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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 11:43:58 AM

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if you can be happy with an act, you're easy to please

sorry i'm not an actor

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 11:45:09 AM

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DrkJourney,

yeah, what I am surmising though is shes a sergeant now, he was a sergeant then and not all that into the entire deal at that level, and he needs to work up to general, while she is still and probably forever gonna be a sergeant. There aint that space between em to cause any electricity on his behalf in this situation. But generals get to be pretty laid back...he just needs to work his way thru the ranks. Then domain will lend him his serenity, that it aint ALL about the I gotta rape and kill, he can use a little polish, a little poise when he says blow me.....

Ron

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 11:45:23 AM

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i've said my piece and i'm not here to trash his thread so i'm out

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 11:46:58 AM

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i guess if you're a dancing acting dom it doesn't make sense

Here's the deal..... If he ACTS like a Dominant she might respond to it. If he acts it long enough, it becomes a second nature.

When I was just a young lad I became aware that women wern't digging me because I wasn't so confident. This was when I was totaly nilla and only wanted to get laid.

I decided fuck it, I will ACT confident.... low and behold it worked...... low and behold I actualy BECAME confident.

I am also confident that you are full of shit.

Jeffwey

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 11:48:10 AM

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hes an anteater, they dont sing and they dont dance. you're throwing up a pretty good act out here, pops. now, you I can see (since you got the treading the boards conjunctivitis boogie going on) are pretty much the same with the king as you are with the undertaker.

We got that, thanks, and keep on keeping it real.

Keith B. Real

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 11:48:42 AM

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but you never got laid, so whats your fuckin point?

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 11:50:05 AM

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I am confident I one day will get laid.......is it as much fun as folks say?

Jeff

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 11:50:13 AM

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if you can be happy with an act, you're easy to please

sorry i'm not an actor

*considers the week i spent with perse and her Master, plus the time i've known her prior to meeting her Master*

Can't say there was any acting done that whole time by Him....and she is definately NOT easy to please....trust me, it's one of the things about her i find hardest to deal with...she never just bathes in my awesome splendor as she should!

But i digress, you were generalizing....pardon me for inturrupting.....

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 11:51:23 AM

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got a point Ron....will cut waaaay down on that topping from the bottom

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 11:52:39 AM

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He's waiting for the 2nd Wave (or 3rd, is it?) Misogenlightenment which will signal the change of LaT to June, Blue Moon, amen.

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 11:53:37 AM

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I don't know if you are familiar with Dan Savage but he has a philosphy in regards to couples and their sex life, GGG - Good, Giving and Game and that applies to both partners. I'd say take Ron's advice to heart, throw yourself in ordering her around and see if you can find something in it that gets you hard as well. You never know, you might just find an aspect BDSM that is surprisingly arousing you. Hey, my owner would laughed his ass off if someone had told him he'd enjoy doing the things he does before he met me!

But have an honest talk with your wife. Tell her that you intend to do every damn thing you can to fulfill her fantasies and then share some of your own that you'd like her to fulfill. If you do your best and it's just not your thing, then she needs to understand that you are doing what you can and, as long as you are putting out with her fantasies, she needs to return the favor, ya know?

Just out of curiousity... what sort of scenes have you tried? Have you given any thought to "less intense" scenes like... ordering her to hand feed you, dance seductively and please you? Just an idea.

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 11:54:09 AM

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June will be mine....... I am confident!

Ward

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 11:54:12 AM

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ooookaaaay,

Back to the rule of not drinking any beverage when I read any post from Ron and Jefffff

LOL

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 11:54:30 AM

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Even though I love Ron and some of the other answers, I will have to disagree simply because I experienced this same thing. I always had a Dom and then I got married. My wonderful husband was not a Dom, had never been a Dom, was not particularly interested in being one until he met me. He fell in love with me and I him and we tried like hell to make that part work. We even went to couples counseling.

No matter how much you love someone if your sexuality is out of tune with theirs (and especially in the D/s realm) sometimes no amount of trying (and boy, did my husband give it the good old college try) will work.

He did not want our marriage to end, but because of this disparate issue and a few others, I had to end it.

So, I would counsel the OP to really look at their dynamic and in the end, people have to be true to themselves and their sexuality. I could have cheated, but did not, he could have looked for someone who did want D/s, he did not.

We respected each other enough to end it instead of staying in a relationship which otherwise good, was lacking in such an essential area.

Tough situation, I can so relate....now I will only deal with men who are and want to be, a Dom.

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 11:55:46 AM

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I am confident I one day will get laid.......is it as much fun as folks say?

Jeff

yep....but only if you fake it.....

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 12:00:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

i guess if you're a dancing acting dom it doesn't make sense

Here's the deal..... If he ACTS like a Dominant she might respond to it. If he acts it long enough, it becomes a second nature.

When I was just a young lad I became aware that women wern't digging me because I wasn't so confident. This was when I was totaly nilla and only wanted to get laid.

I decided fuck it, I will ACT confident.... low and behold it worked...... low and behold I actualy BECAME confident.

I am also confident that you are full of shit.

Jeffwey

And you never know... some men have huge problems accepting that they are dominant. Valyraen was one of them. He didn't consider himself a "dom" for awhile but whadda know... as he got more comfortable with the actions, he got more comfortable with his own desires and what he is.

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 12:05:29 PM

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Even though I love Ron and some of the other answers, I will have to disagree simply because I experienced this same thing. I always had a Dom and then I got married. My wonderful husband was not a Dom, had never been a Dom, was not particularly interested in being one until he met me. He fell in love with me and I him and we tried like hell to make that part work. We even went to couples counseling.

No matter how much you love someone if your sexuality is out of tune with theirs (and especially in the D/s realm) sometimes no amount of trying (and boy, did my husband give it the good old college try) will work.

He did not want our marriage to end, but because of this disparate issue and a few others, I had to end it.

So, I would counsel the OP to really look at their dynamic and in the end, people have to be true to themselves and their sexuality. I could have cheated, but did not, he could have looked for someone who did want D/s, he did not.

We respected each other enough to end it instead of staying in a relationship which otherwise good, was lacking in such an essential area.

Tough situation, I can so relate....now I will only deal with men who are and want to be, a Dom.

I agree with you, actually when I read his OP I was thinking if it ain't in ya it ain't gonna happen, but in this case, since they are already married, try it Ron's way...or even VP's way before, well, you know. And being in the military he has it in him to lead just needs to channel, the big question is if he wants to I guess. In this respect he has a leg up on those starting from ground zero.

I also agree that they really do need to sit down and talk, find out just how important it is to her that she have this to happen, and if it is important how often, is it just once in a while, weekends or 24/7, there could be a compromise that could be reached

I'm just a sucker for love I guess, I'd hate to see them walk away without every avenue tried.

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 12:06:28 PM

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and I hear ya, SR1 may be the entire case, but it is like worth a try, not trying is not knowing, and after all said and done......would you rather he tried at the time or said outright fuck it you're not worth it.

it is a hard deal, and gonna require some herculean effort or some devilishly hard choices.....but when you consider (if I got this right, see? I do pay attention) that shes deployed and hes home, he could just walk off to the lawyer and.......

Well that says to me there is some kinda wanna there.

You smelling what Im cooking here?

The Rock

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 12:10:56 PM

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I don't think she is in the military unless I missed it somewhere, which is possible, I have allergy meds cruising through my veins...lol

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RE: Not quite sure how to continue... - 12/31/2009 12:14:05 PM

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you are right-------------- I fat eyed that one, while HE was deployed.........

Shit. Thanks Love, now I feel cheap. Rest of it still stands though.

Ron

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