safe call doesn't mean you won't be hurt.

But it's another tool in the box and if it is useful to your situation, be it long-term or for the moment, then pull it out.

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RE: What is your safe word? - 10/4/2009 9:53:10 AM

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-chiming in late to thread-

Had to use my safe word twice- My safeword is "safeword"

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RE: What is your safe word? - 10/4/2009 11:43:07 AM

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Don't have one, never did. If I have a problem I just tell him what the problem is in plain old English and then he decides what to do from there...continue or fix the problem or stop altogether.

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I don't play until I figure out all of the flaws and all of the negative things that can happen with them,

All of them? That's an impossibility. There's no way you can know the millions of possibilities of what can happen, the negatives, flaws, positives, etc...I would try just paying attention instead.

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Don't have one, never did. If I have a problem I just tell him what the problem is in plain old English and then he decides what to do from there...continue or fix the problem or stop altogether.

And if you are unable to speak?

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RE: What is your safe word? - 10/4/2009 11:45:43 AM

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Just curious to know of everybody's safe word of choice?

With me, I usually agree with my slaves that unless she is gagged, the safe word is "Taco Bell". Why? *shrug* I guess because we find humor in the concept of it all, really.

Humor in safety? Somehow I do not think many submissives would find comfort in such an approach

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RE: What is your safe word? - 10/4/2009 11:49:48 AM

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For those who involve themselves in public play I would suggest finding out the recognized words used at the apprpriate club that you frequent

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RE: What is your safe word? - 10/9/2009 11:59:27 AM

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"Shatnerface", the idea being that it kills the mood by making my girlfriend collapse into hysterical laughter.

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RE: What is your safe word? - 10/10/2009 8:14:51 AM

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And if you are unable to speak?

If you are unable to speak, then you are unable to say the safeword either.

If you mean gagged, that's what a gesture or dropping something is good for. He then removes the gag, I tell him I have a cramp, he fixes it and we continue.

If you mean freezing up because of accidentally hitting an emotional trigger, that's why a competent top pays attention to body language.

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