RedMagic1
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Very similar back-and-forths show up on Ask A Mistress, usually sparked by a post from a male sub. The sub says something along the lines of, "Women who give blowjobs are not dominant." The argument then sounds a lot like this one about foot-worship. I've also seen almost identical dialogue start after someone says, "Women who take it from behind are not dominant." If "being dominant" means "directing motion" or "wielding power," there is far more to dominance than what people do together physically. Sometimes people focus solely on the sexual aspect of dominance because they feel powerless to affect the "big bad world," and can only exert (or happily give up) control within an erotic context. The male slave owners I have seen post in this thread, however -- leadership/Jeff, Orion, Merc -- all are able to wield power over the economic aspects of their lives as well. This might be part of the reason they (and their partners) don't see why foot rubs are such an all-fired big deal. I'll make the decisions, and I'll give you foot massages. If you don't like that, don't ask me out. Anyone who wants to have a philosophical argument about this should first ask himself/herself, "Do I have a history of building successful relationships with real people in the real world?" If you don't, you might be well served by learning from people who have.
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Not with envy, not with a twisted heart, shall you feel superior, or go about boasting. Rather in goodness by action make true your song and your word. Thus you shall be highly regarded, and able to live in peace with all others. - 15th century Aztec
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