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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/2/2009 11:11:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

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ORIGINAL: leadership527

Yeah, I have to admit, that suspicion has been lurking in my head also. Even our RL friends (also self-identified master/slave) have a very difficult time with what we do -- and this despite the fact that I'm all sweetness and light.. no whips and chains in my closet yet. It isn't that I DO anything to Carol... it's just the overwhelming control I exert over her life affronts them.

In fact, I find myself struggling frequently to talk to other M/s people about what's going on in our marriage. I feel like we're all using the same words, but somehow we are not even remotely talking the same language.
Sorry, I'm calling bullshit, this a strawman - you are not more "real", and nobody is "affronted" by your awesome powers of seduction, get over yourself.

That's amazing! You know the people in Jeff's life better than he does enough to properly assess if they've been affronted or not?
Allright, poor choice of words on my part - I don't know Jeff or anythong about him, nor am I certain why I should care, since the thread isn't about him, fact is I didn't eve read the personal anecdote, after, as stated previously, the implied inclusion of everybody that has disagreed with him in this thread, the others, I don't know, I have no idea.

i.e., nobody in this thread is affronted, certainly not me, leave me out of it - believe me, I experience plenty of affront myself, it's not always that people don't understand, they don't want to understand, or admit they do - it's called politics.

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero] It's odd you like tossing a fallacy buzz word like "straw man" and then go on to make so fabulous an example of it with the use of "awesome powers of seduction" (since nowhere in anything Jeff said was he trying to woo anyone and certainly made mention of nothing other than his relationship dynamic).

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ORIGINAL: Amaros

It's been largely a discussion of semantics, objective vs. subjective, this isn't a vanilla site: call her a slave a slut, a donkey fucker, I could care less.

you mean you couldn't care less.
Actually, I probably could care a little less.

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero]And if you genuinely couldn't care less you would not be so suddenly wound up about a poster talking to someone else that you needed to, to use the popular adage, insert your C into their A & B conversation (and it's not the cutting into the talk that's the problem, this is a public forum after all...it's the lack of following through on the context of the conversation they were having before assuming he was try to make any kind of generally pompous comment).

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You're happy, she's happy, why the persecution complex? Somebody doesn't like it, fuck 'em.

Do you have any other marvelous tidbits of wisdom as to how other people should conduct themselves in their lives with other acquaintances and, even further, how to properly discuss those interactions in online fora according to Amaros Etiquette™?
Yes, don't make oblique, thinly veiled inferences about other posters, have the balls to tell them to their face.

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/2/2009 11:37:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Amaros

I never said people couldn't be affronted, why would s I say something idiotic like that?

I've been asking myself that very question.

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I said nobody in this thread appears to me to have been affronted, which is what was inferred in the entire exchange, DP made the inference, leadership agreed, then told his sad story.

Incorrect. Either a lie or a rather pertinent reading error. We'll recap below to assist the clarity:

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Yeah, I have to admit, that suspicion has been lurking in my head also. Even our RL friends (also self-identified master/slave) have a very difficult time with what we do -- and this despite the fact that I'm all sweetness and light.. no whips and chains in my closet yet. It isn't that I DO anything to Carol... it's just the overwhelming control I exert over her life affronts them.

Sorry, I'm calling bullshit, this a strawman - you are not more "real", and nobody is "affronted" by your awesome powers of seduction, get over yourself.

You see the use of the word "affronts"? Jeff's use of it is relevant to the pronoun "them" which, if we follow the sentence grammatically, is a reference to the earlier bolded noun "RL friends".

Jeff was talking to someone else about how people in his life have acted affronted to his dynamic.  That you mistakenly read that to somehow mean he was talking about anyone in this thread is your error, not his...and most certainly your mistake for feeling compelled to try and belittle him based on your reading error.

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/2/2009 11:46:19 PM   
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Yeah, I have to admit, that suspicion has been lurking in my head also. Even our RL friends (also self-identified master/slave) have a very difficult time with what we do -- and this despite the fact that I'm all sweetness and light.. no whips and chains in my closet yet. It isn't that I DO anything to Carol... it's just the overwhelming control I exert over her life affronts them.


You see the use of the word "affronts"? Jeff's use of the term is relevant to the pronoun "them" which, if we follow the sentence grammatically, is a reference to the earlier bolded noun "RL friends".


