BitaTruble
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Joined: 1/12/2006 From: Texas Status: offline
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Submission and Domination requires too much of a person to readily just flip back and forth between the two depending on your mental/emotional state at that time. There should be an emotional involvement, to one extent or another, with the person that you are scene'ing with, regardless of who plays which role. Why should you have to have emotional involvement? I've played with plenty of people with whom I've had no emotional connection what so ever and had a grand time and so did they. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar and sometimes fun is just fun. quote:
It is better to live one complete life than to incomplete ones. Being a switch doesn't mean you are living two incomplete lives. On the contrary, I live one very happy, satisfied life and I wouldn't change it for anything. quote:
Neither side will be fully and completely embraced, simply because the brain, for whatever motivations lie in it, will not allow either full submission or full dominance with another person. Maybe 'your' brain. My brain handles it just fine. quote:
Every switch I know, in all honesty, has never felt completely comfortable with themselves in terms of the lifestyle. Nice to meet you. I'm Celeste and I'm fully, completely and honestly comfortable with myself in terms of the lifestyle and outside of the lifestyle as well. There.. now you've 'met' someone. :) quote:
Being a dominant with both self destructive and masochistic tendencies at rare times, does this infer that I am a switch instead of a dominant? No, because I do not think of myself in that way. You can call yourself whatever you like! No one's stopping you. However, others have the option of viewing you as they will. Can't stop the perceptions of others. quote:
In a tug-o-war, there are two teams with a flag tied at either end. One end in this image is dominance, the other submission. Can you run from side to side without one end of the rope falling to the ground? The rope, by the way, is your entire existence, flesh, bone, and soul. It creates too much of a rift inside yourself to attempt to feast on both sides of the cake at will. Not everyone is in an internal war with themselves. quote:
In some ways, being a switch could infer merely being hedonistic, wanting to enjoy both ends of the whip, so to speak. I don't know that I'd go that far. Certainly pleasure is an important aspect of my life, but it's not the be all end all. I'm a multifaceted human creature with many interests and pleasure is high on the list, but it's not at the top of the list. Nice thread. Celeste
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"Oh, so it's just like Rock, paper, scissors." He laughed. "You are the wisest woman I know."
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