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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 6:16:26 PM

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And for fuck's sake, this is pussy we are talking about, not rhinocerous ass.

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oh sweet jeeeeebus AR I really didnt need that bloody visual
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That's sick. As if rhinoceros ass wasn't bad enough, you felt compelled to turn it into bloody rhinoceros ass? I have no idea if you were trying to mix in cutting or menstruation into this sick fantasy, but that's far beyond the nausea threshold. Pervert.

Whoa Nihilus called me a pervert... Does the happy Pervert dance

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 6:19:24 PM

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Do people really sit down and discuss this? I know I never have when starting a relationship.

I don't but if it's a make or break issue (like it seems to be for the OP "I don't know how to go on...for me it's not complete unless i get this sometimes..." ) then she damned well better bring it up sooner than later and she better have a razor handy.

The razor is always in hand, Mister

and i want that from my girlfriends too! No poodles puleez!

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 6:26:46 PM

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the sucky part is if he read all of this...(who knows...he told me about this site long ago!) He'd read it and say, well then...you've found men who would do this so there you go. He finds it incredibly easy to move on. As much as what we have means to me, I do not think He finds the level of value I do in it. He isn't into LTR with D/s, never had one go longer than 2 yrs. So i think this is really "it is what it is." I'm pretty certain he just doesn't like doing this to a woman and if I decide to stay being his little girl it will be one that has to go w/o...and now that is become something that's such an issue...really how would i go on? He doesn't like doing it which makes me feel like crap. awww Daddy....

I'm sad. sad sad sad. I appreciate everyones 2 cents. i really do. Thank you so much.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 6:31:09 PM

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This doesn't have anything to do with D/s, s&m, M/s or any other combination of letters. Some men, vanilla and kinky, just don't like to eat pussy. Your guy is using the D/s relationship as a cop out, a handy reason or a lame excuse.

This is essentially irrelevant in this case. If he said "I don't dig that" without any further explanation she'd still be in the same boat. It is plausible that there are male (and female) doms out there who enjoy going down but feel that it is not the thing to do in their dynamic. Bottom line is still the same for the OP. She has to make a choice or maybe lay her cards out and let him make the choice.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 6:41:15 PM

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I'm a DOM and I can't live unless I eat a girl's pussy AND ass. Damn near daily. I've always loved to eat pussy and I don't feel it's a submissive act at all. I eat it because it pleases ME. LOL (Of course I do try to eat until she cums more than last time.)

I am under the FIRM belief that a DOM should provide pleasure to his sub.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 6:45:35 PM

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the sucky part is if he read all of this...(who knows...he told me about this site long ago!) He'd read it and say, well then...you've found men who would do this so there you go. He finds it incredibly easy to move on. As much as what we have means to me, I do not think He finds the level of value I do in it. He isn't into LTR with D/s, never had one go longer than 2 yrs. So i think this is really "it is what it is." I'm pretty certain he just doesn't like doing this to a woman and if I decide to stay being his little girl it will be one that has to go w/o...and now that is become something that's such an issue...really how would i go on? He doesn't like doing it which makes me feel like crap. awww Daddy.... I'm sad. sad sad sad. I appreciate everyones 2 cents. i really do. Thank you so much.

Obviously, its for you to decide of its importance to you. Some woman dont like that. I personally would never be with anyone who says he wont do that.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 6:47:44 PM

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It is plausible that there are male (and female) doms out there who enjoy going down but feel that it is not the thing to do in their dynamic. Bottom line is still the same for the OP. She has to make a choice or maybe lay her cards out and let him make the choice.

DomImus. yup..that's how he says it...not our dynamic. Our relationship is non-monogomous..he has women he does that with..so he says...those are the vanilla relationships he has. I am the only one he uses and abuses. From what i am told, eating me is not something he considers part of our dynamic. Its definitely left me a lot to consider.

I haven't decided yet. I'm a friggin Libra...the worst sign of all for making a quick decision...when I do finally decide though, I stick to my guns. So we will see....

For Him, it's not a part of what He wants when He wants what He wants from me. It's all about Him and even so, I'm very satisfied with it all up to this...ahhh I'm so lucky to have a few girls nights-in soon approaching. I needs some soft female love while I figure this out.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 6:48:08 PM

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Do people really sit down and discuss this? I know I never have when starting a relationship.

I don't but if it's a make or break issue (like it seems to be for the OP "I don't know how to go on...for me it's not complete unless i get this sometimes..." ) then she damned well better bring it up sooner than later and she better have a razor handy.