Sure, if you leave out the post he was responding to - the sentence begins withteh word "even", meaning also, in other words, besides these VR assholes - no?

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Jeff was talking to someone else about how people in his life have acted affronted to his dynamic.  That you mistakenly read that to somehow mean he was talking about anyone in this thread is your mistake, not his...and most certainly your mistake for feeling compelled to try and belittle him based on your reading error.
Nice try but no.

But, by all means you may continue your thread jack unmolested, , I just didn't want to confuse the OP, the whole slave issue was a side thing to begin with.

It takes balls to do TPE, there's no doubt about that - if it were a vanilla marriage, nobody would think twice, but they always assume the woman is either being victimized or she's an idiot.

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/2/2009 11:59:46 PM   
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You see the use of the word "affronts"? Jeff's use of the term is relevant to the pronoun "them" which, if we follow the sentence grammatically, is a reference to the earlier bolded noun "RL friends".


Sure, if you leave out the post he was responding to - the sentence begins withteh word "even", meaning also, in other words, besides these VR assholes - no?

"Even" is a grammatical dissociative term. It's meant to draw a specific distinction between "others" and "RL friends" and he goes on to delineate specific things only these RL friends would know (what he "does to Carol").

In addition, the "others" in that relevant sub-conversation were hypothetical; "a great many [for whom] all this D/s or BDSM stuff is only palatable and believable firmly within the confines of fantasy."

Some people in this thread may exhibit reactions that may arguably put them in that grouping, but Jeff certainly was not accusing anyone directly. The hypothetical group of people being spoken about up to that point were people who specifically would be affronted by Jeff's dynamic. "Even" was meant to illustrate how, additionally, known people in his life espouse such a mentality.

You may as well have "called bullshit" on a sentence like:

People who really dig country music seem uncomfortable with my demeanor. Even close friends of mine who've known me for a while seem to get a little ill at ease in my presence.

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/3/2009 12:10:20 AM   
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Fuck his RL friends already, get new friends - who in this thread is he referring to?

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/3/2009 1:20:03 AM   
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So anyway, w/respect to the OP, who has apparently given up in disgust, don't sweat the whole real vs. roleplaying thing, it's a recurring theme, the same topic will up here in another thread in a month or Two.

You find your niche in roleplay, you explore your limits, define your comfort zone - pretend to be something long enough and you'll become that thing, so take some time to find out what it is you want to become. 

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/3/2009 3:10:35 AM   
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Carol is not the legal literal property of Jeff. A dictionary does not refer to ''slave'' in a theatrical setting in which it is used by bdsm practitioners. ... Jeff's first post in this thread states their situation is the same as between an owner and slave in earlier times when slavery was culturally allowed 'when you stop making special "bdsm interpretations" of the word "slave" and just go with it literally'. Jeff however is making ''bdsm interpretations'' and Carol did not come to him the way things went in earlier times where Carol would be his legal property.


How diminutive to anyone who considers themselves a slave or who is the owner of a slave or slave(s) and actually to anyone involved in power dynamic-based relationships to call bdsm merely theatrical. 
Perhaps to you bdsm/power exchange/etc. is merely theatre, however, to many people, myself included, it's an inherent aspect of self-identification as well as core way of interrelating. 
This is where part of the disconnect is, I think.  If I am submissive/Dominant to a partner, it is not because I have chosen that role, it is beause they and I have agreed that that aspect of our natures warrants that titling or delineation of our interelations. 
There is no prerequisite to the defition of slave that requires they be coerced or kept against their will (There were hundreds of slaves who, upon being freed in America, begged to be kept my their masters...and, I am betting that they were not all doing so in a Stockholm Syndrome-sort of way.  Understanding slavery or even servitude would rquire the acknolwedgment that people in such roles did sometimes come to care for and quite value one another).  And, Henry's assertion of slavery as tantamount to robbery is just wrong.  Slavery is an acknowledgment of status, however your assuption that being owned is inherently low is erroneous. 
Davan


The word ''slave'', once again, comes from Slavs who were enslaved against their will. This fact creates the prerequisite you deny to exist. A close read of my previous post would furthermore have told you a ''slave'' is legal property. I am in no way diminutive. Naming facts does not make one diminutive. Wanting certain users to leave this side because of naming facts, however, is. Setting them apart suggesting their ''power dynamic-based relationships'' are inferior to yours also is diminutive. There were no assumptions in my posts calling ''being owned inherently low''. People seeing things differently than you are not automatically against you! Also friends can disagree.

