lally2
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ORIGINAL: sexyred1 Even though I love Ron and some of the other answers, I will have to disagree simply because I experienced this same thing. I always had a Dom and then I got married. My wonderful husband was not a Dom, had never been a Dom, was not particularly interested in being one until he met me. He fell in love with me and I him and we tried like hell to make that part work. We even went to couples counseling. No matter how much you love someone if your sexuality is out of tune with theirs (and especially in the D/s realm) sometimes no amount of trying (and boy, did my husband give it the good old college try) will work. He did not want our marriage to end, but because of this disparate issue and a few others, I had to end it. So, I would counsel the OP to really look at their dynamic and in the end, people have to be true to themselves and their sexuality. I could have cheated, but did not, he could have looked for someone who did want D/s, he did not. We respected each other enough to end it instead of staying in a relationship which otherwise good, was lacking in such an essential area. Tough situation, I can so relate....now I will only deal with men who are and want to be, a Dom. im with you on this one SR. you can do the whole role play acting thing maybe once or twice or more, but in time itll lose its edge and if he isnt that way wired it isnt gonna feel right for him anyway. you cant roleplay youre whole marriage and anyway, it isnt just about sex. if she's reading 'O' then she's way deeper than just wanting rough sex. personally, for me, i have to know the guy wants to do those things for HIMSELF first and foremost. if shes the same it wont work for her either. i dont have anything helpful to suggest that people havent already mentioned. i wish you the best. x
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So all I have to do in order to serve him, is to work out exactly how improbable he is, feed that figure into the finite improbability generator, give him a fresh cup of really hot tea ... and turn him on!
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