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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 11:37:17 AM

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2 months to renovate a house? With problems? That's more than reasonable.
Stay calm. See what happens after the deadline.. and give them a few days to get settled in, too, would ya?
We can't always stay in constant contact with the people we talk to.. hell, we can't always keep in contact with our families, and there's no critical home reno's going on here!
I think staying cool and collected will benefit you in the long run.. you wouldn't want impatience to ruin something that might be really good, would you?
Now.. if it carries on for a long time AFTER that.. well, then you might think about pulling the rip cord.

Good luck!

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 11:38:21 AM

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*wipes screen*
*wipes screen*
*wipes screen some more after reading some of the comments*
You guys are on fire!

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 11:38:41 AM

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Inspector Clouseau on the case!

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 11:41:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

You are a grown lady posting about the same sort of things as this youth. Thank you for your commentary, you have no idea how that makes me feel.

It's all about the love and flowers and sweetly smelling candles, is it?

let me write that down, somewhere.

Ron

*hands Ron a scrap of paper and a crayon*

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Kajira should have written it down for me, in flowery script, and discreetly offered it to me, from a kneeling position.

That is all........you'll learn, no whip this time.....but remember, I am somewhat of a useless ass, so you can't tell what I'll do next.

Ron

Well then it's probably a good thing I'm not a kajira, and if you could see my handwriting you would understand. Besides that was my favorite crayon, I'm crushed that you don't like it....oh and I want it back.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 11:43:12 AM

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Actually...a similar post has been made before by the OP almost a year ago http://www.collarchat.com/m_2249985/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#2249985

If a person doesn't take the time to learn, they're doomed to repeat their mistakes.

First... if you were 18 then, are you still 18 now? Second... perhaps it would be a good idea to go back and re-read what we all told you then. There seems to be a recurring theme of a cart trying to pull a horse.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 11:43:51 AM

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Agreed that AnimusRex gives actual good advice. As to Ron....useless.
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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 11:46:21 AM

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"Bitch's aren't born, their made" << priceless

I think I've figured that one out...

Bitch had a child named Aren't (who is presumed to become submissive, hence the lower case spelling). However, a certain outside group (possibly some cult faction that has waited for this birth as that of some deified avatar) refers to the infant as Made (the author of the sentence still believing, irrelevant to the child's possibly divinity, that it is meant to grow into a submissive which, again, accounts for the non-capitalization).

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 11:49:19 AM

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They ended up doing this project on a house of their dreams and it turned into a huge ordeal where they have build the house on the property up before they can tear it down.

Side note... someone who knows about these things please 'splain to me how you have to build a house up before you can tear it down. I've never seen Ty Pennington do that... do I need to have a Y chromosome to understand this?

And it's not really off-topic because if someone I was interested in told me this, I would think they were making shit up to avoid the "when can we meet" discussion.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 11:51:07 AM

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Side note... someone who knows about these things please 'splain to me how you have to build a house up before you can tear it down. I've never seen Ty Pennington do that... do I need to have a Y chromosome to understand this?

And it's not really off-topic because if someone I was interested in told me this, I would think they were making shit up to avoid the "when can we meet" discussion.

Cali

Maybe they're playing a Brewster's Millions game?

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 11:51:17 AM

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You're very rude. Others come here for honest advice and if you have none to give you should shut your pie-hole.
She is young and this is new to her and she has every right to talk to others with experience. You help no one and are negative to the community.

What community?

I rather LIKE Ron's pie hole. Unlike many of the syrupy sugar coated crap on here, he gives good advice......it simply takes a brain to decipher a good deal of it.

BTW...........you have a funny white rectangle where one of your holes should be.

"Bitch's aren't born, their made" << priceless

Agreed.

There are some folks out there who might not like Ron's style, but he is right a good percentage of the time. Just because he's not sugar coating the answers for anyone, doesn't necessarily make him wrong.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 11:55:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

You are a grown lady posting about the same sort of things as this youth. Thank you for your commentary, you have no idea how that makes me feel.

It's all about the love and flowers and sweetly smelling candles, is it?

let me write that down, somewhere.

Ron

*hands Ron a scrap of paper and a crayon*

helpfulslut

Kajira should have written it down for me, in flowery script, and discreetly offered it to me, from a kneeling position.

That is all........you'll learn, no whip this time.....but remember, I am somewhat of a useless ass, so you can't tell what I'll do next.

Ron

You do realise that the "no whip this time" is the actual punishment, don't you Ron?