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/3/2009 3:26:14 AM   
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Reminds me of this.
 I did not click the link but do not recognize myself in your stereotype description. I am not a labourer but an artist myself and you do justice to neither.


Do click the link... it might make you laugh
Thanks NZ i certainly like links like that, just bril

edit to add... my quoting thing went wrong again (sigh) the link was by NihilusZero and my reply to Eigenaar (dig)

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/3/2009 3:40:35 AM   
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one day i was a single girl, no ties to anyone, free to do as i willed...and the next i was someone else's property with no more say over my own destiny. the gradual process never made sense to me, as i understood even at that young, innocent age that in order to live a productive and remotely fulfilling life, and to have any chance whatsoever at achieving peace, i needed to live a life in total servitude, where i was completely controlled. therefore, it never occurred to me that i could ever be anything other than a slave. perhaps i am one of the strange few for whom all "this" was never about pleasure, fun or sex.



I am very impressed that so young you knew exactly what you wanted and needed... i took me many many years to get here and i still change my mind about things and question myself regularly...

Also it seems to me that it was exactly because of your own attempt at getting as much peace, pleasure and the right type of sex (for you) that you chose this path... were you not a slave, then you would not be happy is it not?

i personally achieve much better when controlled as well, i need that stick behind the door, that push in my back... i lack in self discipline... i do think of life as a brilliant ever changing game though and it should be played with integrity while having fun.

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/3/2009 5:37:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

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Yeah, I have to admit, that suspicion has been lurking in my head also. Even our RL friends (also self-identified master/slave) have a very difficult time with what we do -- and this despite the fact that I'm all sweetness and light.. no whips and chains in my closet yet. It isn't that I DO anything to Carol... it's just the overwhelming control I exert over her life affronts them.

In fact, I find myself struggling frequently to talk to other M/s people about what's going on in our marriage. I feel like we're all using the same words, but somehow we are not even remotely talking the same language.
Sorry, I'm calling bullshit, this a strawman - you are not more "real", and nobody is "affronted" by your awesome powers of seduction, get over yourself.

That's amazing! You know the people in Jeff's life better than he does enough to properly assess if they've been affronted or not?

It's odd you like tossing a fallacy buzz word like "straw man" and then go on to make so fabulous an example of it with the use of "awesome powers of seduction" (since nowhere in anything Jeff said was he trying to woo anyone and certainly made mention of nothing other than his relationship dynamic).

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ORIGINAL: Amaros

It's been largely a discussion of semantics, objective vs. subjective, this isn't a vanilla site: call her a slave a slut, a donkey fucker, I could care less.

you mean you couldn't care less.

And if you genuinely couldn't care less you would not be so suddenly wound up about a poster talking to someone else that you needed to, to use the popular adage, insert your C into their A & B conversation (and it's not the cutting into the talk that's the problem, this is a public forum after all...it's the lack of following through on the context of the conversation they were having before assuming he was try to make any kind of generally pompous comment).

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You're happy, she's happy, why the persecution complex? Somebody doesn't like it, fuck 'em.

Do you have any other marvelous tidbits of wisdom as to how other people should conduct themselves in their lives with other acquaintances and, even further, how to properly discuss those interactions in online fora according to Amaros Etiquette™?
''...nowhere in anything Jeff said was he trying to woo anyone and certainly made mention of nothing other than his relationship dynamic.''

He did. He called his relationship exactly the same as an average relationship between master and slave in let's say the Dutch colony Suriname where he would have bought Carol at the market without her consent and would have legally put her head on a stick or crucified her if she would have tried to run away as a deterrent or as a native warrior in Africa raiding Carol from her tribe where she lived with man and children she would never set eyes on again.

