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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 12:55:57 AM

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I bought a subscription for a month at a gym once, at the door, a special offer. Then I went there after some time and was refused entrance as I did not have gym clothes. So I bought gym clothes (costs that I had not counted on when I bought the subscription). Next I went there with my gym clothes in a bag, only to discover that I was supposed to work out while being tortured by the loud music they played. I left and never went back, the subscription of fifteen euro's never used and down the drain.

I would love to lose ten kilogrammes.

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 3:52:38 AM

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Kali, there's a hormone in our bodies called Cortisol. It can cause someone to gain and retain weight. This hormone is released when the body is under stress, which can include not getting the proper nutrition. If you're not going to eat, I hope you're taking a 100% multivitamin. If you have been less stressed as of late, perhaps your cortisol levels dropped?

And congrats on the weight loss!

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 3:55:57 AM

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I've been thinking about this thread this morning since yesterday. A couple key things that have helped me be sucessful over the long haul.

First, knowing how great I am at giving advice, as most of us on here are, I began to watch myself, and talk to myself as I would someone that asked me for advice. Try it. As harsh as we are on here, we are much harder on ourselves. Stop beating yourself up, just watch and follow the advice you would give someone else. I am not sure that what I am trying to say is coming out right, not very awake yet. But, the crap we usually tell ourselves, some of it even subconciously, is evil. It is defeating. We tell ourselves we are failing, we are losers ( and not the good weight loss type either) We eat a candy bar then berate and belittle ourselves to the point where we need another just to feel good. STOP!

Tricks....okay, so I bought 2 candy bars and ate one.....set the other aside for awhile, don't beat yourself up for having the first one. Tell yourself the other is there, available for you whenever. Allow yourself to enjoy the first one. Then leave the subject alone in your head.

Chocolate is my biggest weakness. Friday after work I had to stop at the grocery on my way home and I was already hungry, tired and cranky. Worst way to grocery shop. Of course something on my list was also in an isle where the halloween candy was on clearance and a bag of 3 Muscateer mini's was calling me. I didn't say no to myself I said maybe and walked past them to get the rest of my groceries. Then as I was ready to leave, I thought....."you know if you get the bag, you will eat the whole bag, just get one regular sized bar in the checkout lane if you really want one that badly." So, when I got to the checkout late I got the biggest fuckin 3 Muscateers bar they had, which was actually two smaller bars in the same wrapper. As soon as I got in that car I was opening that sucker. Snarfed half of it, almost without tasting it. Like I had to hurry and eat it because I shouldn't be eating it. Like there was some subconciouse rush or I would get caught.......stuuuuuuuuupid! Who the hell was going to catch me and punish me. Ahh haaaa, an old head tape from childhood!!! The perils of a health food freak of a mother. So I savoured the last couple bites of that thing like it was caviar (not that I like caviar but you get the idea). Then I realized, it kinda stopped tasting so awesome so, why not save the other bar for later. I didn't end up eating it until yesterday morning.

Now I haven't any idea how many calories I saved myself by not buying the bag, but I am sure it's fairly substancial. And, I still got my chocolate...WOOOO HOOOOOO!!! A win win. Not to mention, no guilt. Big win.

So, I think based on that, never again buy economy packaging of junk food. Just the best biggest, single type serving and really ennnnnnnnnjoy it. Savour it, give yourself total permission to indulge. Make a ritual of it that feeds into your cravings. For me, it's Friday, that is my indulge day. Then be done with it.

It's just constantly being mindful and aware. Learning your triggers, both the old negative ones and magnifying the good ones. And, talking to yourself like you were talking to someone you were genuinely wanting to help. Began examing your excuses and finding solutions instead of feeling guilty. Accepting that life isn't all about exercise and carrot sticks without dip, but a workable balance in the middle. And.......having realistic goals for all the right reasons.

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 4:07:26 AM

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Great post, LaT

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 4:41:27 AM

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what holly said.

How many of us have trouble with the holiday goodies and being able to resist them? Does anyone have any helpful hints? I'm going to use LaT's suggestion, and have just a little of any goodie that I WANT, not have it just because it's on the buffet, but because I actually WANT it, and give myself permission to enjoy it. But then, I will also increase my exercise accordingly. And I'll be looking for low/no sugar options wherever available.

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 4:49:55 AM

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I tend to be a stress eater, and unfortunately, I've gained 38 lbs. in the past 10 months. But, I still walk and do tai chi as my schedule allows. As of yesterday, if I need to go to a higher floor or two, I take the stairs. I'm finding ways to incorporate more exercise into my daily routine. Even if it means standing up and taking 2 steps to the fax machine at work, instead of rolling to it. For me, it's no longer "eh, maybe, and if I want to", it's now a matter, "do it, so I can keep my sight and extremities".

me too!

(repeating to self, its okay to be big and beautiful,I'm still worthy and trying every day to believe it)

P.S. Lack of confidence is my issue. You my dear are beautiful and thats how I see you always.

