joether
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Joined: 7/24/2005 Status: offline
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Unbelievable... Except for DaddysInkedSlut, the rest of you need to get a life. Seriously! Lurch, relationships do not get screwed up just because of one person. That is something a Domme once told me about relationships in D/s. Both people, she said, contribute to the problems, and both contribute to the solutions. The problem she said, is people redirect their emotions to something else, without taking ownership of the crap on their front lawn. She was a wise Domme. Not my Domme, but one I enjoyed being around. Now, for you Lurch, going in to the dentist and your health being as it is, is not something to be at fault of. Facing a deep phobia head on, not because you want to, but, because you have to; is a feat of willpower. Not everyone can accomplish that, and most will make up excuses faster then a politician in scandal! Buying the game, when you werent suppose to, is your fault. THAT, you have to owe up to on your own. A wise Domme would understand that your morale broke under the pressure of your health and phobia. Shit happens, and Dommes, being female, often can lift and repair a spirit that's been thrashed on quite quickly. An unwise Domme, would think of petty rules and being selfish. That, is the Domme's mistake in the relationship. Bottom line is, you both owe each other a sincere apology. Be both a man and a gentleman, and offer it up first. Stop by her place, apologize sincerely and be honestly. Then wish her a nice day and leave. If she takes that moment, and steps forward to apologize, accept. Accept and move on in life. If she asks about the next dentist trip, talk about it. She may even, *GASP*, offer to go as a cheerleader and coach to help you get through a tough operation. Another Domme friend of mine, once went with me to the doctor regarding an injury I had substain and was worried about it. The whole time, she was *gasp*, a woman and friend. She put her hand on my side and gave me a hug while I listened to the doctor. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be, because, she was there. A D/s relationship, is just like a regular vanilla relationship. It will have its ups and downs, but if you can find the will to apologize to the other, and the heart to forgive, you'll overcome great obsticles in life. Things like that, build trust over time.
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