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/3/2009 7:08:09 AM   
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The fact that it is off-base is the point. I've read enough comments about Carol to know that his attitude towards his wife doesn't remotely resemble the attitude of a "literal" slave owner to their property. It's lovely that he has a relationship that makes him happy. Respecting that doesn't require me to indulge his posturing.  And what he's posturing about is "literally" quite miserable and dehumanizing to those who experience it absent the consent that exists in his relationship with Carol. Women at this very moment are being subjected to real life sexual slavery against their will. To pretend that the freely negotiated situation he enjoys with his wife is "literally" the same thing is an insult to the suffering of real victims of sexual exploitation. What is darkly amusing is the fact that if Carol were "literally" a slave, his dominant self would be in a "literal" prison.



I'm sorry this devolved into what it did. Let me address your actual point.

Yes, most "real" non-consensual slavery in modern times is miserable. However, there there are hundreds of historically documented cases where that was simply not the case. Most of them occurred in other older, cultures, such as the Roman civilization. In many civilized cultures slaves were treated quite humanely. In uncilivilzed cultures, such as the United States in the 1700's to 1800's and in some civilized cultures they were not. Were these historical slaves who were treated humanely by their owners (and who possibly led very good lives) any less slaves? Were they not brought back if they ran away or attempted freedom and their owners considered it important to retrieve them? If dehumanization and suffering are the earmarks of slavery, then poltiical prisoners are also slaves, and well-treated slaves from ancient times are not. You're clearly pushing for the "legal" definition of slavery. I personally define a slave as someone who cannot leave their situation. CANNOT, not will not. (debates saying more and decides against it)

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/3/2009 7:39:29 AM   
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Nihilus,

Nope, a nice oxymoron, or an ugly one for that matter can be just a condensed way of expressing something. In this case, a litteral picture is a visualisation of an idea taken litteraly.

It is of course possible for you to conceive slavery as an abstract construct without any historical or cultural consideration. You can do the same with any other concept: beauty, religion. However, I am not sure that the conclusion you will get from such abstraction will be very useful.

For me, slavery is an historical fact, which has to be understood in the context of the societies which practiced it or not . When you contrast the societies which did not practice it from the one which did or rather do not, you will find that there are two major types of non slaving exceptions: very primivite societies (e.g. small indian tribes), and very productive ones.

Slavery is not about property but about robbery. Robbing a person of the fruits of his labour, of her body. It is the basest form of exploitation and the first one devised (with religion). Once societies get past a certain level of productivity, as well as an advanced rule of law, the slave is not worth the trouble anymore and is replaced by salaried people or piecemeal workers.

Therefore, I think that the BDSM term slavery refers to something entirely different from the historical one and Jeff was wrong using one to define the other.

The Hegelian contradiction is IMHO that the master need the slave to exists as such and that his existence becomes dependent of the view of the slave. It is about self-perception and not about an historic fact. Abstraction is then of course useful.


Be seeing you, Henry


*impressed*

I haven't seen anyone with as good a historical understanding and training since my master died. I don't always agree with everything you write, Falkenstein, but it's always refreshing to read it. It gives me that "Yes! Knowledge is not dead yet!" feeling. (possibly illusory, but we all need our illusions. ;) )

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/3/2009 9:24:10 AM   
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I'd love to sort all of this out once and for all, the temptation is great, although experience tells me that once this is accomplished, some sweet little thing will pipe up "but I'm a real slave".

Identity is a tricky thing, what are we? A collection of beliefs and behaviors, not always in synch with one another. The human ability to form abstractions is a Two edged sword - it allows us to construct models of cause and effect that allow us to make predictions about things that have not yet occurred, process we cannot directly observe - we can't tell the future, but we can make educated guesses.

On the other hand, it also allows us to construct false models, to invent alternative realities that seem as real as any reality - reality itself is a model, a construct, a set of predicitons of cause and effect and expectation that can be entirely abstract, and yet to which we react and interact as if it were real.

Thus, there is, for humans, esentially not One, but Four distinct realites:
  • Objective reality: the state of all energy in the universe at any given moment.
  • Subjective Reality: the model of reality we construct as we assimilate Objective reality filtered through our perceptions.
  • Objective Consensus Reality: that which is demonstrable and which we agree is real and predictable.
  • Subjective Consensus Reality: that which we agree is real, even if not demonstrable.
Objective reality is ungraspable in it's entirety through the senses, too vast to model with any degree of accuracy and detail, even individual processes are elusive due to the uncertianty principle, we can at best describe in terms of individual facts (predictive models of distinct objects and processes), and sets of related facts, linked through heuristics and process, and construct a consensus model that can be tested for predictive validity - that is Objective Consensus Reality.