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 4:53:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: purepleasure

I tend to be a stress eater, and unfortunately, I've gained 38 lbs. in the past 10 months. But, I still walk and do tai chi as my schedule allows. As of yesterday, if I need to go to a higher floor or two, I take the stairs. I'm finding ways to incorporate more exercise into my daily routine. Even if it means standing up and taking 2 steps to the fax machine at work, instead of rolling to it. For me, it's no longer "eh, maybe, and if I want to", it's now a matter, "do it, so I can keep my sight and extremities".

me too!

(repeating to self, its okay to be big and beautiful,I'm still worthy and trying every day to believe it)

P.S. Lack of confidence is my issue. You my dear are beautiful and thats how I see you always.

and that's how we see you, Lushy.

As to the holidays...feeling deprived will lead to binging/overeating. Perhaps one bite of a cookie as opposed to the whole thing...a few nibbles of whatever it is that you are craving?

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 4:55:37 AM

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/me thinks lushy and the people here are beautiful in all our various shapes and sizes. It's more a matter of being healthy and healthier.

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 4:58:40 AM

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What pure said, definitely..
<-- rockin' about 200 lbs. on a sturdy almost-5'8" semi-Xena frame

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 5:05:38 AM

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OP:
As I accepted the body I was in..
.I released 100 lbs and have kept it off for about 2 years now..
I wish to release 50+ more..
I felt that if I cannot control my own intake/health how can I control or be the owner of another?
I used ATKINS to kick start and then slowly have been experimenting with food intake adn keeping a journal to see why I do the feast or famine thing..
and for 2 years now I go up 10-20- then down..like I cannot find a happy medium..of say eat 1 piece of pie and there will be no gain..
I almost always eat the 3 pieces.
or go months with none...so deprivation which then leads to bingeing.
I eat to suppress emotion

so the more I learn about me the better is it
I am an addict..(no drugs or alcohol for 19 years this APRIL 20th!)
SO IT IS in my personality>>>I GUESS..

I have only once let someone go due to weight..and have had good relationships with all types of people with all types of bodies..
The man I let go was clearly very ill and would not attend to his health

I began walking last year and started with 2 blocks and am now at 10 min a day and up ot 30.It has made a big difference in my life.

AS I gained confidence my kink life became more fullfilled..
as did other areas...MY confidence at being in control of me..
of course came across 10 fold in the BDSM world.

GM

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 5:10:26 AM

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{{{RIGHT ON, GM!!!}}}

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 5:21:01 AM

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and now I'm having a very rough time getting rid of it again and I just don't seem to have the motivation or energy to work at it again like I used to. Most days I'm just extremely tired and just make something quick to eat instead of taking the time to make something healthy...and then I look in the mirror and I keep telling myself..."tomorrow".

I know I really need to get on the ball again before it gets even harder.

THIS is me to a T. What's sad though is i THINK about it all the time, like -- okay you need to start this NOW, no more excuses. Now if only i can get this obsessed and focused about getting back in shape - the doing not the thinking. I am seriously addicted to diet coke, its my stress releaver and as soon as i get stressed i start obsessing about it, wanting (i initially typed needing it lol but that is not true) it etc. It will get to the point that if i don't have any at home and didn't stop at the store, i would order pizza just to get the diet coke and then would end up eating the pizza. Once i get the diet coke addiction under control, i usually have to go cold turkey and like above i keep making excuses as there's always tomorrow to start or once i finish this bottle. And i have to go cold turkey because if i try and cut down i only find myself drinking more, i get the go for it mentality and focus obsessively almost on preparing, eating etc and working out.

I know its hard to understand why its just not an easy thing to NOT buy the diet coke, i don't know how to explain my struggle with it.

All in all it comes down to the point where i change my mind and make a decision.

As for tricks to get through the holidays?

1. Eat a full meal before you leave your house
2. Try to keep alcohol to a minimum if not completely cut it
3. Keep a glass of water in your hand while socializing
4. Only eat if you are sitting down at a table.
If you want some food in your hands while standing up, keep veggies in them
5. Allow yourself ONE indulgence at the party and enjoy it.

angel

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 5:22:43 AM

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Those are really good points, angel, thank you for sharing them!

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 5:34:41 AM

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Angel,

I agree with you again. And it hurts the second time too!!!

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 6:45:39 AM

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I am new to the boards here. In fact this is my first post and please keep in mind, this is only my opinion.

I feel if a person is happy with who they are then why should they change that to become the stereotypical "model" image that is portrayed by most media? What we see out there that is deemed "the perfect" body is (to me) unrealistic and quite frankly looks unhealthy most times. No wonder our daughters are having issues with self esteem and always trying to achieve that "perfect look" when they are trying to keep up with the looks, styles, fashions and sizes of the likes of a barbie doll!

As long as YOU are okay with the way you look and feel .... then that is what counts. Screw what everyone else thinks or feels about you. And if you are unhappy with yourself then only you can make that change. No one can do it for you. Be happy in your own skin and show that happiness and confidence to others, they will then in return give you the respect you demand just by the way you carry yourself.

