leadership527
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ORIGINAL: worthlesstrash I suppose I just try to analyze things to much, I want to know why everything is the way it is, and why it's done the way it's done. Maybe I should just find the comfort in knowing I can give him that pleasure he can't get anywhere else. I will try to find a way to do that. Maybe in return I will start finding pleasure in it also and the pain won't seem so bad anymore. *chuckles* Dont' feel bad. I don't "get it" either. But I dont' think, really, there is anything TO get. In any relationship, vanilla or otherwise, one partner has a need and the other provides. So long as you can provide for his need without causing some sort of undue emotional or physical harm to yourself, then... well... so what? While I don't deal with this directly since Carol & I aren't into SM, I do give Carol a wide variety of commands... some of which she's less than thrilled with. But again, it's worth pointing out that even in a vanilla relationship, nobody gets their way all the time. Some days you just take one for the team. So long as Carol is getting what she needs also, she's more than happy to give me mine.
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~Jeff I didn't so much "enslave" Carol as I did "enlove" her. - Me I want a joyous, loving, respectful relationship where the male is in charge and deserves to be. - DavanKael
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