I can see discussing it when it's become obvious that it's a problem in the relationship. What I originally meant was that when someone first meets someone do they really sit there over a cup of coffee and discuss whether or not they give blow jobs and eat pussy?

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 6:50:10 PM

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the sucky part is if he read all of this...(who knows...he told me about this site long ago!) He'd read it and say, well then...you've found men who would do this so there you go. He finds it incredibly easy to move on. As much as what we have means to me, I do not think He finds the level of value I do in it. He isn't into LTR with D/s, never had one go longer than 2 yrs. So i think this is really "it is what it is." I'm pretty certain he just doesn't like doing this to a woman and if I decide to stay being his little girl it will be one that has to go w/o...and now that is become something that's such an issue...really how would i go on? He doesn't like doing it which makes me feel like crap. awww Daddy.... I'm sad. sad sad sad. I appreciate everyones 2 cents. i really do. Thank you so much.

I wish you the best, truly. Just dont be unhappy...wether thats life with or without getting your pussy sucked.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 7:10:49 PM

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My slave eats my pussy when I want it. That's because I'm the dominant and like to be on the receiving end.
But I will never take his member in my mouth or lick him there. I'm just not that kind of girl.
He likes to please me and would not dream of insisting on something he would like.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 7:13:13 PM

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this question is for any D/s relationship with strong s&m tendancies.

we're M/s, but no squabble with the label D/s...so,check.

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... So I want to know for all you sub ladies out there how many of you get this desire fulfilled...

it isn't a desire for this slave. if it never happened again she wouldn't shed a tear.

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...I know it's a vanilla act...

no it isn't. it's an act all sorts of folks of all orientations participate in. in order for this slave to particpate in having her pussy eaten, she'd have to submit to HIS desire to eat her pussy...how's that vanilla?

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 7:14:12 PM

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I can see discussing it when it's become obvious that it's a problem in the relationship. What I originally meant was that when someone first meets someone do they really sit there over a cup of coffee and discuss whether or not they give blow jobs and eat pussy?

Once it becomes a problem in the relationship it's too late if it becomes a stalemate. You're six or eight months in and he hasn't gone down yet so she asks about it and finds out he isn't into that and won't be in this lifetime or any other - doesn't appeal to him. Again, if this is a make or break and she just assumed he would because every other guy she knows does it now they have a dilemma. I think people should give some thought to these sort of "must have" issues and bring them up asap - even maybe over that cup of joe at the first meet if it's something that has to be there.

If I had to have blowjobs as part of my sexual agenda (I don't) and would not consider a relationship with a woman who does not do that then I should be making that known very early. I know several women with the "If you don't go down you don't get in" mantra but I'll bet not one of them asks about it until it becomes a problem. Saves a lot of time and grief if that exchange happens in Starbucks.

I'm in a long term relationship and I'm not looking but now I have inspired myself. If I ever end up unattached again and find myself in the dating pool I will be asking over that first coffee if she shaves her armpits. It's a deal breaker.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 7:37:12 PM

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DomImus. yup..that's how he says it...not our dynamic. Our relationship is non-monogomous..he has women he does that with..so he says...those are the vanilla relationships he has. I am the only one he uses and abuses. From what i am told, eating me is not something he considers part of our dynamic. Its definitely left me a lot to consider.

I haven't decided yet. I'm a friggin Libra...the worst sign of all for making a quick decision...when I do finally decide though, I stick to my guns. So we will see....

For Him, it's not a part of what He wants when He wants what He wants from me. It's all about Him and even so, I'm very satisfied with it all up to this...ahhh I'm so lucky to have a few girls nights-in soon approaching. I needs some soft female love while I figure this out.

It's all fine and dandy to have a non monogamous relationship...but...you say you want a "central dominant in your world." How central can he be when you only see him a couple of times a month and you have only been together for a few? Yes, long distance relationships are hard, but after reading the above, you seem to be not much more than a kinky diversion I'm sorry to say. Yes, there are many D/s relationships where it is all about the D, but that isn't what you are looking for, so why sell yourself short and settle for it?

You are new to this, don't let some self centered self proclaimed dominant tell you that it you can't have something because you are a sub. It sounds more like you are there for him to enjoy his sadistic tendencies with, not much else. All the "relationship" stuff is for his vanilla girlfriends. I have nothing against people who openly choose not to be monogamous, but I do have something against a guy (or girl) feeling that they can use the dynamic to get out of anything.

So really, no, the D/s dynamic DOES NOT mean it is all about him, not when you want it to be about both of you.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 7:39:20 PM

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My slave eats my pussy when I want it. That's because I'm the dominant and like to be on the receiving end.
But I will never take his member in my mouth or lick him there. I'm just not that kind of girl.
He likes to please me and would not dream of insisting on something he would like.