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 6:57:26 AM

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Cy,

This is a nice first posting. Some of us here do have body issues, or heath issues, and this is a place that we can come and be supportive of each other as we achieve our goals for a healthier lifestyle, or to accomplish the changes we want to see in our bodies. Welcome to CM.

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 7:03:18 AM

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I am new to the boards here. In fact this is my first post and please keep in mind, this is only my opinion.

I feel if a person is happy with who they are then why should they change that to become the stereotypical "model" image that is portrayed by most media? What we see out there that is deemed "the perfect" body is (to me) unrealistic and quite frankly looks unhealthy most times. No wonder our daughters are having issues with self esteem and always trying to achieve that "perfect look" when they are trying to keep up with the looks, styles, fashions and sizes of the likes of a barbie doll!

As long as YOU are okay with the way you look and feel .... then that is what counts. Screw what everyone else thinks or feels about you. And if you are unhappy with yourself then only you can make that change. No one can do it for you. Be happy in your own skin and show that happiness and confidence to others, they will then in return give you the respect you demand just by the way you carry yourself.

Hello Cy. I don't think any of us are discussing this because we want to be some model image. I know I am not. I am discussing this because I am 47 years old and want to see 107 someday. Granted that goal might be a wee bit of a stretch but still I do not want to have to rely on pills to maintain my health when I can do it much better with a healthy diet and exercise.

Regardless of pep talks and excuses, excess weight, poor diet and lack of exercise is unhealthy. I want to be the healthiest I possibly can be. Fuck someone else's visual ideal model.

Besides, some of the UNhealthiest people I know are well within the 'perfect visual image' our society has created.

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 7:21:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: CyberMaster4u

I am new to the boards here. In fact this is my first post and please keep in mind, this is only my opinion.

I feel if a person is happy with who they are then why should they change that to become the stereotypical "model" image that is portrayed by most media? What we see out there that is deemed "the perfect" body is (to me) unrealistic and quite frankly looks unhealthy most times. No wonder our daughters are having issues with self esteem and always trying to achieve that "perfect look" when they are trying to keep up with the looks, styles, fashions and sizes of the likes of a barbie doll!

As long as YOU are okay with the way you look and feel .... then that is what counts. Screw what everyone else thinks or feels about you. And if you are unhappy with yourself then only you can make that change. No one can do it for you. Be happy in your own skin and show that happiness and confidence to others, they will then in return give you the respect you demand just by the way you carry yourself.

Hello Cy. I don't think any of us are discussing this because we want to be some model image. I know I am not. I am discussing this because I am 47 years old and want to see 107 someday. Granted that goal might be a wee bit of a stretch but still I do not want to have to rely on pills to maintain my health when I can do it much better with a healthy diet and exercise.

Regardless of pep talks and excuses, excess weight, poor diet and lack of exercise is unhealthy. I want to be the healthiest I possibly can be. Fuck someone else's visual ideal model.

Besides, some of the UNhealthiest people I know are well within the 'perfect visual image' our society has created.

Agreed! I'm not doing this to be beautiful nor am I doing this for anyone, but myself. I feel physically the best I have in years. I've been unfortunate enough to get a bug here or there this year, but nothing major like I have in the past. I attribute that to my eating more healthy and exercising more.

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 7:29:02 AM

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what holly said.

How many of us have trouble with the holiday goodies and being able to resist them? Does anyone have any helpful hints? I'm going to use LaT's suggestion, and have just a little of any goodie that I WANT, not have it just because it's on the buffet, but because I actually WANT it, and give myself permission to enjoy it. But then, I will also increase my exercise accordingly. And I'll be looking for low/no sugar options wherever available.

This year, I'm turning the holidays into an adventure. I've always loved to play with food -- hence my certificates in cuisine and patisserie... but this year, I've started experimenting to turn my holiday favorites into raw-food treats. I've already figured out my holiday stuffing (sage-chestnut stuffing!), cranberry-chiffon pie, "eggnog", and a pumpkin cheesecake style dessert (raw and dairy-free) that came out extraordinary... even better than my old favorites, actually. I gave up roasted turkey a long time ago (never really -did- like it), but I'm figuring out alternatives for my butternut squash/cranberry casserole, green bean casserole, and creamed spinach this week.

My son is getting married the day before thanksgiving, and one of my gifts to them will be a cookbook with all these recipes, plus the tools they need to be able to make good food in their kitchen and a basket of heirloom seeds so they can plan their favorites in their own garden next spring.

Dame Calla

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RE: Kinksters & Their Body Size, Diet, & Fitness - 11/9/2009 8:28:46 AM

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Thank you all for the welcomes! I have to admit, I did not read the entire thread here, just skimmed over it. I think it is great when people better themselves, they feel good about themselves. It shows. I too have weight issues but mine is quite the opposite of needing to lose. In fact, I need to gain. I underwent 11 months of chemo a little over a year ago and still look like a scare crow. I thought I would gain some weight back but still working on it. It is a self image thing for me too. All I can do is keep trying. I wish the best to all of you who are working on making your health a better.

And to LaTigresse - I agree with you 100% (Fuck someone else's visual ideal model.)

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