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Which do you consider more of a committment a collar or... - 11/13/2009 2:44:51 AM

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 2:52:58 AM

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They are both of equal significance to me, the level of love and commitment they symbolise; however, it all really depends on what is in the heart of the wearer - where they are at, how they themselves view the undertaking of commitment and how seriously they take the relationship, whether it is a marriage or D/s or M/s relationship. Trust, respect and fidelity are essential to all the aforementioned.

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 3:43:20 AM

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For me personally...a wedding ring. I'm old fashioned, pretty traditional. Wedding vows for me are a significant bonding of two people before their Higher Power.

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 3:48:13 AM

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Neither.

Both of those are only outward appearances/symbols of what is really important to an individual. The "commitment" itself between the individuals, no matter what form is the importance.

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 4:02:16 AM

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Personally, I find I put more stock, hope and faith in a collar. I have been through two marriages, each time I go a ring that in the very end I wound up pawning. The relastionships I have had with live-in, 24/7/365 relationship that last so very much longer then either of My past marriages. I exchanged rings with hubands that thought that the piece of paper that goes with the wedding rings was the 'normal' thing to do. But, the few times I have placed a collar around someone's throat meant more, went deeper and as I said just a moment ago lasted longer and was more fulfilling.

That is just My simple opinion and 2 cents worth.

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 4:07:55 AM

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Since My marriage is My primary relationship, I have to say the wedding ring.

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 4:39:29 AM

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This:

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ORIGINAL: KateyCaine

They are both of equal significance to me, the level of love and commitment they symbolise; however, it all really depends on what is in the heart of the wearer - where they are at, how they themselves view the undertaking of commitment and how seriously they take the relationship, whether it is a marriage or D/s or M/s relationship. Trust, respect and fidelity are essential to all the aforementioned.

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 5:26:23 AM

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Wedding ring. It's harder to break a marriage, a lot more expensive, and it impacts more people. The greater the risk, the more importance you put on it or should.

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 5:29:16 AM

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Neither. Commitment is an action. It's what you do and feel.
It's not a symbol.

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 7:04:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: smilezz

Neither.

Both of those are only outward appearances/symbols of what is really important to an individual. The "commitment" itself between the individuals, no matter what form is the importance.

Happy Friday!

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 8:32:44 AM

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Marriage. That's why I won't choose it.

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 9:35:48 AM

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For us it's the wedding ring. TO US (Your milliage may and probably will vary) it's a symbol of more than our style of relationship but of us joining together to create our own family.

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 10:56:50 AM

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Collar

Marrages today are to easy to get, too easy to dump. There is no commitment in them anymore.

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 11:08:34 AM

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Definitely the collar.

Marriage - well, been there, done that, didn't work. A marriage is meant to be among equals. Both can decide to leave.
But the collar is a committment that binds me just as much as the slave - he becomes my responsibility. Hard to explain what I feel, but when I leave my husband it's a goodbye, if I were to leave my sub/slave it's abandonment. I don't know if I'm explaining it very well, how I feel about it.

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 11:10:59 AM

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Wedding ring, unquestionably.

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 11:22:01 AM

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After watching a good friend die suddenly recently and his lover and live in partner kicked out onto the street with nothing, I have to say a wedding ring. In this case even a will was made and is now being contested by his family. Having a good understanding of how these things work, I doubt she will be left with any creature comforts.

Perhaps that sounds a little cold or does it? I want to know that if I die before my partner that he will have all rights to live with what we have now and he feels the same way about me.
What good would a collar be in a bereavement situation?

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 11:53:14 AM

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That is awful that the family is contesting the will. I hope things work out for your friend. I think you've raised a good but troubling point.

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 1:28:11 PM

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After watching a good friend die suddenly recently and his lover and live in partner kicked out onto the street with nothing, I have to say a wedding ring. In this case even a will was made and is now being contested by his family. Having a good understanding of how these things work, I doubt she will be left with any creature comforts.

Perhaps that sounds a little cold or does it? I want to know that if I die before my partner that he will have all rights to live with what we have now and he feels the same way about me.
What good would a collar be in a bereavement situation?

Urgh...ignore my post.

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 1:56:55 PM

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A wedding ring.

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RE: Which do you consider more of a committment a colla... - 11/13/2009 2:03:04 PM

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After watching a good friend die suddenly recently and his lover and live in partner kicked out onto the street with nothing, I have to say a wedding ring. In this case even a will was made and is now being contested by his family. Having a good understanding of how these things work, I doubt she will be left with any creature comforts.

Perhaps that sounds a little cold or does it? I want to know that if I die before my partner that he will have all rights to live with what we have now and he feels the same way about me.
What good would a collar be in a bereavement situation?

Marriage and for just this reason. I value both a great deal. Me and mine were thinking of waiting to marry after he returned from deployment, but just as the situation stated above...the military will not acknowledge a collar, and if, God forbid, he got injured I want to be there for him.

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