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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/24/2006 10:31:06 AM   
SweetDommes


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Just keep in mind that it's not just the sub half of the equation that has trouble - or Dominants wouldn't go through times where we are about to give up/do give up.  I still feel that the ratio is more even ... but digging through the coal to find the diamonds makes it seem nearly impossible (from both sides of the search).

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/24/2006 11:13:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: FLsubmalecd

MarinaBlack, I don't doubt one bit what you are saying but that works two ways.
I took my state for example. If I weed out,  first the pro Dommes, then eliminate the ones that say they are lifestyle but demand expensive gifts and that the sub is a successful professional  ( deep pockets)  Next eliminate the Dommes that only want female subs, next the ones that want to add to their collection of subs, weed out the ones that are way over weight I mean like 300 pounds, ( no offense intended, but their has to be some physical attraction), And finally, weed out those I don't fit in her choice of age range,  There is a total of maybe 12 listed here. And in my town or very close, there are only two left! Now what's the odds of either of them wanting me? And either one of them may have limits or wants from above but just did not say they want a rich guy or some other requirement they did not list.  lol
No Ma'am, we are still at a big disadvantage in finding a Domme     


While hopefully, everyone will end up with the person who is a perfect fit...  Perhaps you are 'over-weeding' and eliminating yours.

Could be that someone seeking a 'professional male' is not in search of deep pockets, but is just tired of getting the e-mails I get which state something like this" ' I have no job, and can re-locate immediately...  I am ready on your command to be a total slave to you and your home, please let Me re-locate to you and I will be yours'  Sounds like his landlord is beating down his door, he can't hold down a job and wants Me to support him .... how about a 'professional male' instead..  Also, Perhaps the woman who is not attractive to you in a generic profile description would stimulate you in ways you never knew.   Just a thought...




< Message edited by MistressLorelei -- 4/24/2006 11:18:48 AM >

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/24/2006 12:23:48 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressLorelei
tired of getting the e-mails I get which state something like this" ' I have no job, and can re-locate immediately...  I am ready on your command to be a total slave to you and your home, please let Me re-locate to you and I will be yours'  Sounds like his landlord is beating down his door, he can't hold down a job and wants Me to support him . 


My reply to this type of message is:
How soon are you available to meet at my local diner for coffee?

I've found that 10 times out of 10, they suddenly have a full schedule.

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/24/2006 2:24:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressLorelei

quote:

ORIGINAL: FLsubmalecd

MarinaBlack, I don't doubt one bit what you are saying but that works two ways.
I took my state for example. If I weed out,  first the pro Dommes, then eliminate the ones that say they are lifestyle but demand expensive gifts and that the sub is a successful professional  ( deep pockets)  Next eliminate the Dommes that only want female subs, next the ones that want to add to their collection of subs, weed out the ones that are way over weight I mean like 300 pounds, ( no offense intended, but their has to be some physical attraction), And finally, weed out those I don't fit in her choice of age range,  There is a total of maybe 12 listed here. And in my town or very close, there are only two left! Now what's the odds of either of them wanting me? And either one of them may have limits or wants from above but just did not say they want a rich guy or some other requirement they did not list.  lol
No Ma'am, we are still at a big disadvantage in finding a Domme     


While hopefully, everyone will end up with the person who is a perfect fit...  Perhaps you are 'over-weeding' and eliminating yours.

Could be that someone seeking a 'professional male' is not in search of deep pockets, but is just tired of getting the e-mails I get which state something like this" ' I have no job, and can re-locate immediately...  I am ready on your command to be a total slave to you and your home, please let Me re-locate to you and I will be yours'  Sounds like his landlord is beating down his door, he can't hold down a job and wants Me to support him .... how about a 'professional male' instead..  Also, Perhaps the woman who is not attractive to you in a generic profile description would stimulate you in ways you never knew.   Just a thought...





You are right Mistress Lorelei, that is a possibility. But last week I received an e-mail from a Domme here in Florida. If  you read all of her requirements to serve her, it was clear that her main interest was the expensive gifts she demanded.  And I mean even by brand names! So it was pretty clear to me that any guy with deep pockets could have her to "play" with. To me, she was not much different then a pro. Only difference is she did not ask for cash, just shoes, purses, and I think, jewelry. She stated she wanted an "upscale sub". But I do understand that there are some subs that may be looking for a Domme as a free ride and is willing to scrub her floor for a place to live and be fed. lol  Sad isn't it?
So it is a weeding out process on both sides of a good D/s relationship. Some of us are real and some of us are just wankers and players. That goes for some that put themselves out as Dommes as well as subs. BUt I do realize with You Dommes, the weeding out process can be exhausting since you do have that 1000 to 1 ration over us subs. One more reason that being a good Domme has got to be harder then being a sub. Much more work!         

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RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? - 4/24/2006 2:38:03 PM   
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I wouldn't get too bent out of shape about someone looking for a professional.   People tend to be more compatable if they have comparable education and similar emphasis on career. 

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