juliaoceania
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Joined: 4/19/2006 From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Status: offline
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I'm not at all saying I happily take up the derrogatory or practical connotations. I mean that when people want to call what I do somehow weak, flawed, or wrong, I'd rather own it and find my own strength in the term. I fully realize the unpleasantries associated with the item and the term. I just don't find them relavent. I wouldn't have been a "happy doormat" about two years ago, but now, yeah, I know that if I tumble into that level of submission that it is safe and I will be cared for. It just doesn't mean the same thing anymore and what is left is a term that frankly makes me happy. lovingpet People often take the derogatory term applied to them and turn it on its head by embracing it for themselves... like I said, if people wanna do that, I am all behind that choice. I just do not appreciate some jerk saying that I am a doormat because in my relationship I defer to my partner and follow their lead. I do not think that you are a doormat, lovingpet, because if i were to meet you I would not wipe my feet on you... I do not think any person is a doormat, but then again I am an airy fairy liberal sorta gal. I acknowledge other people feel differently than me, and I respect their right to do so. All I am asking for is not to be labeled a doormat because of my relationship style...which is what happened in that other thread.. and I was jumped on for thinking it is unkind to do.. whatever
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Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt
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