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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Depends on what the reply is, no?...

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but i dont feel the need to repeat everything in my profile

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ORIGINAL: osf
but i dont feel the need to repeat everything in my profile

with a few clicks they can see it

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and i must mention i do get reply s so it must work on some

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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but i dont feel the need to repeat everything in my profile

What is giving you the impression that women want you to do that? Are there a lot of subs/slave types that chastise you for not writing short length novels? I am just curious as to why you think that women expect this...

I have never expected that from someone.. in fact if they wrote too long of an email that might turn me off because I would think it was a canned email they sent out to everyone....

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ORIGINAL: osf


which i believe is counter productive

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ORIGINAL: osf

i never tell a new woman what to say and many ask what i want them to tell me and my answer is you're telling me, if i knew you wouldn't have to tell me, because i want to hear their words not the words they think i want to hear

it's the same way with email contact, let the other person choose their own words not words you say you want to see

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

In other words, since the information is already available, you're not willing to make more of an investment? 

When you write a profile or journal entry, you are talking to the masses in a certain extent.  None of it is particularly communicating with the person you are contacting.  They are forms of one way communication and not necessarily interaction.  Not to mention, profiles and journals, in general, are only a written form of what you think.  There's very little on how that applies to someone else, or how someone else meshes with those ideas.  It's more like handing someone a script and telling them they are reading for a particular part.

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

In other words, since the information is already available, you're not willing to make more of an investment?

When you write a profile or journal entry, you are talking to the masses in a certain extent. None of it is particularly communicating with the person you are contacting. They are forms of one way communication and not necessarily interaction. Not to mention, profiles and journals, in general, are only a written form of what you think. There's very little on how that applies to someone else, or how someone else meshes with those ideas. It's more like handing someone a script and telling them they are reading for a particular part.

I see where you're coming from, but this seems kind of...silly. I get that people want to feel special and like they're being given special effort, but it seems to me that two people either are or aren't compatible regardless of whether he writes an entirely job-specific resume just for one person or refers to one that should already have all the pertinent data the other person might need.

Not saying that doing something specific just for a person won't boost your chances...it just seems like it boosts your chances simply on the fact that it's flattery.

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Its not flattery to receive a back and forth e-mail interchange where you believe you are learning about someone and they are taking an interest in learning about you.

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

Ah yes, the infamous "read my profile" email. Personally, I don't care if the profile is Pulitzer Prize winning good. If the email doesn't interest me, or say anything aside from "read my profile and get back to me", it gets binned. I'm more interested in how someone expresses himself in conversation than in his profile.

As an aside, osf, I do believe you've referenced your profile and journal on the boards about once a day since you've been here, telling people in threads to go read it instead of actually discussing whatever the point is.

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Having lots of words on a profile does not indicate you are sharing anything of yourself.

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Its not flattery to receive a back and forth e-mail interchange where you believe you are learning about someone and they are taking an interest in learning about you.

But that doesn't seem to be what people are saying. Obviously, if two people think they get along communication will follow. But those e-mails happen after there is an implied mutual interest already in place.

This topic seems to be addressing how to get to the point of that mutual interest (with more seeming to lean towards special flattery).

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

You might think that simple flattering emails do the trick, but they do not. I get constant emails complimenting me as the only line in the email. I simply say thank you back. There is nothing to work with beyond the compliment.

If someone does not follow up a compliment on your photo with some words about your profile or some other reply that is designed to elicit a reply back, it ends there.

I don't need a literary thesis written to me, but I do like something interesting that I can grab onto to write back to.

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Its not flattery to receive a back and forth e-mail interchange where you believe you are learning about someone and they are taking an interest in learning about you.

But that doesn't seem to be what people are saying. Obviously, if two people think they get along communication will follow. But those e-mails happen after there is an implied mutual interest already in place.

This topic seems to be addressing how to get to the point of that mutual interest (with more seeming to lean towards special flattery).

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Its not flattery to receive a back and forth e-mail interchange where you believe you are learning about someone and they are taking an interest in learning about you.

But that doesn't seem to be what people are saying. Obviously, if two people think they get along communication will follow. But those e-mails happen after there is an implied mutual interest already in place.

This topic seems to be addressing how to get to the point of that mutual interest (with more seeming to lean towards special flattery).

You might think that simple flattering emails do the trick, but they do not. I get constant emails complimenting me as the only line in the email. I simply say thank you back. There is nothing to work with beyond the compliment.

If someone does not follow up a compliment on your photo with some words about your profile or some other reply that is designed to elicit a reply back, it ends there.

I don't need a literary thesis written to me, but I do like something interesting that I can grab onto to write back to.