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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/19/2010 11:04:57 PM

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i have no issue with "No bra, no panties" on a first date, if directed to do so by a potential Owner.

However, a rule of mine to protect my status as unowned property is that if he doesn't Own me, he doesn't get to put his hand up my skirt or down my top.

He's free to observe the effect of the no bra all he likes, though.

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 2:02:44 AM

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The first time I met a Dom he wanted me to wear them. I thouhgt it was odd because of all the stories I read of the Dom wanting no Panties. But He also wanted thigh highs too.

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 3:12:41 AM

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ORIGINAL: swaybackgirl

Why does it seem that the majority of dom's make the "1st meeting "
with a sub girl and want her to show up with no bra, no panties?
I sense red flags when I hear this,

Do Dom Ladies order sub boys to show up commando ?

Do You ? Would you require it ? please explain, Why ?

I don't make any demands on a first meet beyond stressing that it'll be informal and vanilla normal. So yeah, I can see how you'd see red flags in a stranger making what is essentially an outrageous demand.

And on female underwear, I seem to be one of the rare Doms who thinks bra and panties look verrrrry sexy on the female form and I mostly like to string things out when I have my girl remove them in a formal D/s setting. And I mean *my* girl, not someone I've just met or barely know....

Focus.

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 3:25:12 AM

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no bra, no panties?

No bra, no panties, no profile

Is there a name for this obsessive fetish of yours?

Only rhetorical, of course.... (You perpetually whine about poster non-profiles but never once man up when challenged yourself).

If it really does bug you, I don't s'pose just skipping the thread is an option....? ;-)

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 3:27:52 AM

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And on female underwear, I seem to be one of the rare Doms who thinks bra and panties look verrrrry sexy on the female form and I mostly like to string things out when I have my girl remove them in a formal D/s setting

Does this mean I'll have to bin my "boy briefs" if we ever meet?

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 3:34:28 AM

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I tend to hit first meetings rather early. Frankly I don't treat them as serious unless and until I've sat down for a face to face chat, probably over coffee (Oft somewhere nicely public therefore safe for them), the first meeting is more a "see if there is anything worth actually talking about"... at that point I really couldn't give a monkeys what underware she has on.

If however I was talking to someone who was looking for a one off play session and I was bored enough to even consider it, then maybe it would be an issue... probably not though because even there, if I don't feel that chemistry, nothing is going to be happening.

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 3:45:47 AM

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

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And on female underwear, I seem to be one of the rare Doms who thinks bra and panties look verrrrry sexy on the female form and I mostly like to string things out when I have my girl remove them in a formal D/s setting

Does this mean I'll have to bin my "boy briefs" if we ever meet?

Hmmmm, "boy briefs" doesn't seem to be doing anything for me in the context of "bra and panties look verrrrry sexy on the female form".... Yeah, bin those suckers!

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 4:24:27 AM

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ORIGINAL: swaybackgirl

Why does it seem that the majority of dom's make the "1st meeting "
with a sub girl and want her to show up with no bra, no panties?
I sense red flags when I hear this,

Do Dom Ladies order sub boys to show up commando ?

Do You ? Would you require it ? please explain, Why ?

That never happened to me when I was on the other side of the slash, and I wouldn't do it from this side, either. Without an established dynamic, it would be presumptuous, to say the least.

Who's ordering this?? Do they have "no fucking clue" tatooed on their forehead?

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 4:46:53 AM

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Everyone is different.

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 4:53:26 AM

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I have had females show up to a first meeting wearing very little and it was their cloice

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 11:20:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

i have no issue with "No bra, no panties" on a first date, if directed to do so by a potential Owner.

However, a rule of mine to protect my status as unowned property is that if he doesn't Own me, he doesn't get to put his hand up my skirt or down my top.

He's free to observe the effect of the no bra all he likes, though.

