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myotherself -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 8:30:54 AM)
-FR- I've posted on here, off and on. When I first started I was pretty clueless, and a bit reticent in what I wrote. When I got more comfortable, I sometimes put my foot in it. I got bashed in the threads, and had a couple of c-mails too. I listened, learned and hopefully became a (relatively) useful member of this little virtual community of ours. If I was a sensitive ickle bunny, then I might have taken the slap-downs as harrassment rather than education. Thankfully I own a pair of big-girl panties so I just pulled 'em up, gritted my teeth and soldiered on. It's the way of the world, and those of us with a healthy ego and sense of self will survive, thrive and...potentially...grow a little.

Jeffff -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 8:33:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Are you threatening me? Cornholio Dumbass Beavis

osf -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 8:40:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: myotherself -FR- I've posted on here, off and on. When I first started I was pretty clueless, and a bit reticent in what I wrote. When I got more comfortable, I sometimes put my foot in it. I got bashed in the threads, and had a couple of c-mails too. I listened, learned and hopefully became a (relatively) useful member of this little virtual community of ours. If I was a sensitive ickle bunny, then I might have taken the slap-downs as harrassment rather than education. Thankfully I own a pair of big-girl panties so I just pulled 'em up, gritted my teeth and soldiered on. It's the way of the world, and those of us with a healthy ego and sense of self will survive, thrive and...potentially...grow a little. this has been going on for some time with a a few following me from thread to thread that i start i'm not especially thin skinned but there comes a point when it's no longer welcome i have been called everything from too old by a woman in her 50's to dangerous, you just have to look in this thread to see that after awhile you'd think adults would tire of such juvenile behavior just my 2 cents

persephonee -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 8:43:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: persephonee The community seems to be able to self police on its own....ive seen men who talk like he does end up being frozen out of whatever club, simply because everyone found him to be not a viable candidate for friendship or relationship. im fairly certain that this is what may have happened to him in his local community and now hes bitter and typing away at home....c'est la vie. I was thinking this very same thing. I wonder how many s types ever look at this particular trait, the evidence of not being active in the local community, and see it as a potential reason to have additional thoughts regarding safety. idk, LP...i was kind of "born" in a dungeon, so i tend to see public play as a hobby and use the community as a vehicle to making friends. i feel like i have to look you in the eye in order to get a read on whether or not i trust you enough to let you hit me (you, in the generic....You can hit me tomorrow and ill supply the toys[;)]) However, back home, i had one partner who simply refused to circulate within the public community and continues to play privately to this day...he has his reasons and to him, they make sense. Hes got more subs than time and is a reliable session...great guy all around. i highly recommend him to this day with the caveat that if im ever in town, whoever it is thats with him at the moment needs to step off so i can hop on....hes a peach. But hes really the only one ive met who is sincerely just not interested in the "community"....and not just harping cuz he wasnt successful in the community. He never complained about my involvement in munches or my groups, simply declined to accompany me. It did, however, take me a long time comparitively to decide that i could trust him, as he wasnt known by my other friends or acquaintances. He did have stellar references which he provided immediatly and those girls were very happy to recommend him, and in person, as i am today. If i couldnt vet him, i wouldnt have played with him. He just happened to use the internet as his vehicle to create relationships, as opposed to the community. In answer to your point, i dont think everyone necessarily "needs" to participate in order to be vetted....but the underlying reason they dont participate needs to be looked at..... For new people....especially women, i strongly recommend becoming involved with people who are active in the community....i know what my gut instincts tell me for myself, but i have seen far too many women hurt by not being able to read their own or ignoring it.

Jeffff -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 8:44:06 AM)
And they probably think you would do the same. Don't worry osf. This will run it's course. As much fun as it is to have a knucklehead posting goofy shit, your posts have become tiresome. Soon you will be largley ignored except by the folks who like and admire you. You will be happy. Jeff

pahunkboy -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 8:49:37 AM)
I only hang in casual banter- so I dont know what goes on in the other areas.

osf -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 8:50:47 AM)
perse sweetheart, i've been a member of several clubs to even being on the board of the black rose in dc never had a problem for the most part clubs bore me and i haven't attended in a couple years mostly due to business obligations i've met sub women like you before , but dam the constant harangue is a bit much even for my laid back nature, if you don't like my sense of humor ignore it, really i wont mind

