HayaSierra -> RE: Are you the PERFECT domme? (4/15/2006 6:14:43 PM)
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Greetings, I am far from the perfect Domme, that is for sure -- because each person is different, and I am not afraid to admit that I am definitely NOT the perfect Domme for most submissives. As for why those who are with me are with me, and why I have the effect on them that I do is because I happen to provide what they are seeking and hitting the proverbial nail on the head with them and am often the only one that seems to understand what they really are looking for. As for long term plans, yes I have been given serious thought and effort towards the future of those who are with me now and who stay with me. Especially things that deal with long term issues such as older age, dynamics shifting, investments, inproving of skills, health, and much more. I'm a complete person, and while I may not provide all resources for those I own personally, and while not all of them will be available right away I am not the type to leave a slave with a morgage, car payments or anything like that. If they remain, I would invest in them -- make them happier as I can manage. Increase their knowledge. Etc. This is because the better they are, and the better their situations are and their outlooks on life, the more worth they carry for me. In fact for me, and in my cultural beliefs, I have nothing against a slave of mine becoming well-to-do or successful in something, say Inventing or to learn another trade such as Carpentry or to kick a bad habit such as smoking -- because when one gets down to it, one who is fully trained and firmly mine is an extension of my will and anything they achieve as individuals better my entire household and thus reflects good upon me as the Owner. And should they wish to leave, they would leave with experience, a clearer understanding of who they are as a person and hopefully a better personal situation then when they came to me. As for what makes the difference to me and why I am confident in those I bring to me, I don't just rush to move someone in with me. I make sure by as many means as I can that indeed what I am offering and specializing in is indeed what will meet or exceed their needs. In fact, I've even let people try it out -- and get information about things before going any further. Online training. Then there is required visitation. As for the amount of control I require -- I also gradually build it up. Start with a little, go from there. Accountability for actions before progress to change those I don't like. From 6 sodas a day to one when given as a reward over a period of months or weeks. Trust in letting me view something, before rushing to interfere with something. For example -- I might make one that is mine show me that they trust me without making them go through horrible things. This way I can get an idea for feelings and barriers to my control. See what is harder to let go of then not. For example -- one who for instance tells me in January that he would never go with another male without being forced may tell me in June that while he still would not like to be with a male, he accepts that this would not be his choice to make but mine and fully understands his place. While I may never make him be with a male (it does not float my boat), knowing about such changes in perception show me that indeed things are going in the right direction. By the end of it the result is what I want though -- the person is mine. Mind. Body. Possessions. Heart. Just a basic form of control and ownership. Really :). Haya Sierra ---
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