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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 4:55:02 PM

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It's not the act, it's the intent. This isn't that hard.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 4:55:51 PM

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Yes, we do do that. And then we discuss the issue with him. And then we decide if his response is one we want to continue living with, and thankfully, in the healthy relationships I've had, it has been....if it's not, we re-consider the relationship and may even move on. C'est la vie. YMMV.

can some one tell me where the submission is here?

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 4:55:57 PM

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And you are completely justified in feeling that way, IMO.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 4:56:02 PM

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 4:57:38 PM

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so ya like to eat cunt, (gasp for air) do ya, (gasp for air) pilgrim?

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 4:58:29 PM

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NihilusZero,
I like a clear understanding. I believe being a Dominant means making things "very clear". I was told something then another. I was lead to believe it was attainable. Now I find out late in the game, it's not. it's not only important to me but I feel lied to. He wasn't clear, he wasn't honest. If i would have known eating pussy was not a part of our dynamic, I cannot fully say i would still be his submissive.

Well, it seems what you were told was vague enough that he could conceivably hold it over your head indefinitely, just waiting for you to keep acting well enough to hope you've been a sufficiently good girl to receive it.

So...while the way he phrased it doesn't quite directly qualify as lying, that's because he put it in a way where he could claim that loophole.

So, at this point, just be honest. "My desire to have cunnilingus as part of a relationship, your lack of interest in it, and my feeling that you misled me as to how likely it would be for it to happen are all factors that are leading me to think that I will not be able to stay comfortably in this relationship, thereby compromising my ability to serve you as I'd like to."

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 4:59:35 PM

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Yes, we do do that. And then we discuss the issue with him. And then we decide if his response is one we want to continue living with, and thankfully, in the healthy relationships I've had, it has been....if it's not, we re-consider the relationship and may even move on. C'est la vie. YMMV.

can some one tell me where the submission is here?

If it was a snake, it'd bite you.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 5:00:50 PM

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can some one tell me where the submission is here?

It's not submission, it's compatibility.

If I was her Dominant and couldn't stand cunnilingus, I'd have to accept the fact that I'd be keeping an increasingly resentful sub if I chose to have her stay. That's not gonna do me a lick of good (pun intended!).

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 5:01:25 PM

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It is simple for me.

You don't eat pussy? Later, dude.

I don't see it as a Dominant act or a blue and green alien act, it is something I need and I would not want to be with a man who did not feel the same.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 5:02:06 PM

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Yes, we do do that. And then we discuss the issue with him. And then we decide if his response is one we want to continue living with, and thankfully, in the healthy relationships I've had, it has been....if it's not, we re-consider the relationship and may even move on. C'est la vie. YMMV.

can some one tell me where the submission is here?

If it was a snake, it'd bite you.

it's a very small snake

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 5:02:10 PM

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I'm wondering, since this is so obviously important to you, did you two discuss this before starting your relationship?

Do people really sit down and discuss this? I know I never have when starting a relationship.

Jeffff and Aileen sitting in a cute little Italian restaurant of their first date, Jeffff pouring some delightful chianti into her glass looks deeply into her eyes and says...."So... you're not gonna want me eatin yer pussy...are ya?"

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 5:03:03 PM

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I, on the other hand, quite enjoy it.

*makes a note*

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 5:03:38 PM

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I'm wondering, since this is so obviously important to you, did you two discuss this before starting your relationship?

I was asked this and replied "No way, I am not eating that under any circumstances"

Oh wait.....That was when she asked if I ate cabbage...

*adds ps to list of people who's posts I have to approach with caution lest I end up spraying my laptop.*

by the way you owe me a new laptop

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 5:03:49 PM

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so how do you get that far and then find out?

i mean it is 2010 ya know

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 5:04:15 PM

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Yes, we do do that. And then we discuss the issue with him. And then we decide if his response is one we want to continue living with, and thankfully, in the healthy relationships I've had, it has been....if it's not, we re-consider the relationship and may even move on. C'est la vie. YMMV.

can some one tell me where the submission is here?

If it was a snake, it'd bite you.

it's a very small snake

But the bite is still as sharp!

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 5:04:55 PM

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Looks like you have a choice....stay or leave.

Which is more important to you? Your desire for cunnilingus? Or your desire for this man and the relationship you are in?

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 5:05:02 PM

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Beyond the refusal to meet your sexual needs is the fact that from now on you won't believe anything he holds out hope for you to get in the future. You can trust him to lie to you about everything that he isn't man enough to talk honestly about, which means anything you aren't compatible on. Is this what you want, to be with someone who you laugh at whenever he says anything because you won't believe it.

The submission here was given to a man who doesn't exist. It is not owed to the man who lied about who he was and what he wanted. This isn't rocket science, you want honesty and loyalty, you lead the way in giving it. Don't give it? Don't get it, it really is that simple.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 5:07:11 PM

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I do feel for you. It seems that you have found an area of incompatibility. One that I would highly recommend that the two of you sit down and find a way to talk about.

Being a Dominant woman, My solution wouldn't work for you in the area of oral sex. I tell My boy to provide it if I want it. If I want to give oral sex, I do it because I want to.

It's one of the perks of being in charge.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 5:08:12 PM

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NihilusZero,
ah shit....i know..i know...i feel like being a little bitch and not responding to Him at all at this point...i do think almost all relationships have a timeline. I really didn't want this one to end. I have no idea what next. I have no idea really quite yet if I am going to end it...getting a man on the side just to eat my pussy isn't what i want...I wanted him to be everything...honestly this is is the only piece of the everything that's missing but it's like when someone tells you you cant have something, all of a sudden it's all you can think about. lol all i think about it everything we've shared and it ending. its all so intimate. Him doing so many personal things to me...its difficult. if this is over. its very difficult. I've become very attached to Him.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 5:09:11 PM

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so how do you get that far and then find out?

i mean it is 2010 ya know

Look....there's a certain amount of common sense and accountability as far as the expectations going into any relationship. Men & women (keeping this heterosexual for ease in typing, but it can be any gender combination!) have sex, frontwards, backwards, upside down, she sucks dick, he eats pussy, etc. If you have a phobia or aversion to doing something that is commonly expected as part of the "norm" or "usual" part of a sexual relationship, then you have a responsibility to present that sometime in the early stages of the relationship, and especially before entering into the sexual part of it.

If you got that far and were suddenly surprised, somebody was withholding information.

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