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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 6:55:11 AM

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A good slave would be working on my scarf........

just sayin..........

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 7:05:24 AM

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I'm setting the over/under at September 1st. I'm taking the under.

Amateur Analysis:

She doesn't know who or what she wants long term.
You're providing her a safe way to live out one particular fantasy.
Once she experiences most elements of that fantasy she'll become satiated.
She'll act out.
You'll break up.
She'll move on to the next fantasy with someone else.

Pretty sure that's the first time I've used satiated in a written sentence.

Wow. Telling people specifically what to do or what's going to happen in their lives based on a few sentences of background information is really fun and makes me feel really smart.

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 7:08:24 AM

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You look smart in your pretty lil drawers, Shore.

But I agree... teh telling folks based on a little info... yeah...

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 7:45:31 AM

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 8:04:02 AM

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I too want the under,

I don't anticipate much action on the over.

I foresee this line moving.

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 8:05:37 AM

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Well, the two of you both apparently want a parent/child-type relationship, and let's be honest, kids lie to their parents. And they get punished, which is probably part of your dynamic. So, punish her, take the cell phone away. Ground her for 2 weeks. Full-time parenting is a big responsibility. Tough love, Daddy, tough love.

Can I change my Answer to this one, It never occured to me that this could be something she was doing on purpose to engage in the kink.

Maybe she is wanting to be Grounded and OTK Spanked.

QSM

Or maybe she is 18 and he is 54. Which is hot......For him.

I think that she probably wasn't calling her boyfriend but was in contact with the Neptune Society for a cheap and easy wasy to dispose of the body when he experiences a major "grabber."

Kick her to the curb now or later, what really is the difference?

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 8:11:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

A good slave would be working on my scarf........

just sayin..........

LOL When did I say I was a good slave? In fact, I often tell him that I suck at being a slave. Just ask Alandra; she will back me up!

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 8:13:58 AM

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Gawd. Serious or joking answer. I will do both and see if he can figure out which is which.

#1 She just needs to learn the ways of your house. Be patient with her. I would imagine that making sure she has plenty of money to spend, in order to keep her mind on you and you alone, would be a good idea.. It may take months, but I am sure you can tame her.

#2 If you don't know the answer to your own question, you have no business trying to be a "daddy" to anyone.

gawd I cant type fer shit...

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 8:15:44 AM

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I place my empire of dirt on the under.

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 8:20:27 AM

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A few more weeks of laying someone young enough to be his granddaughter.

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Kick her to the curb now or later, what really is the difference?

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 8:24:27 AM

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gawd I love Johnny.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SmVAWKfJ4Go&feature=related

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 8:25:07 AM

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A few more weeks of laying someone young enough to be his granddaughter.

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Kick her to the curb now or later, what really is the difference?

Of course there is always that.

"and Daddy when we are done maybe we could watch that Jonas Brothers concert."

Just picked up two "new" Johnny Cash cd's yesterday.....American IV and San Quentin.....gotsta love J.C.

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 8:34:39 AM

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Wow 18, she really nearly is a little girl

So when you were originally talking to her, were you aware she had a boyfriend? If so, you both deceived him to get what you thought you both wanted. You were happy to be part of those lies. You lead from the front allowing her to lie to him. What do you expect?

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 9:03:18 AM

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A few more weeks of laying someone young enough to be his granddaughter.

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Kick her to the curb now or later, what really is the difference?

Of course there is always that.

"and Daddy when we are done maybe we could watch that Jonas Brothers concert."

Just picked up two "new" Johnny Cash cd's yesterday.....American IV and San Quentin.....gotsta love J.C.

JC OWNS "Hurt".....

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 9:49:58 AM

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Isolating her from her past will not make it go away or erase it. It takes a long time to get to know someone. How well acquainted you were before she relocated to you? I'm guessing not much. No man would ever attempt to isolate me from my friends or ex's with whom I am still friendly. I do not like jealous, insecure men.

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 10:05:40 AM

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And like so many, he doesn't enjoy the answers he is getting so he has disappeared. Perhaps they are away for the holiday weekend. Hell maybe he thought a trip to visit her family would be great and he is playing checkers on the front porch with all the old folks while she is off in the barn banging her ex.

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 10:50:19 AM

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And like so many, he doesn't enjoy the answers he is getting so he has disappeared. Perhaps they are away for the holiday weekend. Hell maybe he thought a trip to visit her family would be great and he is playing checkers on the front porch with all the old folks while she is off in the barn banging her ex.

Actually, I am still here. I expected to get responses and opinions I didn't like and some I did. That is one of the great things about this lifestyle; the diversity contained therein.

We have spent a lot of time talking with the goal of making this work. I have read every response and appreciate those who took the time to do so. Some have even been helpful.

Her ex is in another state. She is here with me. The only one banging her is also me, whether you like it or not.

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 11:13:57 AM

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There's something about this that I can't put My finger on, but I'm not getting a happily ever after vibe from it. I think it might come from the feeling that I'm not cool with anybody doing things behind My back. I would have had issues with that, especially if it was multiple times. (The original mentions calls and texts.) It's one thing to disobey Me. It's another thing to be sneaky about it.

I'm not going to second guess the rules of anyone's dynamic. If this were Me, I'd probably be instituting the closure letter with some stipulations. One I'd set the instruction that it be a 'this is it' opportunity. Let her know that when she writes it, this is the end of it. Make sure she gets it all out so there's no 'but I forgot to say this' stuff later. Two, I would want to see (not necessarily read) the finished product and ensure that it goes in the mail. Three, accounting for delivery times, there's no more contact after the letter is received. You don't have the right to control him, but you certainly do have the right to control her. I'd be saying right up front that if she goes behind your back after this process, it is grounds for release and removal from your household.

You can always set a time that you will permit contact again when it is more friendship based. A couple of months down the road, this shouldn't be an issue. However, no more behind the back stuff. If she wants to speak with him, she can ask your permission so you know what is going on.

I'm going to wish you luck on this. I have a feeling that you are going to need it.

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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 11:18:40 AM

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Why not just give her a caning or a spanking rather. That will teach her a lesson. If it was a male sub, a good hiding would be in order, maybe the rattan cane. After all Mistress should never be disobeyed. Mistress is boss
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RE: Am I Over-Reacting? - 7/3/2010 11:21:54 AM

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There has been no more contact between them since yesterday when she sent him a text message saying there would be no more. The letter idea is one I am still considering. From her standpoint, she says it would only be saying more of what she's already said to him. I have not decided if I am going to have her do the letter or not. At this point, there is no contact and she says she wants no more. She is also aware that if I give her another chance, it will be her last one.

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