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RE: Forgot you have a wife?? - 5/8/2008 12:45:17 PM

Knight0Errant

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Eh? I saw JustaDallasgirl's post in the scrolling 'recent posts' window on the main page, clicked, read more, and replied. Not sure what you mean. Do please explain.

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Must be a trend. That's two threads called up from the dead on the subject.

Glad you're finding your way around.

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RE: Forgot you have a wife?? - 5/8/2008 2:00:28 PM

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Dallasgirl pulled up threads from 2 years ago. Then you responded to her recent post. Check the posting dates.

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RE: Forgot you have a wife?? - 5/8/2008 3:28:52 PM

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well I just found out a few hours ago that the man I THOUGHT I was going to marry in a couple months has been cheating on me with another Mistress on this site called his cell phone and she answered.. I asked who she was.. I got 'basically' a friend. So when I got her phone # out of her emails to him I called her.. and HE is there .. she won't wake him up to talk to me. I can't believe SOOOOOOOOOOO many people are liars and don't care who they hurt as long as they get what they want.

That really sucks.

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RE: Forgot you have a wife?? - 5/8/2008 3:34:12 PM

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we met at a local bdsm munch, both of us were members of the same kink group :) We were friends for more then a year before we actually decided to pair up. It is amazing that everyone around us said it would happen but we both just dated others before really finding each other. I think the best way to meet people like yourself is to join a local bdsm group. They have tons of information and lost of friendly real people.. ( or at least the groups I have been involved in have had friendly real people in them)

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RE: Forgot you have a wife?? - 5/8/2008 3:46:53 PM

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In many countries, people have affairs and stay happily married for decades. What goes on in a discreet hotel room in the afternoon, stays in a discreet hotel room in the afternoon! But hey we have not evolved yet!

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RE: Forgot you have a wife?? - 5/8/2008 5:55:36 PM

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In many countries, people have affairs and stay happily married for decades. What goes on in a discreet hotel room in the afternoon, stays in a discreet hotel room in the afternoon! But hey we have not evolved yet!

Or maybe we've evolved past it.

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RE: Forgot you have a wife?? - 5/8/2008 6:31:12 PM

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I am starting to get really discouraged. It seems the quality of subs to be found in my area on both collarme, and alt. is very very low. I have encountered wanna be's, and liars repeatedly. The last one I though was a perfect match, forgot he was married....

Could be an age thing....over 45, things slip a bit.

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RE: Forgot you have a wife?? - 5/8/2008 8:25:11 PM

roland23

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Perhaps we are just a bunch of Puritans in this country! Thankfully, we have great therapy!

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RE: Forgot you have a wife?? - 5/8/2008 8:37:58 PM

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Well, I for one am glad this thread was resurrected because it gave Me something important to think about. I'm in a completely open marriage, but I always let people know about it within the first few messages (as soon as it looks like it might be someone I'm actually interested in talking to and not just another wanker) in case it's an issue for them. But it's honestly never once occurred to Me to put that information in My profile until I read this thread, and now I'm considering adding it. I don't know for sure whether I will or not, for a variety of reasons, but I am definitely and seriously considering it. The last thing I want is to mislead someone about My situation.

And while I'm here I'd like to point out that, while it's true probably 98% of the time that if a person claims to have an open marriage and yet the potential partner can't get an opportunity to talk directly to the spouse, then the marriage is probably not really all that open, it's also true that there are exceptions to the rule. In My case, My husband and I have never had any sexual relationship whatsoever and we never will, and we both get our sexual fulfillment outside the marriage (it was planned that way from the beginning), but we give each other complete privacy about any activities that we engage in.

That was his idea, incidentally. He doesn't want to talk about his relationships, and he doesn't want to hear about Mine. The one time I asked him to assure someone that it was all cool, he made it clear that that's not his problem. He said I would have find a way to deal with those situations Myself and that if a person didn't want to accept My word for it, it probably wasn't a good match anyway. So if one goes by the rule that there's no relationship without talking directly to the spouse, that would leave Me out of the equation. Don't get Me wrong; I certainly understand that it's a good rule overall and if that's what you need, more power to you. I'm only pointing out that it's possible to be completely on the level and yet not be able to offer concrete proof.

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RE: Forgot you have a wife?? - 5/11/2008 3:17:29 PM

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I am starting to wonder if I'm a looser magnet lol.

I had a lady friend that dated one alcoholic after another over a decade or so. She was usually in romantic/sexual/emotional turmoil as a result. She was a fairly bright woman so I was always surprised by her choosing essentially the same man to hook up with repeatedly.

One day she asked me a similar question, "What am I, some sort of alcoholic magnet?" My answer to her was "No. Steve (Bill, John, whoever) went out with Cyndi, Ellen and Sarah too. But you're the one that let him stay."

You'll find better, healthier partners when you figure out what it is you need so much that you're willing to sell yourself out in order to get it.

She did manage to get a handle on things and has now been involved with a nice fellow for the past 3 years. I wish I could take some credit for that but I doubt I can. Most changes that deep are internally driven.

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