But did he know that you would never suck his dick going into the relationship? Or was it like the OP's "dominant," who led her to believe that if she was very very good, she might be rewarded with such a thing?

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 7:50:12 PM

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...I know it's a vanilla act...

no it isn't. it's an act all sorts of folks of all orientations participate in. in order for this slave to particpate in having her pussy eaten, she'd have to submit to HIS desire to eat her pussy...how's that vanilla?

oh good grief..i am a young grasshopper aren't i? He is my first experience in this lifestyle. Before Him, no one has beat me, tied me up, whipped me, left me with bruises that take weeks to heal. No one before Him has ever made me cry so hard then cum so good. I don't know anything else. He told me in His view, that's vanilla. Every D/s, M/s is different. He's shown me the painslut I am. Before last May, I just knew I liked being spanked! haha...so much more I have learned I enjoy since. Where I'm at is because of my history or lack thereof. I just realized I liked being Dominated and I found my Daddy and he's taught me so much that I am grateful for. It's good to know that if I move on most people here get it and enjoy giving it. It is what it is with him. I would rather decide it's not going to work than become bitter over it and i suppose wishful thinking is only that now. Fuck.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 7:57:12 PM

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Why be bitter? There are plenty of men who love to eat pussy. And some of them are very talented at it. What I know is that if oral sex (receiving) is important to you and he won't do it, you may grow to resent him and the relationship over time. It is something to consider, especially if there is a lot tied up in that particular act for you. I have always felt that oral sex is the most intimate act (yes, you heard me right), and I prefer a guy who not only does it, but does it well and enthusiastically.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 7:57:57 PM

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It's all fine and dandy to have a non monogamous relationship...but...you say you want a "central dominant in your world." How central can he be when you only see him a couple of times a month and you have only been together for a few? Yes, long distance relationships are hard, but after reading the above, you seem to be not much more than a kinky diversion I'm sorry to say. Yes, there are many D/s relationships where it is all about the D, but that isn't what you are looking for, so why sell yourself short and settle for it?

So really, no, the D/s dynamic DOES NOT mean it is all about him, not when you want it to be about both of you.

been together since last May.
all in all what you are saying is what he wants and what i desire are two different things...
good introspection, LafayetteLady. Thank you. If this is it for us, I'm still grateful for what he's taught me and I can't help but like him a lot. For me, all the experiences he's given me are very meaningful/spiritual. It has had great impact on my person. I am more disciplined now. I gave up biting my nails & smoking. I run now. I can put my mind to things. I'm very grateful for not only learning myself sexually but just plain overall growth as a person. So no matter if I am just a kinky diversion in His World, in mine, its meant much more to me.

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 8:00:17 PM

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Why be bitter? There are plenty of men who love to eat pussy. And some of them are very talented at it. What I know is that if oral sex (receiving) is important to you and he won't do it, you may grow to resent him and the relationship over time. It is something to consider, especially if there is a lot tied up in that particular act for you. I have always felt that oral sex is the most intimate act (yes, you heard me right), and I prefer a guy who not only does it, but does it well and enthusiastically.

indeed. if I had jeanie of the lamp powers for just one wish...that would be it...he would take me and bury his face in that pussy till it was orgasm torture...hell, it would keep me happy for a long while. lol oh well...if wishes were horses...

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 8:16:21 PM

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I don't feel cared for. Or appreciated. i don't think i'm asking for a lot...i'm so lost....so i just got to know if what i desire, beyond, whips and paddles and ropes is normal for anyone else.....

ORIGINAL: sweetboundesire

Just playing devil's advocate here, because I have a hard time imagining a relationship which has been good for you on many levels ending because of one sexual act. Perhaps you could look at your relationship and see the ways in which he does care for and appreciate you? Maybe they don't exist, but you've list the ways in which you've improved since being with him, so I can't imagine he's that involved with you merely for the kink. But ... I could be wrong!

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RE: eating pussy - 1/8/2010 8:18:48 PM

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Why be bitter? There are plenty of men who love to eat pussy. And some of them are very talented at it. What I know is that if oral sex (receiving) is important to you and he won't do it, you may grow to resent him and the relationship over time. It is something to consider, especially if there is a lot tied up in that particular act for you. I have always felt that oral sex is the most intimate act (yes, you heard me right), and I prefer a guy who not only does it, but does it well and enthusiastically.

I agree..I mean, what is the big deal? it's not like asking a guy to borrow his black Amex to buy shoes is it? Sheesh...

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