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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:29:12 PM

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18. I joined when I was 17.

GET OFF OF MY LAWN!!!

Just kidding.

Sincere advice from remembering being your age and having been friends with younger women as I've gotten older... I don't think you understand just how much patience you need to develop. Our culture and mass media make such a big deal about young sexy people getting sexy that it's really easy for young women to miss the fact that they've got a whole lot of sexually active (and desirable) years ahead of them. I once had a 22 year old ask me, very earnestly, if it was possible for me to enjoy sex at the ripe old age of 32. It;s difficult, if not impossible, for an 18 year old woman to have the slightest clue just how much better sex can get as you grow older and more comfortable with who you are. And that's advice I'd give to the most vanilla girl out there.

To someone interested in bdsm, the advice is doubled -- be the tortoise, not the hare. Take your time. Kinky sex isn't going anywhere. And the more secure you are as a human being and honest about your wants, the easier it will be to get the sex that you want.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:30:38 PM

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OK. So by OP admission, she lied to EVERY prospective suitor she had. Good way to start a relationship. She Violated TOS potentialy causing CM to get shut down for age violations, and then came here to whine about some thing she wants now cause she is too impatient to wait for the reality of life. I hope, HOPE, PRAY your suitors see this thread. Cause, i don't care how fuckable you are, you just got throwed out my house.

Edited cause I forget words

Does go to show you that not everything with a pretty wrapper is worth the trouble to unwrap...

Well Spoke

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:30:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

18. I joined when I was 17.

GET OFF OF MY LAWN!!!

Just kidding.

Sincere advice from remembering being your age and having been friends with younger women as I've gotten older... I don't think you understand just how much patience you need to develop. Our culture and mass media make such a big deal about young sexy people getting sexy that it's really easy for young women to miss the fact that they've got a whole lot of sexually active (and desirable) years ahead of them. I once had a 22 year old ask me, very earnestly, if it was possible for me to enjoy sex at the ripe old age of 32. It;s difficult, if not impossible, for an 18 year old woman to have the slightest clue just how much better sex can get as you grow older and more comfortable with who you are. And that's advice I'd give to the most vanilla girl out there.

To someone interested in bdsm, the advice is doubled -- be the tortoise, not the hare. Take your time. Kinky sex isn't going anywhere. And the more secure you are as a human being and honest about your wants, the easier it will be to get the sex that you want.

Aw, thank you. :)

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:33:54 PM

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I can tell you stories about that fact in SPADES. Pretty wrappers do not mean the candy inside is tasty........or that it won't give you a nasty case of food poisoning.

OP, I would venture to say you are pretty much finished here. Good luck. Adios. Syonara. Hasta la vista. Don't let the screen door hitcha........

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:35:02 PM

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I'm thinking age doesn't have fuck-all to do with it. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to hang around waiting for something that may never happen. Yeah, it's hard to know, and hard to believe, and hard to trust with the whole online and telephone thing.   You want it to materialize because you're making an emotional investment which gets deeper and deeper with each day, and you want to make sure that you're not pouring yourself into a bottomless black hole. Understandable.

My experiences have taught me that when someone is interested in a person, it doesn't matter what is going on in their lives, they find a way to touch base, even if it's just for a few minutes a day, just like the way people find time to take a shit even when they're building a house.

Talk to him (them) directly about your concerns, it will probably tell you a lot more than we can.   If something positive comes back, try to hang in there, so you won't have any regrets. Meantime watch his actions, not just what he *says*.   And if nothing materializes in a timeframe that you can live with, cut them loose and move on.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:36:49 PM

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Yeah, I was interested in bdsm...so i went here a year early my bad.

your lack of concern for the authority of this site shows me as a Head of House a disrespect for the authority in general, showing me that not only would you not obey the law of the country but also that you make a VERY poor obedient, NOT worthy of a Head's time. Many happy lies to ya. Good luck with your deceptions, and direct them elsewhere please.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:37:13 PM

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OP, I would venture to say you are pretty much finished here. Good luck. Adios. Syonara. Hasta la vista. Don't let the screen door hitcha........

well dayum she's started makin rhymes!

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:37:36 PM

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I'm thinking age doesn't have fuck-all to do with it. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to hang around waiting for something that may never happen. Yeah, it's hard to know, and hard to believe, and hard to trust with the whole online and telephone thing.   You want it to materialize because you're making an emotional investment which gets deeper and deeper with each day, and you want to make sure that you're not pouring yourself into a bottomless black hole. Understandable.

My experiences have taught me that when someone is interested in a person, it doesn't matter what is going on in their lives, they find a way to touch base, even if it's just for a few minutes a day, just like the way people find time to take a shit even when they're building a house.

Talk to him (them) directly about your concerns, it will probably tell you a lot more than we can.   If something positive comes back, try to hang in there, so you won't have any regrets. Meantime watch his actions, not just what he *says*.   And if nothing materializes in a timeframe that you can live with, cut them loose and move on.