Jeffff -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 8:52:19 AM)
Do you hang left or right? Does that question make you feel harassed?... sorry

pahunkboy -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 8:55:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff Do you hang left or right? Does that question make you feel harassed?... sorry LOL. both left and right!!! hehe

osf -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 8:55:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff Do you hang left or right? Does that question make you feel harassed?... sorry humor is one thing, but the nasty personal posts that were directed at me another if your going to direct a humorous comment at me , the only thing i ask is make it worth reading

myotherself -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 8:56:28 AM)
hmmm...what I'm NOT seeing is someone 100% innocent of fire-stoking in all of this. I've taken the time to look back on some of the stuff you've written, and what I CAN see is that you find it difficult at times to accept someone else's viewpoint if it differs from yours. Instead of 'agreeing to disagree', you'll push and push until it turns into a flame-war. It's what happens round here - happened to me too, right in the beginning. I have also seen a few times you've played nicely with the other kids, and I thought to myself that you were really beginning to make the effort to settle in. The joy of this community is that those same people you percieve as stalking and harrassing you could well end up being good 'cyber-buddies', for want of a better phrase. They aren't stalking you from thread to thread - they always have posted in these groups, and they will continue to do so. You'll see by their post counts that they've been doing this an awful long time (and yet they still look so young and fresh...[:D]) and they'll (hopefully) continue to do so for a long time to come. Just relax, enjoy yourself in a positive way, and you'll find folk round here will be most willing to 'forgive and forget'...but that goes both ways. It worked for me, it could work for you too.

Jeffff -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 8:57:35 AM)
That was directed at PA. Not everything is about you. Perhaps this will help nar⋅cis⋅sism 1. inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love; vanity. 2. Psychoanalysis. erotic gratification derived from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes, being a normal condition at the infantile level of personality development. Jeff

osf -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 8:59:51 AM)
that was one reason for this thread, is to try and reason with those harassing me, believe me i'm trying to keep my cool i knew some would follow me here , haven't you noticed it's me on one side and most on the other, interesting no?

pahunkboy -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 9:00:27 AM)
Wow Jefff, somehow you comment to me was construed to be directed at OSF.

divi -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 9:01:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf that was one reason for this thread, is to try and reason with those harassing me, believe me i'm trying to keep my cool OSF- you should take Jeff out to the CM playground and kick his ass around some..teach him a lesson !!

pahunkboy -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 9:04:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff That was directed at PA. Not everything is about you. Perhaps this will help nar⋅cis⋅sism 1. inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love; vanity. 2. Psychoanalysis. erotic gratification derived from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes, being a normal condition at the infantile level of personality development. Jeff I think we are on medication. Lots of it. If you know what I am saying. beyond that- what ever happened to Mod 11?

pahunkboy -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 9:11:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: myotherself hmmm...what I'm NOT seeing is someone 100% innocent of fire-stoking in all of this. I've taken the time to look back on some of the stuff you've written, and what I CAN see is that you find it difficult at times to accept someone else's viewpoint if it differs from yours. Instead of 'agreeing to disagree', you'll push and push until it turns into a flame-war. It's what happens round here - happened to me too, right in the beginning. I have also seen a few times you've played nicely with the other kids, and I thought to myself that you were really beginning to make the effort to settle in. The joy of this community is that those same people you percieve as stalking and harrassing you could well end up being good 'cyber-buddies', for want of a better phrase. They aren't stalking you from thread to thread - they always have posted in these groups, and they will continue to do so. You'll see by their post counts that they've been doing this an awful long time (and yet they still look so young and fresh...[:D]) and they'll (hopefully) continue to do so for a long time to come. Just relax, enjoy yourself in a positive way, and you'll find folk round here will be most willing to 'forgive and forget'...but that goes both ways. It worked for me, it could work for you too. Being that we are a bad fit, and will never live up to expectations- it is like a horse with a broken leg that needs to be shot. Someone this unhappy with the CM- could easily migrate to happier more appealing forums. Dont let us hold you back. (directed at the impossible to please OSF) Go. GOOOO By all means GO.

divi -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 9:13:48 AM)
Since I don't own a gun do we have anyone who wants to shoot OSF? lol ( joke ..maybe) good idea PA !

myotherself -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 9:15:07 AM)
To be honest - I'm not seeing what you're seeing. I'm seeing a lot of frustration on all sides, and a great deal of tension-relieving humour...but that's it. As an impartial outsider, all I can say is that your best bet would be to quit starting threads for a while, join in other threads if you have something valuable and valid to contribute, and take the time to cool down and find your feet. And on that note the bunny takes her leave and returns to her day job....

osf -> RE: harrassment on the threads (1/7/2010 9:17:57 AM)
quote: Being that we are a bad fit, and will never live up to expectations- it is like a horse with a broken leg that needs to be shot. Someone this unhappy with the CM- could easily migrate to happier more appealing forums. Dont let us hold you back. (directed at the impossible to please OSF) \\ i'm very easy to please i dont want your attention ( very unnarcissistic, please no attention) and i don't want any advice just those two simple requests and i'm happy as shit

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