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 11:58:10 AM

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Ok, well first.. I met this dominant couple on here months ago. We get along over the phone great. I was always asked when I could come out this last summer... I was working a lot though and the trust wasn't quite there so of course we decided to wait. They ended up doing this project on a house of their dreams and it turned into a huge ordeal where they have build the house on the property up before they can tear it down.. I don't really know how to explain it, lol. But, he's been taking.... I'd say at least two months on this house. We use to talk a lot.. but now it's dwindled down to where we barely talk. Today is the last day before the appraiser? comes so he said it'd be more back to normal after today. We will talk a lot more. So if that doesn't happen..should I just say bye at this point? (continue reading to answer that question please)

One of the times through this whole thing I talked to him on the phone and he seemed way stressed, but he was still really nice to me..but i could tell he was dealing with a lot. I mean, but It's been 2 MONTHS NOW. I talked to him on the phone a couple of days ago and he mentioned the plane ticket and getting me out there, he promised we will be talking a lot more before that happens (but it's kind of hard to believe that right now).

I mean, he seems soo genuine and sincere. I usually can tell right away if someone isn't and my gut is usually right..only problem is..i have no idea what my 'gut' feeling is at this point..no idea. His wife who I really adore... i guess is always up at the house and doesn't get reception so I haven't talked to her since this whole thing has happened...not at all...which is a little weird to me...

I have no idea what to think or do at this point. Am I just being silly? Is it really just the fact I can't be a priority right now because the house is a huge deal (i mean ..it's a matter of having a place to live for them..)...am i being unreasonable and impatient? He says i have nothing to worry about..their feelings for me haven't changed at all it's just the situation..but i don't flipping know. I have attachment issues and with people I haven't met face to face I seem to have this huge problem with thinking they are going to ditch me and it really bothers me with people i really care about.

Christ...another new young one who wants things right now.

I'm 36 yrs older than you and you might think that age is what develops patience but it isn't...if I'd acted like you at your age, I would not have wound up with the degrees I have, the wife I had, the cars I had, nothing. You make it sound as if remodeling a house happens in the time span that Mr. Enthusiastic from Extreme Home Makeover does it...in an hour. It doesn't happen that quick. They've got a reasonable excuse for sounding stressed AND for not talking to you as much as they did. The only thing I will grant you here is that if they knew they were taking this project on, they should not have been taking you on at the same time.

Do as others suggested...set a deadline for yourself (only you know how long you are willing to wait) and leave yourself open to others.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 11:59:09 AM

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perhaps you are as confused as the OP?

tear you down, then gently; gently; build you up.........

and then whip the dogfuck outta ya.

R

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:00:47 PM

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doesn't necessarily make him wrong.

There are here so many topics that don't have right or wrong...we just can agree/disagree with opinions.

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it simply takes a brain to decipher a good deal of it.

the risk with such is, we are never sure what one really wanted to say...just what we think they want to say

But in general...I am glad with different styles and opinions. Else discussions don't last long.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:02:10 PM

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doesn't necessarily make him wrong.

There are here so many topics that don't have right or wrong...we just can agree/disagree with opinions.

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it simply takes a brain to decipher a good deal of it.

the risk with such is, we are never sure what one really wanted to say...just what we think they want to say

Isn't that the case with everything written on here???

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:04:35 PM

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Okay well thanks for your opinions.

I really just think I need more patience and need to wait it out. It won't kill me. But, I also kind of doubt they are stringing me along at this point also I just talked to him.

Never can be too careful and as that one person said it's a good idea not to put all my eggs into one basket.

Thank you.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:05:08 PM

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You're very rude. Others come here for honest advice and if you have none to give you should shut your pie-hole.
She is young and this is new to her and she has every right to talk to others with experience. You help no one and are negative to the community.

"Bitch's aren't born, their made"

Then go somewhere else. We are not the guardians of nice, nor are we the protectors of stupid/naive/inexperienced or anything else. We are infact here for, believe it or not, OUR fucking reasons, and it has not a fucking thing to do with any one elses problems concerns issues or dumbness. So take your "your not helpful" a shove up some one who is helpful's ass.

Just a thought. Go otter... er Ron. Not that you need me in any way, but, hey I felt the repercussions of the "your not nice" bullshit rolling downhill, and well I am at the bottom er... somewhere downhill any way.

So to those who want nice go here. http://nice.com/ No idea what it is... but it has your url.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:07:26 PM

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And just because age didn't give YOU more patience...doesn't mean it doens't work like that for others:/

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:10:25 PM

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She is young and this is new to her and she has every right to talk to others with experience.

Actually...a similar post has been made before by the OP almost a year ago http://www.collarchat.com/m_2249985/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#2249985

well isn't this interesting.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:10:32 PM

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Soooooooooo, how old are you today?

For the sake of.......whatever.

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