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ORIGINAL: domiguy

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

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ORIGINAL: chicagoswitch

Today, you asked her to do something and she hesitated, she questioned you.  How do you respond?

Trust is a two-way street. Presumably, this whole time of happy relationship was one that also fostered your trust in his decisions and commands, yes?

So why did you hesitate? What does "she questioned" mean? She made a comment that seemed to call into question the honor of my motivations? That wouldn't go over well. She was confused or unsure about the task required and requested the chance to discuss it? That would prompt a sit-down talk.

As it stands, you've intentionally written a 'preview of coming attractions' thread designed to build the attractiveness of your past behavior in order to shed a tinted light onto what was likely a mistake on your part (I am not sure of this, but that seems like the most likely reason someone would build the story and question in the way you have).

Blah...blah...blah.

There is a much larger picture here that you have an apparently difficult time understanding.

A large part of being in any type of relationship is the ability to be intuitive to your partners feelings.  Just because something is not orated does not mean that it is not being felt or relevant.

If silence is always a sign of condoning an activity we would never have coups, uprisings or so many arguments.  Sometimes enough is simply enough.

Most people realize when they are pulling something over on another and everyone usually recognizes when they are getting the short end of the stick.  Silence does not change those facts.  The built up animosity and feelings of being slighted often lead to an event where emotions tend to boil over to the point where nothing is salvageable.

I think a big part in our responsibility as a Dom is to be able to recognize those thoughts that go unspoken.  Many subs have such a strong desire to please and avoid confrontation that they tend to let things go unsaid and build up.  It is simply an overly  naive approach to think that silence always means acceptance.

If I owned any NZ points I would cash them in now....Their value is plummeting.

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ORIGINAL: chicagoswitch

This post addresses all the Dominants, please consider the following scenario and give me your thoughts.  Thank you. You have a strong, intelligent submissive you have been with for over a year.  She has never hesitated or questioned you when asked to do anything, sexual or non-sexual.  She trusts you so much, you have never needed a safe word.  She adores you and shows it with every fiber of her being.  You must play at hotels because you both have ums at home.  She always arrives first, pays for the room and makes sure everything is in order before you arrive.  Today, you asked her to do something and she hesitated, she questioned you.  How do you respond?