xxblushesxx
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Joined: 11/3/2005 From: Kentucky Status: offline
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Just a few quick thoughts after reading this thread: That guy is a true user and abuser. AVOID at ALL COSTS! I'm SO sorry that this is your first foray into the bdsm world, and this is what you got. As you said before, many of us are cherished and adored, and if something in a scene is taking us to a bad place, the scene STOPS. I don't even have a safeword, but I know that He stops. As was said, this has much less to do with bdsm, and everything to do with abuse. What do you have at his house? I'd leave it there and tell him to shove it unless it was a diamond ring my great great grandmother Helga gave me, or medicine that I couldn't replace and would die without. Just walk away. I know in a way, you want the big goodbye...look at what you're gonna be missing, etc. It's just not worth it. Leave it. I believe that you can trust the RedMagic one. If he says no possiblity of play, and you show up wearing nothing but nipple clamps and bells, he'll take you to lunch and have a conversation with you. Real gentlemen keep their word. As others have said, block his emails, block his phone, and don't see or talk to him any more. Naive does not mean stupid. Just because you made a mistake, you don't have to continue to beat yourself up over it. Take some time to be good to yourself. You opened yourself up and were rewarded with cruelty instead of kindness. It's not your fault. Some of these guys are VERY charming, and it's difficult to see beyond that. Remember for next time though, when a man shows you what he is (the night he made you stay in that position for an hour and told you he had a vendetta against you) believe it. Lots of doms are even friends with their ex'es and their exes will vouch for them. (I have a time or two) If a dom is still friends with several exes, and they are willing to vouch for him, it says alot about him as a person, doesn't it? You're a sweet and smart girl; you'll get this all figured out in no time!!
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~Christina A nice girl with a disturbing hobby My femdom findom blog: http://www.MistressAvarice.com
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