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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/21/2010 4:15:59 PM

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well baltimore is the same way- there is a 4-degrees of seperation here. but since i was meeting him as a potential mate- i was hoping to keep things neutral and light. but i will be more cautious of who i meet from here

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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 3:00:56 AM

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but why Ma'am why why why why why , i though princess is a compliment but why why
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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 3:12:34 AM

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I actually find I am pretty dominant in regular encounters, not like jthe OP has suggested just day to day life. I recently found out that I got my job because in the interview (which lasted ten mins) the boss thought I would be a 'ball buster' which is what he thought he wanted, also talking to a few work mates the other day we decided that he is pretty intimidated by me which I find hilarious, the consensus is because I am a strong character. Ironically in this context I identify as submissive.

In actual relation to the OP I don't like to force anything, if I meet someone I am how I am, I don't say 'this will be a vanilla meeting' I just go along and see what happens, people bring different things out of me and there is little I can do to control that.

On your specific experience, he sounds like a knob and in future if you plan a vanilla meeting and specify such you would probably be better off to explain what that means to you

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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 4:15:49 AM

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but why Ma'am why why why why why , i though princess is a compliment but why why
kevin

Because 'Princess' is an endearment, and it's overly familiar.

I dislike you, kevin, and particularly after you called blushes a worthless slut I do not want your compliments, and I do not want your endearments, and I do not want you to act familiar with me.

'Princess' is also patronising. Do not patronise me.

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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 4:17:33 AM

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I am a strong character.

I can verify this

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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 5:04:08 AM

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Shit happens. I don't know both sides of the story so I'm not prepared to comment on what you originally posted about but I will offer a little advice on something you said later on.

You said you had to change your phone number. I'm taking it you have two phones if your a pro Domme? One for personal use and one for business. I used to give out my personal number to anyone I knew really well (trustworthy people) and my business phone to clients, potential clients and scene people I didn't know that well, especially potential meets.
My personal phone was always safe but my business phone would get all sorts of time wasters who obtained my number through my website. Once I had established they were time wasters or jerks, I put a name to the number so that if they called, I knew not to answer. That name was 'time waster'. If I had changed my number every time I had a 'time waster' persistently try and call me, I would of been changing my number at least once a week.
If I had changed my phone number then I would of had to of changed my website number and I would of had to text every regular client. Some I wouldn't of been able to text because even though I had their number, they had made it clear that I must never call or text them (discretion reasons) If I had a re-direct number, then I would of had to pay every time someone tried to call me on my old number, so don't ever change your business number unless you really have to. Its too much hassle.
If on the other hand, it was my personal number and I wasn't on a network that allowed 'number block' I would of just ignored it. I have an ex sub who tries to call me every day and who has text me every Friday at 8pm for the last 4 years. I never pick up and I never text back.

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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 5:33:22 AM

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i know i am a terrible person, very unlikeable, it would be better if my oxygen was cut off at birth
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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 5:48:44 AM

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In the middle of a Starbuck's, he bellowed out "You're not a domme! If you were, i'd be eating this fucking scone under the table like a dog! Am i? NO- YOU ARE A FUCKING FAKE!"?

Incredible.

Welcome to the US mate. =o/

Not in my neck of the woods.

What do you do when a child is throwing a temper tantrum? I ignore it and walk away. The more attention you give to bad behavior, the more likely you'll be to see it.

I would have given his a time-out for not using his inside voice.

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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 5:52:45 AM

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i didnt mean to call blushes a slut. i was totally out of order i was wrong. the only person worthless is me. im sorry Ma'am
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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 5:52:55 AM

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i looked down and noticed that the strap on her shoe was undone. So i knelt down and strapped her sandal. She said, "thank you", and stood up. i'm sure that she undid her shoe intentionally

if that had been me...i would have forgotten about my shoe, stood up and fell flat on my ass.

Damn good thing i am a sub.

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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 5:58:17 AM

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Beware Miss Asylum, Lady Pact wears stilletto boots. She drives a taxi possibly too. Beware of the Domme wearing stilletto boots. These Dommes are real Dommes they dont wear tennis shoes you know and they expect real RESPECT. They enforce full authority by digging their heels into their subs. THEY ARE AUTHORITARIAN. Be respectful and beware Dommes wearing stilletto boots like Lady Pact.She wears them for a reason You know. She is a real Domme. PS Authentic Dommes dont wear tennis shoes generally
kevin

So MissAsylum is not a real Domme because she does not where stiletto boots in her avatar pic? Damn...there is now an answer on how to spot a fake!! Thanks, Kev.

And only Dommes in boots deserve respect. Who knew?

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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 5:59:50 AM

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Your welcome Ma'am. I like You
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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 6:02:31 AM

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im glad at least one person likes me here. ive made a lot of mistakes i know but i didnt mean to call blushes a slut, im a terrible human being in a lot of ways , but like i say i was totally out of order to call blushes a slut. Sorry for offending Your friend Ma'am
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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 6:03:42 AM

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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 6:07:33 AM

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im a terrible human being in a lot of ways
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Kevin...i feel what you are seeking is a loving pat on the back and a "There, there...you are not a terrible person."

Where as i feel you are NOT a terrible person, i really suggest you do a little soul searching to understand why you are looking to a bunch of strangers for that type of assurance.

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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 6:09:22 AM

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im not looking for any assurance Ma'am i deserve to suffer for the offence i caused to You and Blushes in particular
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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 6:36:52 AM

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i know i am a terrible person, very unlikeable, it would be better if my oxygen was cut off at birth
kevin

Do not put words in my mouth.

If you really mean what you've written above then for the love of god get a better psychiatrist.

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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 7:02:07 AM

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im not looking for any assurance Ma'am i deserve to suffer for the offence i caused to You and Blushes in particular
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Kevin...if you want to cause your own penance, have at it. As to Blushes...all you can do is apologize to her.

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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 7:05:31 AM

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i know i am a terrible person, very unlikeable, it would be better if my oxygen was cut off at birth
kevin

Do not put words in my mouth.

If you really mean what you've written above then for the love of god get a better psychiatrist.

or stop staring at the shoes of the one you already have

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RE: Overt Dominance During A Vanilla Encounter - 5/22/2010 9:04:07 AM

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