fryingpan
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ORIGINAL: VeryMercurial Personally, I think people are free to wear whatever they want. No one is saying they can't. What I am saying, and I can only speak for myself, is this. There are men and women that are sex addicts, porn addicts and fetish addicts. Many men are visual creatures, and many think with their dicks. We are free to wear whatever we like, we are free to put up whatever pictures we like. When we are approached by people that misinterpret what we are about, we are then free to correct them. I still feel that many women often present themselves one way, and are quick to get angry about the attention they get. I work with women that wear very tight revealing clothes, then are always upset that men are commenting on how they look or showing interest. I try to tell them in a nice way, that perhaps they are getting that attention based on the way they are presenting themselves. These women like to pretend they don't understand why men approach them a certain way, but at 40 I think they are not really that clueless. Some of the clothes they wear, I can't help but stare at, and I often don't bother hiding when I am looking, and I am a woman. I agree LadyPact that people should not be judged by appearances, but I just can't think of many instances on-line and in the real world, where that is not true. Here is an examle, I am home washing clothes, if I decide to change and put on daisy dukes and a halter top, I would get a lot more attention from the painters in the hall, and others in my building, when I go put my clothes in the dryer. When I go to the store soon, if I take off my coat and go in the store with a low cut halter dress on, I really would expect to get a certain amount of attention. I am just puzzled by women that wear revealing or suggestive clothing that get bent out of shape or surprised by the comments they get, from random men on the internet or in the real world. We can just not control what others think of the way we chose to present ourselves: good, bad, naughty, suggestive, sterotypical or indifferent. I see many women and men online that look like walking stereotypes, I may not know them personally, but they look like a sterotype from a BDSM, fetish, sex or porn magazine. They have every right to dress this way, but I think many freely provide, fuel and feed the frenzy. I concur. The power of a woman's sexuality is a component of her power. It's natural to use that power to dominate men.
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