The senses process information: visual, aural, tactile, etc., and processed into models in the brain, Subjective reality, which we can then describe through linguistic symbolism to others who can then counter it with their own subjective perceptions.

That which survives the contest, and is predictive becomes part of the objective consensus: the Sun is warm, the sky is Blue, to keep it simple.

Objective consensus reality is then further broken down and examined: why is the Sun warm? (Nuclear fusion). Why is the Sky Blue? A person who is color blind will perceive this differently, they see the sky as what we call green - we tell then that the color of the sky is Blue, they think Green is called Blue, and they call Green Blue. In fact, Green and Blue are defined by the spectrum of visible wavelength perceivable by the human eye, the Blue is photons refracted off of gaseous elements in the atmosphere, water vapor particularly, the objective consensus description of the color Blue is a wavelength of approximately 475 nanometers, and that remains constant, even if you are color blind.

Calling it Blue is a convention, it's the name of the Color the statistical majority of us see when we look at the sky.

Green is around 510nm in wavelength - we can call Blue Green, but we cannot call 475nm 510nm.

Another example, as an subjective consensus, we generally agree that the sun will probably rise tomorrow, we call it "a fact", it's reasonably predictive, precluding some cosmic disaster. Of course objectively, the Sun does not really rise, the Earth rotates and the Sun appears to rise, travel across the sky, and set.

It illustrates the difference between objective consensus and subjective consensus, there was a time when people thought the Earth stood still and the Sun revolved around it, and that was the objective consensus reality, and many people believed it even after it was demonstrated to be a perceptual effect - believing it did not make it so, there never was a time when the Sun revolved around the Earth, no empirical model that supports it, no matter how many people believed it to be true - belief does not equal fact.

Fact is that which is empirically and demonstrably predicable, subject to independent confirmation - the scientific method, through which we painstakingly construct increasingly sophisticated models of objective reality.

To the point, if you feel you are a slave, it does not make it so: if you have a birth certificate and a Social Security number, it is empirically demonstrable that you are a free citizen of the US, or what ever equivilent in whatever country you happen to be a citizen of, that is the objective reality.

Identity, however, is very much a subjective thing - it's practically impossible to define identity objectively in fact - is a writer a writer if he doesn't write? How much writing do you have to do to be a writer? If you can write at all, does that make you a writer?

Most of these values are assigned through subjective consensus: if you sell books, we'll call you a writer, and if you act like a slave, we'll call you a slave, we'll treat you like a slave, and for all practical puposes you will be a slave.

It's simply that objectively and empirically, this can only be described as a role, subjectively, if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck and quacks like a duck, we'll call it a duck and treat it like a duck - and I don't know how that makes it any less real - objectively or subjectively speaking, identity being objectively speaking, subjective.

Say it three time fast.

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/3/2009 9:36:39 AM   
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By the same token however, if you are a roleplay slave, as opposed to 24/7 total identification, for the duration of that scene, you are a slave, you experience the emotions and sensations of slavery, you go through the experience - the only difference being, that there is a definite time limit, and you can shift back to your original identity in order to assimilate and evaluate the experience.

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/3/2009 10:14:13 AM   
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I spend a lot of time rattling around in my skull and it's rare for someone to logic-bomb me on a personal point in a way that I didnt anticipate to the degree that I actually change my assertion regarding whether I would/could be joyously in such a situation

It's all about my awesome powers of seduction.

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/3/2009 11:17:07 AM   
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Dear CaringandReal,

thank you very much for the roses! Yes, I love history and if it showed to you, then reading all these books has not been in vain. Speaking of "vain", it is probably an adjective that fits me to. Too bad I cannot gloat with your compliment next week at the office...

Do not worry about not agreeing with me all the time, I do not either.

