NihilusZero
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Joined: 9/10/2008 From: Nashville, TN Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: SlaveSimone To me, doormat has negative connotations because its indicative of being walked on. A doormat is someone who stands by weakly while some one uses, abuses, and generally disrespects them in ways that they are NOT ok with. It's the in ability to stand up for ones self in bad situations. So when our dear most favorite troll says that he wants a doormat, to me that's saying he wants some one who he can trample, stomp on, and treat poorly in all manner, and will still lay at his front door despite feeling completely abused and unhappy in the relationship. I fail to see the positive side of this. Being obedient and compliant is not one with being forced to do things that are sincerely harmful to your being. I love and trust my partner deeply, but if it ever comes to the point where he puts me in a situation that's damaging to my emotional or physical well being, then no, I'm not going to sit by the way side and let it happen. This is interesting. By this description, doormats are individuals who are incapable of refusing consent, which leads to the distinction between them (being in an unhappy and unfulfilling relationship) and others (who are still incapable of consent, but are happy in their situation). So, what exactly is the issue, then? The status of being that pliable or being that pliable in a situation that is unhappy/unfulfilling? Because the only aspect differentiating the two is the other partner.
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