That's my whole thinking also..i mean exactly if you are interested in someone you do find a way to have a little bit of time each day. that's exactly what i was getting at.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:38:53 PM

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Yeah, I was interested in bdsm...so i went here a year early my bad.

your lack of concern for the authority of this site shows me as a Head of House a disrespect for the authority in general, showing me that not only would you not obey the law of the country but also that you make a VERY poor obedient, NOT worthy of a Head's time. Many happy lies to ya. Good luck with your deceptions, and direct them elsewhere please.

Or it could be I had no idea how big of a deal it was because i knew i was into bdsm and it's not like i can get help to understanding it off the web... sorry if it hurt anybody..those weren't my intentions.

didn't mean to disrespect anyone.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:40:43 PM

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18. I joined when I was 17.

A confession of the violation of TOS, signed in your own hand, while laudable today, is damning forever, and gonna get you a time-fuckin-out, I can almost guarentee it. Someone will report this post, and you will get a fuckin pumpkin colored EARNEST talking to from somebody who cares about the legalities of this sort of thing, for the good of the site.

Ron

or is that too crude?

well i'm 18 now....don't see how it really matters.

OP,

Look up the meaning of the word 'integrity'.
You started with a lie and now you're concerned someone is possibily being less than honest with you?
Stop playing games and learn how to be a responsible adult.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:42:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

18. I joined when I was 17.

A confession of the violation of TOS, signed in your own hand, while laudable today, is damning forever, and gonna get you a time-fuckin-out, I can almost guarentee it. Someone will report this post, and you will get a fuckin pumpkin colored EARNEST talking to from somebody who cares about the legalities of this sort of thing, for the good of the site.

Ron

or is that too crude?

well i'm 18 now....don't see how it really matters.

OP,

Look up the meaning of the word 'integrity'.
You started with a lie and now you're concerned someone is possibily being less than honest with you?
Stop playing games and learn how to be a responsible adult.

Uh.....................so i made one mistake and now i'm the worse person on here?? oh give me a break..i did something i wasn't suppose to because i was ready to learn more at an earlier age..and now i'm 18 and i can't change the past what i did..but in no way does that mean i have no integrity.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:42:58 PM

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Having no idea how big a deal it was to lie to every one that read your profile and the possibility of shutting down the site. Sure I can see how that could possibly be no big deal... actually I can't even start down that road. You are a lier. And have no respect for this community, yourself or the world around you. So Do them a favor and cut yourself lose. Then, go hang your tongue and fingers in a noose until they can lie no more. Till then, you are in the unwelcome.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:47:45 PM

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see imo, what you just said totally the crossed the line and makes you just as bad as me.

you don't say things like that.. or no of course you do because it's over the net, but still... you're a grown man... you should be more mature... please.

anyways, live and learn. i'm 18 now.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:49:06 PM

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So basically in your impatience to learn about bdsm, you lied about your age, you got on cam with I assume at least one adult male and created a situation where you both broke the law and where he could go to jail. You ignored what was right, legal and honest, broke the rules of this site and broke the law.

Now you are impatient and in another situation that proves you are still a little girl and haven't found the maturity to consider all things other than what you want.

I saw you when you first got here and some of your post, profile and such and I thought... oh boy... accident waiting to happen with an ego. Now I just see a trouble maker who puts people at risk and can see little wrong with that. A statement... my bad just doesn't cover it when you could have done a lot of harm to others. And a year doesn't make much difference in a lil girl attitude like that.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:50:38 PM

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for all we know she could be 14

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:52:14 PM

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i know you guys are going to continuee to have a hissy fit etc...about this whole thing...

but in the end it doesn't matter because i am 18.

so in reality it doesn't matter as much as you guys WISH it DID... it DOESN'T

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:52:56 PM

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anyways, live and learn. i'm 18 now.

Sorry:

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:55:03 PM

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So, you have your answers to your question.........same as last time you asked a year ago........

see you again and answer the same questions (and as for me, the same way) same time, next year.

Ron

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:55:53 PM

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 12:57:43 PM

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So basically in your impatience to learn about bdsm, you lied about your age, you got on cam with I assume at least one adult male and created a situation where you both broke the law and where he could go to jail. You ignored what was right, legal and honest, broke the rules of this site and broke the law.

Now you are impatient and in another situation that proves you are still a little girl and haven't found the maturity to consider all things other than what you want.

I saw you when you first got here and some of your post, profile and such and I thought... oh boy... accident waiting to happen with an ego. Now I just see a trouble maker who puts people at risk and can see little wrong with that. A statement... my bad just doesn't cover it when you could have done a lot of harm to others. And a year doesn't make much difference in a lil girl attitude like that.

Spot on, Lockit!

OP..

I can't take a single thing you say from the point you clarified that you lied as serious or coming from an adult.

Fool me once, you're the fool...fool me twice, I'm the fool.. My mama didn't raise a fool.

Age has nothing to do with maturity and if you need to ask why lying has no bearing on integrity, you have much to learn.

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