Steelslilbit
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Joined: 8/10/2009 Status: offline
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This question gets asked so many times, and it always breaks my switchy little heart to see someone new to the boards go through this. Even when I went through it. It's so completely and horrifically true that some people, both Doms and subs, look down on Switches. There isn't much degrading that Switches haven't gone through at some point in time. Indecisive, players, power mongerers, smart assed maschocist, so on so forth. It drives me crazy that just because I know exactly what I want, I'm told that I must not know because I can't choose one side or the other. Doms don't look down on subs because they choose to be the one to take the punishment, the humiliation from the Doms. Subs don't look down on Doms because they feel the need to punish and humiliate. So how is it that someone who has the ability to do both, at any time, and enjoy the crap out of it, is looked down upon? I cherish the fact that I am a Switch because there aren't very many actual Switches. I think a lot more people than claim don't know exactly what they want, and simply cling to one title or another. It doesn't make anyone any less "true" to the BDSM scene. It means there is more to learn, more to grow, and anyone who thinks they are done growing should check their pulse, cuz as long as they have one, there is still more growth do be done. And I wanted to take a sec and also thank those who answered GoFigure's question. You guys/gals were all way supportive, and any time I see that on the boards I have to take a second and bring a spotlight to it. It makes me remember why I keep my collarme profile, and why I still come to the boards even after all the Doms claiming they own me through the internet, and subs who claim I own them through the internet. x.x Rekindles my fire that there are healthy at least quasi sane people in the lifestyle I should be trying to find.. :D
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i'll try anything once, twice if i like it. If you wanna know you better ask, and if i don't want to answer i won't. Offical Language: Caryn-ese (Translator available upon request)
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