barelynangel
Posts: 6233
Status: offline
|
FR to OP -- You will always find validation from the peanut gallery on an anonymous public message board, which is seems like why you decided to post this, either that or it was to whine about reactions people were having to your profile and you shrugging saying what did i do, or you simply wanted to drive people to your profile and the way you worded your op stands to reason that people would go read your profile before responding.
Personally, i would chalk any dom who posted this type of thread especially as their first post as a dom who was whiny and instead of bring in control was more reactionary to people than a Dom should be, just as i wouldn't respect a dom who had a profile like yours because its trying to hard and seems desperate. But i also have very high expectations of Doms whether they are Men or Women.
All in all, you have accomplished what it seems you wanted, you have had people browse your profile, and i would guess some even contacted you privately to speak about people who are being mean to you on the boards, i say you have found validation from miscellaneous nicknames who don't know you at all, and you have got to show how dom you are by some of your responses. So all in all, i would say it was a good day for you.
I have read your profile and personally, the way it comes across you are insecure and trying too hard in your profile and in some of your responses on the thread. Your inclusion of every possible way for someone ANYONE to contact you screams to me of desperation and it honestly astonishes me that you weren't expecting people to give you what you are seeking by doing so -- attention from anyone and everyone who takes your including every possible way to contact you -- livejournal, myspace, your website, and utube seriously screams to me a slut not a Mistress who has pride and enjoys control (because one would presume a Mistress would want to control who has access to her in the venues in her life).
But my favorite is your Amazon wish list, so not only do you put out a desperate air by posting every possible way for any Tom, Dick, or Harry to have access to you, but you pretty much prostitute yourself publically with no regard for yourself in that you are appearing publically to be NON-SELECTIVE and you even state that in your journal.
You may not like what i have said here but it appears your profile is that of a little slut on many levels if you look at what you have written, rather than a Dom who is proud of herself and who she is and because of same has a concept of self-respect. Your profile reflects to me the 19 year old girl who wrote it who wants to be a dom when she grows up. I am not saying you won't become one but your profile to me screams you have no self-respect and are desperate for attention from anyone who gives it and that to me would draw the unwantables to respond to you. Your post here shows even more you aren't in control but are instead responsive.
So that could be why you are getting the responses to your profile you are instead of the ones you want. As you indicated there will always be undesireables, but maybe you should ask yourself what you are actually portraying.
But on a public message board you will always find someone to validate you, i would be very sure whether or not you feel validated by anonymous names on a message board within 10 posts from you. You want to know why some men respond as they have, by reading your profile i would say you completely portray a needy, desperate slutty type who protitutes herself by indicating she can be bought) and who settles for anyone who will give her attention and isn't here to be a Dom but simply wants attention from anyone who will give it to you. Otherwise, one would think you would be a little more selective on any and all people having access to all things about you until such time you have spoken to them one on one and gotten to know them. Maybe your motive is to drive people to all your places you listed.
All in all, i would chalk a guy who posted a profile such as yours as more of a submissive, needy, slutty guy than a Dom who was in control of himself and respected himself. Doms whether they are men or women who are sure of themselves, selective of who they give their time to because they DO respect themselves and who aren't desperate to me have profiles that portray such. Yours to me does not and that is why you are getting overloaded with every tom, dick, and harry, because that's who you are asking for to contact you.
If you want respect in general and have those you seek responding to you as a majority rather than a minority, you at least have to portray you respect yourself, and to me, your profile doesn't do that.
angel
< Message edited by barelynangel -- 11/15/2009 1:21:46 PM >
_____________________________
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
R.W. Emerson
|
RE: a question from a Mistress to an intelligent and po... - 
Profile
New Messages
No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages
Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages
Locked w/o New Messages
Post New Thread