I read the beginning of your very nice profile:
"So long, and thanks for all the phish(ing)."
LOL
I suppose then that you know that the answer is 42

With my kindest regards,

Henry

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/3/2009 11:54:24 AM   
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OK - I've been watching this one for days with what I call "internet fascination". It happens to me when I see things take on an entire life of its own to the point that the origin  has virtually disappeared and doesn't even exist. It didn't get as virulent as sometimes happens, but a couple times I thought it was headed in that direction and was suprised noone really went over the edge. Thanks for those of you for at least holding  back in that regard. Compared to most of you regulars I'm pretty new to the CM boards , I've  been posting here for less than a year, I think(I didn't check dates). Being new to the "scene" , I have a comment to make & am genuinely curious : the OP's post was a really simple question, and I'm wondering if this meets the criteria of a " hijack" ?  This isn't sarcasm- I'm asking a legit question, as I think if people wanted to do this they could have  taken it to another thread rather than shoving the op aside and running with their own feelings(not directed at any one person) and just taking over someone else's thing to the point of forgetting about them.

I know when I was brand new to the lifestyle afew short years ago I was turning in many directions for help and guidance and not really finding it. I even put the word out in my  local community that I'd try mentoring under somebody(hmmm, not sure if that makes sense- can you "mentor under" somebody? but you know what I mean). I didn't really find any help. Or guidance. But I kept looking. I think this person who asked a simple question got thrown under the bus because  people saw an oppurtunity to play word games, not to mention bicker, and he / she was in the way.....

Or, maybe I'm wrong. If so, correct me, but lest I hijack the hijack why don't you just cmail me. Or if it doesn't count unless everyone reads it one can copy&paste this and even start another thread, something like : Correcting abuddingdom" ?

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/3/2009 12:06:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Falkenstein



My dear lady,

I am surely one of "these folks" you refer too and I have to agree with you, your destiny is very, not appalling but definitely disturbing, perhaps because it pleases my darkest design. After all, if it is you on the picture, given the intellectual quality of your posts, ans supposing you are a good cook you are the dream of any dominant man. But thinking to the end the dream of "owning" you includes wondering if one will be able to treat you well, to resist to my basest instinct, not just in "big decisions" but also in everydays small ones.

Absolute powers corrupts absolutely, and you have given absolute power over you. Thank to the gods, It looks to me like you fond your Cincicantus, but for one of this good alliage, how many Caligulas? and how many regular, in an usual situation nice men, who will turn to their dark side because of a lack of resistance by their submissive?

Of course you are not appaling, but your way of being forces dominant men to look in a mirror and that picture may not be applealing at all.



hello Henry...first off i want to say that i appreciate your kind words and especially your civilized tone, something which always seems to be sorely lacking in these discussions. so thank you.

the point that you make above is a good one. Men who are otherwise good and decent can be strongly tempted to give in to their darker urges and drives when presented with a woman who will place no boundaries over them. this is something i have experienced many times throughout my life, long before i was ever slave, with many people...mostly good people, mind you...who took advantage of my submissive, passive personality. but with men especially, i feel there is always a dark side, and something about me always succeeds in revealing that dark side.

i used to hate this...but i have learned to appreciate it. i appreciate the value in truly knowing and seeing a man, the whole man, not simply the good and wholesome bits. it has also taught me empathy and compassion for the constant internal struggle in men between following their own will, and following their deepest and most primal instincts.

but you are right i was very fortunate to have found a wonderful Master who is ethical and compassionate. i very easily could have fallen into much more dangerous hands. however even in my Master i inevitably push those buttons which release his inner Beast, and he may subject me to things which he would not in a clearer state of mind. i accept this because i accept all of him, and furthermore i think it's only healthy to allow the Beast free reign every now and then, even if i must suffer in the process.

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/3/2009 12:10:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ranja


Also it seems to me that it was exactly because of your own attempt at getting as much peace, pleasure and the right type of sex (for you) that you chose this path... were you not a slave, then you would not be happy is it not?




were i not a slave, i would not be alive. for me, it was not a matter of "this path could lead to the most happiness and pleasure," it was more, "this path is the only one which could allow for peace as it is the only one which will allow for survival."

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RE: what is TPE 24/7? - 10/3/2009 1:59:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: leadership527

quote:

I spend a lot of time rattling around in my skull and it's rare for someone to logic-bomb me on a personal point in a way that I didnt anticipate to the degree that I actually change my assertion regarding whether I would/could be joyously in such a situation

It's all about my awesome powers of seduction.

Indeed.  :> 
  Davan

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