What if he has a wad of $100 bills in his hand

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 12:51:27 PM

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i'm thinking the reason behind the "no bra, no panties" is CONTROL, seeing how much of it He can get on a first meet, to see how successful He is at it so far. Also, possibly, to see how far she will submit to Someone Who does not own her yet..... When i was still looking, my feeling was, if He doesn't own me, i won't submit. We had to know each other as PEOPLE first.

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 12:52:50 PM

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I'm with littlewonder - back when I was looking, I turned down a few dates specifically because they asked me to show up without any panties. I felt that it wasn't appropriate for the amount of contact we'd had at that point, and that they were most likely only looking for a playpartner or fuckdolly rather than a potential relationship.

GraciousLady, the skirt would have to be *awfully* short for anyone else to know that someone wasn't wearing them - for me, the issue was with it being a first date, not the venue.

Level, "boy briefs" just refers to the cut. Here are some sheer ones that I think are very feminine and sexy: http://www.wildfree.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Product_Code=wsy-pak902&Category_Code=risque-bras&Store_Code=WF

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 1:01:17 PM

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I doubt I would meet a dom who demanded that for our first meeting. Now, that said, if I happen to know his preference and my moon cycle doesn't interfer, I'm likely to do it without being actually commanded to so that, should things happen, he'll be pleasently surprised with me. I highly doubt that Valyraen will ever request a potential partner to go sans underwear for their friend meeting. He's much more likely to request/command that she come prepared for a debate on a particular subject so that he can see how her mind works.

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 4:17:22 PM

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Well, my first meeting with Daddy includes a 8 hour plane trip followed by a 3 or 4 hour or train ride. And I wear a 36G bra. I'm pretty sure he'll just be happy if I survive the plane trip (I did request to ride the train, I've never been on a train before! It took him 24 hours of thinking before he said yes). I'm pretty sure he would not be happy if I give the poor person sitting next to me on the plane a cramped neck from staring

or myself a black eye

, should there be turbulence. I'm guessing I'm safe to wear whatever undergarments are appropriate to the situation.

Although, I rarely if ever wear panties. Now I'm wondering if he actually wants me to *adds that question to the list*.

In general, though, I think UniqueRaven's take on the situation is spot on. It doesn't cost you a lot to comply (and if you have concerns about being seen bra-less, the answer to them is communication followed by obedience). But be firm about the unowned goodies not being touched until the rest of you is claimed. After all, anyone can touch you, but very few will be able to touch your mind.

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 5:47:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: swaybackgirl

Why does it seem that the majority of dom's make the "1st meeting "
with a sub girl and want her to show up with no bra, no panties?
I sense red flags when I hear this,

Do Dom Ladies order sub boys to show up commando ?

Do You ? Would you require it ? please explain, Why ?

Hmmm. And I thought that it was the "white shirt / black skirt" that was the approved s-type uniform for first meets. When did this change to no-underpants?

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 6:41:44 PM

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You guys let them wear clothes?

I have arranged a few first meetings where the woman was naked and well, ready.

That said, I have met more than a few women just for coffee wearing clothes and panties I assume, them I mean.

Its not based on some expectation based on me being gods gift to dominance but instead chemistry, timing, etc. and what worked for the two of us.

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 8:34:05 PM

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actuall, maybe on the 3d date I might ask that..and honestly, not in a public place. What, I should let them get arrested for lewness in a public place?

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 10:05:37 PM

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Panties coming off is sexier than panties being off in the first place, if you ask me

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RE: no bra, no panties ! - 3/20/2010 10:09:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: osf

quote:

ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

i have no issue with "No bra, no panties" on a first date, if directed to do so by a potential Owner.

However, a rule of mine to protect my status as unowned property is that if he doesn't Own me, he doesn't get to put his hand up my skirt or down my top.

He's free to observe the effect of the no bra all he likes, though.

What if he has a wad of $100 bills in his hand

Nah, money means very little to me. There are much more important things to focus on.

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